Swinging-Two Questions

[ratimadan]

We have two questions that are related, but one question is the obverse of the other. Perhaps these two questions have already been addressed on this Board. At the risk of being redundant we would like to get a response or direction to previous threads from everyone, and, in particular from the more seasoned amongst you. So, here goes:

1. What is your general approach to getting a couple to swing with you?Assume that you have met a couple you like in all respects, and, you would like to get the couple to swing with you. You do not now whether or not they are swingers, but would like to get them to join the lifestyle. In particular, you are interested in playing with this couple with the intention of doing a full swap of partners for a variety of sexual activities. Your desire is to play and copulate with the other's partner for vaginal penetration and full intercourse.

We ask since we have often met a couple that we would love to play with, with the intention of swapping mates with the couple for varied sexual activities (intercourse with other's partner, of course, included, if possible) but not sure about the best way to proceed. How do you experienced swingers approach a couple to find out if they would swing and preferably, get them to swing with you?

2. How or what made you enter or get interested in the swinging lifestyle.What was your first swinging experience that included a full swap of mates, that included intercourse with the other's partner.

As for us, we heard and read a lot (perhaps more than we should have) about the swinging lifestyle and how a large number of couples (married or otherwise) are playing with other couples and also swapping mates for a variety of sexual activities, one on one or in a group setting, penetration and intercourse very definitely part of the game.

It took us a long time to decide that both of us definitely wanted to be part of the lifestyle. So we met many couples, some straight, some swingers and it took quite a while to find the "right couple". The "right couple" eventually came along after what seems like an eon. This couple told us that they had been swinging and swapping mates with other couples for quite a few years in a variety of settings, one-on-one, groups, threesome, etc. and invited us to play with them. We agreed to give their proposition a try without preconditions. What did we have to lose? We figured it would be a soft swinging experience.

As it turned out, that was one of the best decisions we made as a couple to give the lifestyle a real-life honest try. We played one-on-one with each other's mate until we could no longer suppress the desire to swap mates for intercourse. We fucked all night (or what seems like all night) and have had no regrets. Our thanks and gratitude to this one couple who really helped us enter the swinging lifestyle. We have had other wonderful sexual experiences with quite a few more couples since then.

There must be other members of this Board that may want to write about how they became swingers. It would be very interesting to hear the variety of experiences and approaches to swinging.

R&M

[good times]

Originally Posted by ratimadan

1. What is your general approach to getting a couple to swing with you?Assume that you have met a couple you like in all respects, and, you would like to get the couple to swing with you. You do not now whether or not they are swingers, but would like to get them to join the lifestyle. In particular, you are interested in playing with this couple with the intention of doing a full swap of partners for a variety of sexual activities. Your desire is to play and copulate with the other's partner for vaginal penetration and full intercourse.

We ask since we have often met a couple that we would love to play with, with the intention of swapping mates with the couple for varied sexual activities (intercourse with other's partner, of course, included, if possible) but not sure about the best way to proceed. How do you experienced swingers approach a couple to find out if they would swing and preferably, get them to swing with you?

If they are swingers we simply ask them if they would like to play with us. If they are not swingers we don't. We have had bad experiences trying to get friends to swing, and have come to the conclusion that we will make friends with swingers, but we will never try to make swingers out of our friends. It turns out that their are more swingers available that we would like to play with than we have time for, so their is no reason to waste our time with folks who aren't swingers already.

[BiloxiCouple]

Why chase non-swingers when there are plenty of swingers out there?

It's already hard enough for swingers to hook up without the possiblity of ruining a friendship or wasting alot of time. But, if it works go for it I guess.

[SAMnTINA]

1) We have been swinging a little more than 8 years, and we find most of our partners at swing conventions, on line (SLS, SDC, Swappernet) or through friends in the lifestyle. This is not to say we have not converted a few vanillas. Lets see there was the fire captain that we met on the street in New Orleans he was on duty and Terri flashed him and told him we were visiting with the swingers convention if he wanted to come by the hotel later and play. He said “I have never done that before.” But he did show up at our hotel later and left the crew and truck parked down stairs while he went one round on his own with the Mrs. And one round MFM. We dought he was telling the wife though. We have also run in to friends we did not know were swingers at house parties and clubs. Was one occasion where we were at a party having sex and there were several couples all trading and after everyone had everyone and we were all dressed we looked a a couple we just did and said hay we know you . They said “darn right we just had sex with each others spouse” and we said no we mean before that aren’t you band parents at ----- High School. Turns out our kids were friends and we had been to many band events but just never knew.

As for saying to friends hay we are swingers and we would love to do you well we have never tried that. We have found that our best lifestyle friendships come after sex not before and we hate to mess us any friendships or have word get out that we attack friends (We don’t mind word getting out that we are swingers) Just don’t wan anyone afraid we are spending all our time thinking about getting them naked.

2) We got started after being married for many years and being best friends we talked about group sex in bed, well Steve started out telling Terri it would be hot to see her fucking someone else and even hotter to share her with someone else, while we were having sex boy did it turn Terri on and we had a lot of wild hot sex pretending before we decided to give it a real go. We talked a lot about it naked and dressed for a few months before deciding to give it a try. Then we met a couple for dinner we found on line and took them home after dinner, decided to try some hot tubing and next thing we knew he had Terri in our bed going at it when the wife and Steve joined them in bed Terri never looked up from going at it and Steve did not know whether watch or act but that was soon solved and the 4 of us went two round before they went home. Then we both talked and screwed the night away. For there we met another couple and time two was so much better than time one as we were no longer nervous and we both new that it was not going to be a problem for ether of us afterward. For us it just keeps getting better. We have now had the Orgy and it was all we thought it would be, we have also done MFM and FMF (note women are made for 2 on one and going all night) us guys need a recharge now and then.

Hope this is helpful it was sure fun walking down memory lane.