Then She opened her mouth...

[JustAskJulie]

Have you ever encountered a situation where you thought a couple (or person) was hot and then they opened their mouth and you lost all interest?

Last week our bug girl showed up. This is only the second time she's been here and Pet & I both happened to be home because he was sick. When I told him she was coming I made a comment "if I remember right she's pretty cute". She showed up at the door and I remembered right and I could tell from the look on Pets face that he agreed. But, when she left he commented, "I changed my mind about her when she started talking".

In her case I think it was the redneck southern accent, which honestly didn't affect me as bad as it did him.

Then today I talked to a girl on the phone that I mentioned in my blog here. A girl that I thought was totally adorable from her pictures and profile... but after 5 minutes on the phone I was just waiting to get off the phone. In her case it was a matter of sounding immature and telling me things about them that would make really good Jerry Springer episodes.

I swear the only hot people that we have found and really enjoy once we get to know them are people from here... and why do you all live so damn far away?

[LFM2]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

I swear the only hot people that we have found and really enjoy once we get to know them are people from here... and why do you all live so damn far away?

I've thought the same thing many times! I mean I don't think I've ever met anybody IRL, but I know I'd like 'em if I did.

[BiloxiCouple]

Then she opened her mouth and half her teeth were missing...

[SCcpl40]

We prefer to meet a new couple for dinner and drinks. Over the course of a dinner conversation you can tell if you're physically attracted and most important, you'll be free to cover several topics during the conversation, which you can evaluate your mental attraction. If there's a win/win situation, it's time to move from social intercourse to a sexual intercourse. Check please!

[willyoats]

It would be hard to count all of the guys that my wife felt this way about while we were swinging regularly. I can only guess it happened at least 50 times. Some hunk that she was physically attracted to from afar would start to schmooze on her and immediately fall flat on his (verbal) ass. What a turnoff for her. She said it was too bad they ever had to opened their mouths instead of just fucking her.

I am less picky; most guys are. One of the most beautiful and seductive women I ever had the good fortune to make love to, and with whom I had a most wonderful experience, was clearly not very well educated, sophisticated, intelligent or poised. Pre-sex conversation was strained, to say the least. That didn't make any difference because she was a polite, decent, pleasant human being who loved sex and gave back as much as she accepted.

On the other hand, the very best swinging partner I ever had was a French Canadian whose English was fractured, at best. She spoke with her body, and we are still lovers to this day, 10 years later. (By the way, her English is getting better by the day.)

[havefuninsun]

We've had this happen too, but the worst case of it was in a vanilla setting. I used to work with this guy who was just GORGEOUS. There is no other way to describe him. He's walk in a room, and we'd all stop to take in his beauty.

Then he opened his mouth.

He had the personality of a turnip green. And we just rubbed each other the wrong way (dontcha just hate it when that happens? Rubbing the RIGHT way is so much more enjoyable, but I digress...)

Our dislike for each other was pretty evident. After a while, if he came into my office, I'd stop him before he opened his mouth and I'd say, "R, can't you just stand there and look good for a moment? Please don't ruin it and open your mouth" to which he probably told me to f-off or something (I don't really remember).

He was (is?) a pompus ass. What can you do? Too bad those good looks were wasted on him.

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by SCcpl40

We prefer to meet a new couple for dinner and drinks. Over the course of a dinner conversation you can tell if you're physically attracted and most important, you'll be free to cover several topics during the conversation, which you can evaluate your mental attraction. If there's a win/win situation, it's time to move from social intercourse to a sexual intercourse. Check please!

I just can't get past the idea of wasting an entire dinner on a couple or person. Meeting at a club is a much better option for us, if we meet there and don't click then at least we can move on and have others to talk to. The best I can see doing beyond that is meeting for drinks, it's much easier to end the meeting at any point doing drinks than if you meet for dinner... where you are stuck sitting through dinner no matter what.

[VegasLee]

We will only meet people at the club for the very reasons that Julie states.

We do not want to have to sit through a dinner with someone we may not want to spend time with. We also don't want to meet for drinks. We have found to many people are good at making plans on line then do not bother showing up. I think it has something to do with the fantasy becoming reality and they are not ready for that.

I am also finding over the years, the more time we spend talking to someone either on line or even in person at the club the less the chances are we are going to play with them.

If we meet and in a few minutes we head off to play it happens. If any of us keeps talking it seems to end up being nothing but talk for the night.

[SW_PA_Couple]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

Meeting at a club is a much better option for us, if we meet there and don't click then at least we can move on and have others to talk to.

Respectfully, meeting at a club has proven a poor option for us. The average club has amplified music that is so loud that we can see the other peoples' lips moving but their words are downed completely by the noise coming from the dance floor.

M

[havefuninsun]

Since we don't do the club thing (yet, anyway), meeting for drinks or coffee has worked for us ... sometimes it then progresses to dinner and dessert!! . The one couple I mentioned earlier was interesting; she was much more open and chatting on IM and emails than in person, and he was a blind date. So in our case, she just WOULDN'T open her mouth ...

[LOOKIN4FUN9773]

We do agree with you Julie,some people should just keep there mouth shut.We as well had some we thought about courting.then it happened she opened her mouth.She had one of those voices that was like chalk on a chalkboard,and then the laugh omg.It was one of those that would cause viagra to fail.

Also Julie what is wrong with the southern accent! The right girl and the right accent it can be very atractive.The accent form the carolinas is about the best.....AND AFTER ALL JULIE YALL DO LIVE IN ALABAMY LOL

[SCcpl40]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

I just can't get past the idea of wasting an entire dinner on a couple or person.

Sounds so cold when you put it like that.

We try to do the home work up front which hasn't lead to a boring dinner. We like to have a night out, and we have to eat. Meeting one on one without the distraction of music and other couples coming up wouldn't be fair to the other couple.

But everyone has their preference, and variety is the spice of life. It works for us and we'll stick to it.

[Ed & Bunny]

We have had the same thing happen. Had great conversation online and then when we met, the guy smiled and Bunny lost all sexual intrest. Thats why we like to see pictures of the guy smiling.

As for my side, I have always been the type who would prefer a gal with great personality and so so looks to a hottie who is turnip. So it is very easy to have a gal turn me off by opening her mouth.

[cuzzeyesaidso]

Yes we have had one of these experiences. She's almost 40 and very quick to remind you how hard she works to maintain her nice body and the number of younger men she attracts with it. We still played with her a couple times (I did mention her nice body, right?)

[sweet_tna]

In her case I think it was the [redneck southern accent, which honestly didn't affect me as bad as it did him.

Ya'll don't like a Southern accent? How disappointin' . . .

Lucky for me, I can do others, too (NY, English, French, Russian, etc.)

=)