For the non-ploy crowd, # of play partners

[cocpl2007]

We are discovering that it is somewhat unique to be seeking only one play couple. How many of our fellow Board-itte couples limit their play to just one other couple?

We have encountered several couples who are very receptive to adding another couple to their circle of playmates. Some even who have been and still are very active (# of play partners) expressing their desire to jump off the revolving door and find "one select couple." We are just curious to learn from others how unique only having one couple as playmates is within this community.

Thank you for expressing your style.

[sweet_tna]

Sorry, no one regular play couple here. We like a little variety.

=)

[Swingercast]

We too like variety.

Our schedule would hinder us from playing with just one couple. One night we would be ready for play and they wouldn't or vice versa.

John

[MRnMSbhaven]

No regular couple for us. Variety is good.

Ms. B

[good times]

For us variety is the whole point of swinging.

We have also found that the couples we met who were looking for only one couple to play with, always turned out to have too many issues for us. Which inevitably led to drama and us moving on.

[socolais]

We enjoy playing with the same couples multiple times and we also like variety. We haven't settled on a circle of play partners yet - maybe it could happen.

[fun4Ds]

it seems we have played allot the past year with one particular couple. its just because our schedules have conveniently been on the same track though. our single female playmate actually comes over more than anyone. (a very, very close friend). i see nothing wrong with narrowing down your playmates...

cocpl2007, i do see your point, its not that we had intentions of seeking one couple.or the few singles we meet with, sometimes its hard with our regular lives just getting out as much as we would like.there is a certain convenience of knowing someone or a particular couple, that turns out great every time.

but just like here lately our hormones get revved and we just want to drop everything and head to a club.hopefully for a little variety.

[brew82]

We originally started out looking for variety but then met a couple where everyone clicked and, since then, we've only played with them.

[Pepper & Drew]

Personally, if Drew and I aren't exclusive with each other, I see little point in being exclusive with one other couple. Now, there are times when we've only played with one other couple for a period of time, but not because we wanted to be exclusive. It was just the way it worked out. We probably would decline to purposely "go steady".

Pepper

[cplnuswing]

For us, variety. Not to say that it has to be one time and never again, but we aren't looking for the perfect couple to be exclusive with.

[TheDeal]

Guess I will go against the grain here and say; we only play with one other couple, but yes, it's a poly thing. There are many reasons some type of exclusive play would appeal to some such as safety and no condoms (birth control aside). It would be hard to do that however, and it not turn into a poly thing. Our view after going to a bunch of clubs and house parties and spending many hours chatting and doing the forum thing on various sites; is the ability to be completely open, free from any emotional and physical fears, and the ever present "ick-factor" is much better (for us) than variety. I guess the old adage; quality verses quantity.

You will not find many that want that. I think most people that swing are very secure with themselves and have no problem being open sexually with anyone. If you have the where with all to enjoy sex with anyone you want, and the ick-factor is not a factor, why wouldn't you?

That is not the case for us, but we still want to have hot sex in a group situation and get our freak on. We are just the freaks of the swing world.

[BiloxiCouple]

Variety is the key for us.

If the future ever holds a poly, that would be great too.

[TNT]

Originally Posted by Pepper & Drew

Personally, if Drew and I aren't exclusive with each other, I see little point in being exclusive with one other couple. Now, there are times when we've only played with one other couple for a period of time, but not because we wanted to be exclusive. It was just the way it worked out. We probably would decline to purposely "go steady".

Pepper

We did have one couple who asked us to be exclusive...nipped that one in the bud quickly...we had been playing with them for a while on a very regular basis, about every other weekend. The wife of the couple said that she had told her husband that she didn't want to play with anyone else but us to which I told her if that's what they wanted fine but we were going to continue to play with others so they needed to be aware of that fact.


Teresa

[Ed & Bunny]

We have already had one couple try to get us exclusive, but as we are new to the lifestyle we dont want to limit our options before we even figure out all thats available to us in swinging.

We did discuss this though the other day. We wouldnt mind a more excluse poly type situation if the right couple came along. But finding that couple may take a long time. So we will havce to keep swinging till they come along.

[WesternSwing]

We don't limit ourselves to just one couple or person, even in the past poly-situations we've been in. That understanding has been there from the get-go, too. We've actually lost one play couple from our dance card because the wife has become exclusive with the husband of another couple they've been playing with, but her husband doesn't want to be exclusive with them. So he's now locked into one woman because his wife is insistent on being with one man. It's a shame, but it's how they roll.