How does "just watching" make you feel?

[socolais]

I'm curious about the thrill folks get from watching other people play. I gave it a try at a recent party but couldn't resist the invitation to join the activities and make it a 3some. I think there was something about them knowing I was there that squelched the voyeuristic thrill I've felt on previous observations when I think my presence was undetected.

How does "just watching" make you feel?

[dayhiker]

I don't think I have an special feelings when watching, its more
the common feelings of seeing adn thinking about sex that I enjoy.

dayhiker

[Lovethenights]

Your reaction is interesting, since it appears what turns you on about the voyeuristic situation is more related to the "sneaking" and "getting away with it" than to the actual sexuality unfolding in front of you. The reason that is interesting is because for others, it is actually knowing that the persons involved in the sexual activity know they are there and watching that is the turn on... Like they say, "It's all good!" I'm for whatever turns you on and makes you (and them) happy and more sexually pleased.

[bethncole]

Watching is probably my biggest "thing" in swinging. I do want to join but usually after the guy is done with my wife. I do enjoy MFM and FMF 3somes and full swap but nothing like sloppy seconds for me. That's my #1 choice.

[socolais]

Thanks for the comments

It's starting to sound like I'm a little more pervy than I think I really am. I don't peek through windows or sneak around the neighborhood at night, but if I happen to notice some interesting activity, I'll enjoy quietly (respectfully) watching - yeah, it happens every now and then. And yeah, there's a little bit of a thrill - I guess some if it is from seeing something that wasn't intended for me to observe.

I have watched my wife in action and that's a big time WOW!! I get a strong urge to get some of that. And she looks so good with rosey cheeks.

I was alone at the party (wife was out of town - and yeah, I had permission). I guess I was figuring surround sound, live porn with all the smells and the party atmosphere would be more of a turn on for me. I didn't give it a fair chance either, I was invited to join very quickly.

We're new to swinging and still doing the Whitman Sampler thing to discover our interests. It appears that playing alone and just watching doesn't give me the thrill I was hoping for (it's still better than a sharp poke in the eye).

[havefuninsun]

Although watching Mr. Fun with other women has been a turn on, I find watching for long periods of time sorta boring. Like you, I wanted to join in and wanted to know "what about me?" -- selfish? absolutely. I won't even argue otherwise.

I want him to enjoy himself, and have no problem with it. Do I need a front row seat? Not so much.

I thoroughly enjoy three-somes, but I reckon the biggest issue is when someone is left watching and not participating (if there is no bi-play).

Did I mention, though, I love it all? I do!!

[JustAskJulie]

There's definately something more erotic about the "getting away with it" aspect... both from a voyeuristic and exhibitionist aspect. When we were out this weekend I mentioned to Pet how much I really enjoyed one particular club visit we made because I was able to go down on him right in the middle of the club and it was like no big deal. People noticed, and I'm sure some watched. But if I was to do that in the "social" area at our regular club we'd probably end up with a crowd around us (which would be a turn off for me).

[discoandvyper]

I've watched Disco several times with other women. I've never seen her do anything with a guy... maybe that's why I want to see her with another guy, it's a new adventure. Guys have given her oral with me watching but she's never done anything to them.

I'm happy to watch her in any encounter that unfolds before us. It's a team thing for us... it turns me on just knowing she's getting turned on. However that happens for us is good with me.

[jnbsmokin]

Originally Posted by socolais

Thanks for the comments

It's starting to sound like I'm a little more pervy than I think I really am. I don't peek through windows or sneak around the neighborhood at night, but if I happen to notice some interesting activity, I'll enjoy quietly (respectfully) watching - yeah, it happens every now and then. And yeah, there's a little bit of a thrill - I guess some if it is from seeing something that wasn't intended for me to observe.

I have watched my wife in action and that's a big time WOW!! I get a strong urge to get some of that. And she looks so good with rosey cheeks.

I was alone at the party (wife was out of town - and yeah, I had permission). I guess I was figuring surround sound, live porn with all the smells and the party atmosphere would be more of a turn on for me. I didn't give it a fair chance either, I was invited to join very quickly.

We're new to swinging and still doing the Whitman Sampler thing to discover our interests. It appears that playing alone and just watching doesn't give me the thrill I was hoping for (it's still better than a sharp poke in the eye).

I actually dreamed a fantasy about catching J with another woman. I watched (secretly, behind a door) and ended up having to satisfy myself... (during the dream & once I awoke... shhh) lol
It's the not getting caught that turned me on in the dream. That and knowing exactly what the lady was getting...

But in reality, I want to be involved, and maybe you are the same way?

[fun4Ds]

Depending on the situation, watching others can be very erotic. I can't say that I have had the (sneaky peeper factor) except for the time I caught my wife masturbating in the bath tub. I came home early one day and as I walked through the hallway I hear her in the shower. I thought I would just let her know I was home early. As I opened the door I heard her talking softly and noticed WOOOW.. she's playing with herself.. I did walk a way for a sec. But I couldn't resist, the door was still open and I'm I guy,ya know . The way the mirror was angled I could see everything. It was the first time I had ever seen her, or anyone masturbate. Well, I better just stop with that... I cant type with a hard on.

The thing is, this was no acting, she didn't know I was there. Its wasn't about the porno visualization of pussy shots or close ups. It was all about, imagining.. what she was fantasizing about. Seeing her in total ecstasy all the way through the build up, seeing her play with her nipples and touching herself. What she was saying in a whisper, and then... the orgasm I didnt want to startel her or anything like that, so I just made noise and came in, got in the shower with a very hard dick and told her later .

With all other situations I have seen some that are very erotic and others when perhaps just a little to much performance,well.. kinda killed the show.

The ones I find to be the most exciting are when you see someone having sex and they are really focused on themselves and fully enjoying the sex. Instead of trying to put on the show.

I saw one woman being pleased by a few playmates and to be honest, the sounds she was making just drove me up the freaking wall. No shit, If any one would of had one of those ball gags, I would have said " Hey these are cool, you want to try this ? " I swear, thinking of the sounds she was making, I just don't care to ever hear that again.

Ill go from one extreme to the other here... My favorite, of all times watching another couple. We were in a group, with several couples playing around us. On my side was a beautiful woman with long blond hair. Yes it was Barby and Ken, right beside us. The smell was unbelievable, Everything was perfect and the room was in full view from where I was at. Then, a couple straight across from us really captivated me. She was on top of him, and they switched positions. He was on top of her and she was leaning back on a couch.. Then she began talking to him in a very sexual way. I was just in awe with amazement the way she was focused on him. No one in the room mattered to her, she was that focused into.. just him. She said the most sexual things in a way that I cant really explain. From giving him guidance, how she felt as the passion grew. At this point my wife was sucking me and looked up at me. I nodded for her to look behind her and we just stopped and watched. It was amazing the way they didn't have a care in the world about what anyone around them was doing, or that we even existed.

Everyone around us began watching one by one, until no one was having sex, everyone was just watching them. They were just so... passionate. She talked in a way that she would bring him up, and then slow him down, she would convey what she wanted, where she was at in her mind.. The orgasm was explosive. We all just stood there in amazement.. My only thoughts were to applaud them... They deserved it.

There are times also watching others that it just has a porno view to it. Sometimes it seems that they are trying to look good, at what they are doing. They are not so much into their partner sexually as much as giving a show.... and thats o.k. by me, its just different, I guess.. I prefer erotic sexual passion if I'm watching. I like to see the real thing.

Then when I think about the times I have watched Mrs.fun. I think of many things. Its different watching my partner all together. There are times she has been with men that its erotic, she stays focused on her partner. Its porno with the feeling of, (I know how that feels- With- now I know what it looks like) She is very, very passionate with sex. When she is with another woman its different altogether. If the women are playing solo and I'm just about the house. Its hard not to get right up in it with them... Its strange, watching the two women that even without any contact, just watching.. My dick gets hard.. Just seeing that. I mean, it stays hard from the sight.It wont go down. Just an observation.. I have driven to the convenience store and back, hard on all the way, just from seeing them.. and thinking.

This is strange maybe, but watching my wife. There have been times where I make a comment about how hot she looked and she has said "well I wanted to give you a good show" Now see, thats a stumper for me.. I've known her over 30 years and I just don't get that.. I think, what part was acting or the show. Personally it doesn't matter either way, she is good at it.

How does just watching make me feel ? I don't really feel like voyeurism is my thing. I don't care to invade someones privacy and peek. Although, the one time was really cool when Mrs fun was in the shower. I cant just sit there and watch for very long without some kind of involvement. I just like to pay attention sometimes as to whats going on around me. If its passionate, its even better than just a show.

[couplers]

Petra here. Watching hubby has turned out for me to be the most sexually thrilling part of our crazy marriage. It started out just poly on my end, with me having jealousy hangup. I realized how stupid and unfair that was, now watching (and thinking about) him with another woman is my biggest turn-on.

[jon&roberta]

When my ex and I were together, I enjoyed laying on the bed and watching another man make love to her. It was very erotic to see her enjoying the act of intercourse and even more so giving a blow job.

I have many memories - and wish my present wife would "play"

[sweet_tna]

I'm really not much of a voyeur at all. I do enjoy watching Mr. Sweet when he's really having fun with a play partner ('cause I know how good what he's doing feels). But I'm not really content to just sit and watch him, or anyone else for that matter. I'd much rather be DOING than watching.

=)

[ahs1961]

WE have gotten into the LS relatively late in life and my wife has two younger male lovers. No one could ever imagine our secret of an older conservative looking lady having two lovers who romance, date, and share her with me to give me my fantasy of watching her being overwhelmingly satisfied. Just to see the looks on her face and the groaning sounds of orgasm with them drives me over the brink of a cum spasm. She says that being liberated sexually and the thought of two surragate husbands gives her the freedom to meld and melt her soul into both of them when they orgasm with each other. It is a beautiful sight to watch her with her new found sexuality with her lovers. They have the freedom to pleasure her anytime ony of the three of them have the urge. Woodie

[WesternSwing]

I like watching others have sex, but I absolutely love to watch Mrs. WS have sex with someone else (especially when she gives a blowjob). In fact sometimes I feel I can get too carried away watching Mrs. WS and not pay enough attention to my partner, which makes separate room play better in these instances.

Mr. WS