"Best used before NOV 05" - Have you gone beyond your swinging "freshness" date?

[iapr]

The day to start anything that you are interested in is today. You can never win playing the coulda shoulda woulda game. There was a perfectly good reason you didn't start swinging earlier than you did. I don't know what that reason is of course but I don't doubt for a second that it was a perfectly good reason.

You also started when you did for a perfectly good reason. swinging is about looking forward to the next night out and getting all giddy and excited and playing all the what-ifs through your head. Then when the big day comes it is about the fun and excitement of the moment. Then when that day is past it is about the turbo charge that comes from feeling alive and energized. At no point is swinging about looking and back and playing coulda shoulda woulda.

Now as far as expiration date I'm afraid we didn't come with one of those from the manufacturer at all. We came from the factory with a need to be loved and respected and to be touched and give and receive warmth and affection. We were also designed to be sexual from birth to death and while that process evolves and changes throughout our life time it never expires.

We may go to our grave wrinkled and flabby and our parts may not work like they did in our prime but we still crave the feeling of flesh on flesh and to feel another warm body against us.

To answer your questions - no I have not thought about a freshness date nor will I. If someone else thinks I am no longer fresh and doesn't want me that is their perogative, I'll just move on to the next.

My criteria to swing is that my partner and I want to and that we each have a breath of life left in us. If we decide we no longer with to and we want to guit we will quit at that time and not before.

[BiloxiCouple]

Sometimes the "freshness" does leave us.

You may have to take a break from swinging to re-new the freshness.

Some of the breaks are forced on you, some you may have to impose on yourself.

Then you can have the different levels of taking a break. The past couple of years for us have been really hard personally (wife in college, Katrina, health). So we don't get out as often, but I still volunteer here. I also used to volunteer to help the local swing club here (that's alot of commitment). When things settle down and it appears to be happening by summer, we will get out and participate more. So things will be fresh again for us.

[Tybee Swing]

Originally Posted by iapr

You also started when you did for a perfectly good reason. swinging is about looking forward to the next night out and getting all giddy and excited and playing all the what-ifs through your head. Then when the big day comes it is about the fun and excitement of the moment. Then when that day is past it is about the turbo charge that comes from feeling alive and energized.

This is great! I agree. This feeling of feeling alive and energized isn't about a number (age), and it doesn't have to be about how long a person's been swinging. As long as a couple still feels this way, as long as swinging enhances their lives, and as long as there are willing playmates, there is no reason to expire.

Originally Posted by BiloxiCouple

Sometimes the "freshness" does leave us.
You may have to take a break from swinging to re-new the freshness.

I totally agree with this. Stuff happens, and breaks are needed at times. I think that the best analogy for this is that rather than like a sack of meal with an expiration date stamped on it, we are rechargable batteries. As long as we can recharge, the life of the battery is indefinite.

[Lance_Aural]

Originally Posted by Greg & Sheryl

Our profile on SLS has apparently gone stale.

....swingers over 60 appear to be rare.

At 59 1/2 it worries me too that the there are few swingers advertising in their 60's & 70's. I wonder if maybe many of them are in comfortable relationships with couples already and just don't want to deal with the "drama" of meeting new couples. Of course, there are performance and desire issues that come with advancing age too. Health could also play a part. I know too much of my time & money go to consultations and treatments with the local medical establishment. I hope to continue enjoying intimacy with my wife and our friends and the the new friends we haven't met yet for years to come.