The leading up to and setting the mood

Tia Vampire · 02-09-2008, 01:29 AM

For those of you that take playmates home with you, Do you like setting the mood before getting started? or Do you just go back to your place with some drinks and sit in front of the tube waiting for one thing to lead to another?

If we were into bringing couples to our house for play, there would have to be some kind of mood setting. Such as drinks, dim lights, toys probably already sitting out in the bedroom, incense burning, porn on the tube, and a clear understanding of what everyone would like to achieve. Besides just a nut ofcourse.

How do the rest of you like to get things started?

**BiloxiCouple** · 02-09-2008, 04:58 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Tia Vampire

How do the rest of you like to get things started?

By getting naked

sc4play · 02-09-2008, 06:35 AM

We like candel's,a few drink's,low light's,and of course naked bodie's

sweet_tna · 02-09-2008, 09:23 AM

We've done the music, candles, and a sexy board game to to get things started, and that worked just fine--especially if the other couple are newbies.

But we've tried Biloxi's method to, and it works just as well!

=)

**good times** · 02-09-2008, 05:28 PM

By the time we get back to our house we are already into the mood. So it is pretty much walk in and get naked usually for us.

ukcouplewebcam · 02-13-2008, 04:56 AM

We had a couple round to our house last saturday for our first full swap.
We cleaned the house from head to toe and then ourselves!
Lots of candles, some with light perfume, in both the bedroom and downstairs. Some light music in the background when they arrived, a few drinks and chat and then a game called nooki which is originally for just two but easily adaptable. This got us excited so upstairs for fun!

EggPlantKing · 02-13-2008, 05:33 AM

I say that physical attraction is 70% of sex. So to get started you have to be turned on. So let nature and pheromoans take there course. I mean the lubricant of sex is relaxation. You can't really force sex to happen by leaveing out the toys and turning down the lights. That can be a real problem so simply let nature take its course.

Ellyanne77 · 02-13-2008, 07:17 AM

We actually don't play at home but I agree with what BiloxiCouple said we get to the hotel and strip that pretty much does it.

tittietwister · 02-16-2008, 04:25 PM

How to get things started is a problem we have had. Last time we, who tend towards shyness, were with another shy couple and nobody got it started. We had a very nice vertical time which was still fun but ....

The next time we have decided that if the meeting has clear expectation of playing (which it did) we are not waiting for the other couple to make a move. If we sense a stalemate developing we will just make a move or ask outright if they want to play.

This is probably obvious to more experienced folks but we are still learning.

Greg & Sheryl · 02-18-2008, 12:07 PM

It depend on the circumstances prior to the arrival of our guests. If we've already been out to dinner or dancing with them, then the clothes are coming off as soon as we get home. However, if the night starts out at our place, then we do our best to set the mood with drinks, snacks, music and fun conversation. We have a lot of candles at home, but we've never tried using them as playtime mood-setters. Perhaps we'll give that a try the next time we host.

Tia Vampire · 02-18-2008, 10:19 PM

I guess that is the way I shouls have wrote it up G&S. I was talking more of how do you set the mood when a couple is coming over to your place. Thanks for clearing up my thought.

MRnMSbhaven · 02-19-2008, 11:45 AM

We don't play at home but at the hotel... nekkid Twister is usually a hit!

Ms B

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02-09-2008, 01:29 AM	#1 (permalink)
Tia Vampire Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 772 Location: Florida Status: couples SLS Name:tiavampire Blog Entries: 1	The leading up to and setting the mood For those of you that take playmates home with you, Do you like setting the mood before getting started? or Do you just go back to your place with some drinks and sit in front of the tube waiting for one thing to lead to another? If we were into bringing couples to our house for play, there would have to be some kind of mood setting. Such as drinks, dim lights, toys probably already sitting out in the bedroom, incense burning, porn on the tube, and a clear understanding of what everyone would like to achieve. Besides just a nut ofcourse. How do the rest of you like to get things started?

02-09-2008, 06:35 AM	#3 (permalink)
sc4play Here to Stay Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 50 Location: myrtle beach s.c. Status: couple SLS Name:mb4play	Re: The leading up to and setting the mood We like candel's,a few drink's,low light's,and of course naked bodie's

02-09-2008, 09:23 AM	#4 (permalink)
sweet_tna Being good is overrated Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 2,934 Location: Poconos, PA Status: The boss of Mr. Sweet SLS Name:Sweet_tna	Re: The leading up to and setting the mood We've done the music, candles, and a sexy board game to to get things started, and that worked just fine--especially if the other couple are newbies. But we've tried Biloxi's method to, and it works just as well! =) __________________ I'd rather go to hell for doing something I enjoyed than die wondering what it's like.

02-09-2008, 05:28 PM	#5 (permalink)
good times Mod Squad Member Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 6,420 Location: Reno, Nevada Status: Married to Mrs Good Times SLS Name:randp	Re: The leading up to and setting the mood By the time we get back to our house we are already into the mood. So it is pretty much walk in and get naked usually for us. __________________ R (He is R, she is P)

02-13-2008, 04:56 AM	#6 (permalink)
ukcouplewebcam Registered Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 6 Location: United Kingdom Status: Couple	Re: The leading up to and setting the mood We had a couple round to our house last saturday for our first full swap. We cleaned the house from head to toe and then ourselves! Lots of candles, some with light perfume, in both the bedroom and downstairs. Some light music in the background when they arrived, a few drinks and chat and then a game called nooki which is originally for just two but easily adaptable. This got us excited so upstairs for fun! Last edited by ukcouplewebcam : 02-13-2008 at 04:57 AM. Reason: spelling

02-13-2008, 05:33 AM	#7 (permalink)
EggPlantKing Here to Stay Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 40 Location: Union Oregon	Re: The leading up to and setting the mood I say that physical attraction is 70% of sex. So to get started you have to be turned on. So let nature and pheromoans take there course. I mean the lubricant of sex is relaxation. You can't really force sex to happen by leaveing out the toys and turning down the lights. That can be a real problem so simply let nature take its course.

02-13-2008, 07:17 AM	#8 (permalink)
Ellyanne77 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2008 Posts: 137 Location: TN Status: Couple SLS Name:ellyanne77 Blog Entries: 3	Re: The leading up to and setting the mood We actually don't play at home but I agree with what BiloxiCouple said we get to the hotel and strip that pretty much does it.

02-16-2008, 04:25 PM	#9 (permalink)
tittietwister Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 143 Location: Not at Swingers Board Status: Couple	Re: The leading up to and setting the mood How to get things started is a problem we have had. Last time we, who tend towards shyness, were with another shy couple and nobody got it started. We had a very nice vertical time which was still fun but .... The next time we have decided that if the meeting has clear expectation of playing (which it did) we are not waiting for the other couple to make a move. If we sense a stalemate developing we will just make a move or ask outright if they want to play. This is probably obvious to more experienced folks but we are still learning.

02-18-2008, 12:07 PM	#10 (permalink)
Greg & Sheryl Blogging Swingers Join Date: Nov 2001 Posts: 722 Location: Denver, CO Status: Couple	Re: The leading up to and setting the mood It depend on the circumstances prior to the arrival of our guests. If we've already been out to dinner or dancing with them, then the clothes are coming off as soon as we get home. However, if the night starts out at our place, then we do our best to set the mood with drinks, snacks, music and fun conversation. We have a lot of candles at home, but we've never tried using them as playtime mood-setters. Perhaps we'll give that a try the next time we host. __________________ Greg & Sheryl

02-18-2008, 10:19 PM	#11 (permalink)
Tia Vampire Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 772 Location: Florida Status: couples SLS Name:tiavampire Blog Entries: 1	Re: The leading up to and setting the mood I guess that is the way I shouls have wrote it up G&S. I was talking more of how do you set the mood when a couple is coming over to your place. Thanks for clearing up my thought.

02-19-2008, 11:45 AM	#12 (permalink)
MRnMSbhaven Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Apr 2007 Posts: 161 Location: Wisconsin Status: Couple SLS Name:mrnmsbhaven	Re: The leading up to and setting the mood We don't play at home but at the hotel... nekkid Twister is usually a hit! Ms B __________________ I'm not as easy as you think I am but not as difficult as you're making me out to be.

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