Interracial Sex, taboo or natural.

[SCcpl40]

The one thing we enjoy about the lifestyle is the sexual freedom and variety it offers. To be with other couples from different backgrounds, and ages gives us a broad spectrum of the human race. We have been lucky enough to meet and become friends with just about every ethnic group and the rewards of knowing them intimately have given us a better understanding of ourselves.


What's odd, in different parts of this country being with certain ethnic groups seems to be taboo. What's your take?

[BCinIN]

Most couples we've met aren't into it, but for some reason they often don't specifically mention it in their profiles (in person they usually do). We're not into it either.

[sweet_tna]

I haven't run into anyone specifically stating that they weren't looking for that, but we're not an interracial couple, so I guess there's not need for it to come up. For me, that wouldn't matter, it would be the individuals involved.

=)

[VegasLee]

People are people to us.

We have noticed traveling in different parts of the country some people will not party with us because we party with people of other races.

That is their choice, we all make them and we are happy with our choices.

You don't tend to find a problem here in Vegas though. More the live and let live attitude out here.

[good times]

If it wasn't that it is brought up here every once in a while I would have never given it much thought. For me, your either hot or not, what color or race you are doesn't make any difference. I think we are lucky in that we live in a part of the country where we don't see much racial prejudice, at least in swinging.

[havefuninsun]

Originally Posted by good times

If it wasn't that it is brought up here every once in a while I would have never given it much thought. For me, your either hot or not, what color or race you are doesn't make any difference. I think we are lucky in that we live in a part of the country where we don't see much racial prejudice, at least in swinging.

I think it's hot. I think that's what makes the variety so much fun. Maybe our part of the country in the vanilla world may be more prejudice, but even in those circles I've noticed a lot more interracial couples.

With the folks that we hang out with, I can't imagine it being an issue.

[tropicalmix]

As part of an interracial couple, I definitely think we're eliminated from a lot of couples Some state if openly, but with most others it is much more subtle. We've talked to a lot of couples who've briefly expressed great interest in meeting us only to "fall off the map" after a few enthusiatic exchanges. It's our thought that our first contact has usually been with the male half and when the female half learns the lady is black, she says no thanks. Conversely, we think in interracial couples where the male half is black, the women may be more curious and it might be the husbands who would have more issues with it. Just our thoughts.

[VanHlebar]

I don't think too much about it. It all comes down to if I am attracted to the person or not. If they happen to be black, Asian, Indian or white it really doesn't matter.

if I get along with them and I find them attractive then it is all good as far as I am concerned.

[cplnuswing]

As long as the attraction is there to start with, doesn't matter to us.

[Ed & Bunny]

Originally Posted by good times

If it wasn't that it is brought up here every once in a while I would have never given it much thought. For me, your either hot or not, what color or race you are doesn't make any difference.

I completely agree. Personaly I find the difference a turn on. But ultimately, if I am attracted, it doesnt matter your race.

[crazycatz]

To be honest, discriminating sexual partners on the basis of ethnicity or 'race' is in fact racism. And to consider it a taboo is also racism. I know those are loaded words to throw out there...and i'm not accusing anyone of being racist...just that those sentiments are racist.

People are people....not 'races.' and who you are sexually attracted to should have no relation to 'race'.
Likewise, i think the other side of the coin is people who treat ethnicity as a fetish.

[havefuninsun]

Originally Posted by crazycatz

To be honest, discriminating sexual partners on the basis of ethnicity or 'race' is in fact racism. And to consider it a taboo is also racism. I know those are loaded words to throw out there...and i'm not accusing anyone of being racist...just that those sentiments are racist.

People are people....not 'races.' and who you are sexually attracted to should have no relation to 'race'.
Likewise, i think the other side of the coin is people who treat ethnicity as a fetish.

I totally disagree. According to dictionary.com, racism is:

1. a belief or doctrine that inherent differences among the various human races determine cultural or individual achievement, usually involving the idea that one's own race is superior and has the right to rule others.
2. a policy, system of government, etc., based upon or fostering such a doctrine; discrimination.
3. hatred or intolerance of another race or other races.

I think if someone doesn't want to play with someone of a different race or nationality is a CHOICE. Personally, there are some races I'm just not inherently attracted do. Does that make me a racist? Because I'm not attracted to you, does that mean I think that "... [there are] inherent differences among the various human races determine cultural or individual achievement, usually involving the idea that one's own race is superior and has the right to rule others"? Absolutely not.

Is ATTRACTION for or not a particular race of people racism? Clearly not.

I don't think you can make your blanket statement.

[Pepper & Drew]

Um....it's pretty natural for me .

Sure, we run into people who don't want to play interracially from time to time. They usually act as if we'll be crushed, but I typically find it to be pretty dang amusing. In fact, a few weeks ago, a guy from a couple who blocked all interracial couples, including us, chatted me up at a social. I took great delight in walking away.

I don't consider it racist if you have certain preferences. We have ours too. And more than likely, our preferences would not include those that wouldn't prefer us. It typically evens itself out.

Pepper

[WesternSwing]

Originally Posted by crazycatz

To be honest, discriminating sexual partners on the basis of ethnicity or 'race' is in fact racism. And to consider it a taboo is also racism. I know those are loaded words to throw out there...and i'm not accusing anyone of being racist...just that those sentiments are racist.

I have to wholehearted disagree. There are those that exclude others because of racism, but there are also those that just aren't attracted to certain "looks" about people. For instance, I'm not particularily attracted to Asian women. I just don't see the fascination some of my friends have for them. Their "look" really doesn't do much for me. Now Latinas? Watch-out! I am very attracted to Latinas for some reason or another. I can't tell you exactly why, but I am. Also, I love brunettes more than blondes, and redheads more than both.

Also, I'm Caucasian and there are women in the lifestyle that are married to black men that have no interest in me. White men are just not their thing. And, as I mentioned about Asian women and me, I can understand this. Am I offended by it because a white woman doesn't want me, a white man? No. It's their preference of what they consider attractive.

People are people....not 'races.' and who you are sexually attracted to should have no relation to 'race'.

I agree here, but unfortunately racism is alive and well all over the world. I personally am attracted to a person, not any particular feature about them. For instance, although I'm not attracted to Asian women on the whole, I have come across a few that have just had me going gaga.

Likewise, i think the other side of the coin is people who treat ethnicity as a fetish.

This is true, especially the "black man" fetish. This has been discussed before, and although I see many black men playing it up in the Lifestyle, most seem to be offended at being treated like a novelty or a conquest of another thing to check-off on a list of sexual things to do. I know I'd be offended.

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by good times

If it wasn't that it is brought up here every once in a while I would have never given it much thought. For me, your either hot or not, what color or race you are doesn't make any difference. I think we are lucky in that we live in a part of the country where we don't see much racial prejudice, at least in swinging.

We feel the same way, and oddly we were just talking about this the other night. The downside is we live in the south so obviously people can be very racist here and it comes from both sides. We were looking through profiles together last week and there were quite a few that we had to pass over both from white and black couples who declared that they only swing within their own race... and while that wouldn't preclude us with a white couple... just as racist people may say they won't swing with someone who swings with a different race... I won't swing with someone who is openly racist to the point of automatically precluding a race based on color alone.