"Hung" and stuff

[swyngtyme]

In browsing through people's profiles and ads on various sites, of course I've seen (as I'm sure you have) many of them looking to add a man who is hung like a donkey, however they choose to word it.

How realistic is this? Are there really that many huge men out there, that these couples are finding what they're looking for, or is that just the wish, and they end up with a lot of average guys while they're waiting?

And if they do find the massive schlong they say they're after, how do the husbands tend to feel about this? I can easily see him being on-board at the beginning, wanting to help her fulfill her fantasy, but then winding up feeling pretty inadequate afterward.

What are the *real* dynamics of this kind of search?

[prettylady]

Hung like a donkey?? sounds painful.
I think people get caught up in the excitment of the idea of getting something "out of the ordinary" within the lifestyle. What they want, I think, is something very new, very different, and the excitment of possibly having that porn movie style romp in the hay.
A huge penis compared to magic hands and tongue... I will take the magic anyday. After all my "happy place" is not lodged somewhere between my belly button and my throat.
Ya, so perhaps rather then the donkey fetish it may just be the thrill of the hunt.
I know there are many women who love the BIG package, but it seems to me that there are more who prefere the talents of the tongue. facelick
Your friend,
Prettylady

[sexcupid]

It is not a requirement that you be hung to your knees to play, but I like to know your're in there (yeah, I'm waiting for the 'maybe your're too loose' arguement to pop in, but I did have an experience like that once...years before i had kids or lots of different partners ).

So for the most part, as long as you know what you are doing, c'mon over and play.

However, if I were to find a massive dick or two along the swinging road...I would not complain, it would be something novel/different and I would enjoy it. My SO doesn't have a problem with seeing a guy with a big dick playing with me. But OTOH, that is not what we are exclusively looking for.

If you are a man, and your wife or girlfriend only wants a guy with 10 inches or bigger for playtime and you measure in at 6 or so...I can see how that might give a guy a feeling of inadequacy.

On the flip side of that, Jeff pleases me very much, I make sure that he knows (even when we aren't in the middle of having sex), and so if I told him that the next time out I would love to find a 'hung' guy...I don't think he would have a problem accomodating that request.

HTH,

Maria

[iapr]

I've seen a few profiles like that but not a lot. I suppose there are some people out there or that that is an actual fantasy that they are actively seeking to fulfill but I imagine the vast majority really couldn't care less as long as someone has a normal dick that works.

My guess is that a few people have that fantasy and once they have had a big dick fulfill it a time or two they end up like the rest of us and are more interested in finding people they have some actual connection and chemistry with rather than just looking for a dick.

One thing that has always struck me odd is that some people seem to have no problem stating that a male must be hung and noone really seems to be bothered by it but if someone had that females must have big boobs or a 24" waistline or some other measurement specific requirement people would get upset by it.

[swyngtyme]

Exactly what I was just thinking, except not even that people would be upset by it--but I just haven't seen it at all. I've seen TONS of couples looking for a HUNG stud to fill her up, but I've never yet seen one single ad looking for a woman with very large breasts, much less specifying a size (which I also see lots of).

[WesternSwing]

I do see the occasional profile dictating (no pun intended) the dick size they want to play with. But it really is just occasionally. I see many more that don't.

What is the dynamics? Some women are size queens. Some just want the novelty of a huge cock or it's the husband's fantasy to see his wife 'filled-up'.

Is the sex better? Some might say yes. In my experience the majority of women say as long as it's a functioning, average-size penis than it is the man that makes the sex good, not his equipment.

Mrs. WS falls in this category. I'm squarely in the 'average' range for both length and girth. Her ex-husband was 'less than average' size. A guy she was in a long-term relationship with before me was 'very well' endowed, a full 10" and proportionally thick. She had great sex with both of them, several of her ex-boyfriends and of course me. Mix that with swinging for almost four years now and she's pretty much run the gamut of equipment size.

She's also the first to jump into an argument about size and say for her it's the guy that makes the difference. She's commented before about her ex that was hung that it felt good while they were doing it, but he'd leave her bruised internally and sore so they couldn't do it again for days. She calls them 'cervix-bangers'. Swinging we had one such guy that bruised her cervix enough that we couldn't have sex together for several days afterward. That sucked.

On the flip side the one guy that she fell for and we were involved in a poly relationship for a period with was a bit smaller than me. She had great sex with him too. So in the end cock-size had very little to the overall attraction she feels toward a man.

It seems that on the whole single men are the ones advertising their equipment size and seem to have the majority of cock-shots in their profiles. For this reason we specify in our profile that if you are a single man contacting us "please have face and body pics because if there is chemistry it won't matter what your cock size is."

On a side note here, the husband of one of the couples in the swinging community here is well known for being very well endowed. Mrs. has alway said "If swinging was all about finding one bigger than hubby than why are they swinging? Because only about 2% of the men out there are bigger than him."

Mr. WS

[rachan]

One of my wife's playmates is hung. Long and thick. He's also our threesome friend. She wasn't necessarily looking for a huge cock it just turned out that way. I'm not "hung" and it's never been a real issue with her how big it is.

[new2wild]

The wife is not a size nut but, She has a friend that is. We have had a few 3somes with her friend and after the first one her friend made the comment that she has had bigger. Now I know I am not "hung", I guess I am about average in the 5" to 6" range. but I am comfortable enough with my size that I commonly refer to it as the 3" thriller. But that Comment just bugged the crap out of me. During our next 3some I did all I could to knock the bottom out of her. Well she was sour for 3 days after that.

As for Ms New2wild if we had a 3some with a guy that had a 10" cock ahd she really enjoyed it, Yes it would bother me. Mostly becouse she always says she can barley take me.

[GoNatural]

According to a website named afraidtoask dot com, only 9.6% of men are 7.25" or longer, measured on the top side! That means that 90.4% of men are smaller than this.

I know that you're going to get a ton of politically correct answers for this, but I wish you the best.

Yes, I do think that many couples with ads "seeking well endowed male" do end up meeting up with such a male. Not all of these couples are lucky, but some of them are. Also, some of these endowed guys will be skilled, and others will not. It's the thrill leading up to it all that gives such excitement to the fantasy. Then, some do meet with a quality guy, and find satisfaction in the reality of the fantasy.

Some guys post fake or retouched pictures, so this must be taken into consideration when seeing an abundance of big cock pics.

I also would like to point out that some of these couples possibly bite off more than they could chew. Yes, some women have deeper vaginas, but the majority have average vaginas. That's why the word "average" is used. If anyone thinks all vaginas can stretch to 10", they're being fooled by sexual myths.

Concerning vaginas, the exact average "maximum aroused stretched depth" is 12.5 cm (5"). This does not account for the depth of the vulva (lips and opening) which averages another 2.5 cm (1"). Ultimately, the exact average vagina will hide 6" of a hard inflexible toy. Sometimes more penis goes in because a penis is more flexible than rigid toys. Also, guys tend to not realize how much length is lost in the distance between the two bodies, and that is why they do not bottom out with an average 6" penis.

As for that "what's better argument", all women prefer different amounts of friction, and have different size vaginas to receive that friction with. That is why so many different preferences exist. Don't listen to one "opinion" and believe that it includes "all".

As for the reasoning behind the fantasy, or the ads, some women really do enjoy the sensation of being "completely filled", within reason. Also, some are curious and have yet to experience being filled by a large penis. Last, swinging is about variety, and some women like to get a taste of something different sometimes, which may very well be a big penis. Also, like myself, some men REALLY enjoy watching their female partner with an endowed male that is long lasting and skilled. There are many factors, and many reasons as to why some couples desire well endowed males.

One simply needs to look at the word "well endowed". Endowed means "to have", eg. to be endowed with a sword. The adjective "well" has naturally been added to the term over the years, and "well" stands for good, or something positive. The author Gary Griffin spoke about the term "well endowed" in his book Penis Enlargement Methods, Facts and Phallacy.

[Cerberus]

My wife likes size. We had a young man come over for a 3some that measured a whopping 11 inches and as thick as I have ever seen. My wife took it all but it took her a while.. she said once she got used to it, it was really very much a treat. But nothing she could take on a every day basis. I am 7-8 inchs and this guy was 11. yes we did measure together it was kinda funny. I took 2 days before i could feel her cervix again.. No kidding. I kinda feel sorry for guys with a dick that big. he said he NEVER can thrust or move the way he would like and my wife was the first he was able to go all the way in on and she is only 5'7" and 140lbs.

Post coitus discussion was that she could feel ALL of it and YES it did feel good especially when it was putting pressure on her cervix.. She got way wet and really did enjoy her self. He wasnt much of a comer and made very little mess.

ON the other hand one of our threesome buds has a penis of about 5 inchs fully erect but the guy cums in gallons and he refracts within minutes or can cum stay semi hard and in a minute be at full attention again.

Its kind of a thrill ride. depends on your mind set.
I got off watching her take 11 inches of penis that was hot.
I got off watching our other bud squirt load upon load all over her. WOW



Dr David Mconachy states
The ladies vagina depth can vary dramatically, however the average depth is around 6inches however the largest recorded depth of a vagina was recorded in London, 1916 and the depth recorded was 17.5inches. This is very deep.
Hope this helps, Dr D Mconachy, gynecologist, UK



Vaginas can stretch. They have to for sex and child birth. NO VAGINA will only stretch to 5 inchs max. I can stick a 9 inch dildo in my lover gently and her vagina will comply. It is naturally elastic.
If you want i can post links of girls getting fisted...

tha vagina will stretch and wont break. Otherwise mothers would be walking around with 6inch holes after child birth..ummm that doesnt happen

[GoNatural]

Cerberus, you know what? I really enjoyed reading about the sexual enjoyment that you and your wife had when she experienced the very very well endowed guy. Scenarios like that make me extremely horny. I kind of envy couples that enjoy such situations.

Now, I certainly don't believe this statement that you've made. Without question the exact "average" vagina has a maximum aroused stretched depth of 5". If you do not believe me, refer the studies done by the noted gynecologist Robert Latou Dickinson, the researchers Masters and Johnson, or Mr. Alfred Kinsey. Again, this measurement is taken from the remnants of the hymen, to the apex of the vagina (the deepest point, which is the posterior fornix). Counting the vulva, this max average depth would be 6". This was measured with a rigid inflexible item, not a flexible penis. Of the women I've experimented with, about 6.5" is the max that they can take of a hard plastic vibrator.

I'm not saying that your wife can't take a 9" dildo in completely, or that other women can't. She's just deeper than average, as other women are also. That's why the word average is used. There is an average range also, and that is 5" - 7" including the vulva.

Originally Posted by Cerberus

Vaginas can stretch. They have to for sex and child birth. NO VAGINA will only stretch to 5 inchs max. I can stick a 9 inch dildo in my lover gently and her vagina will comply. It is naturally elastic.
If you want i can post links of girls getting fisted...

Oh, about fisting, I'm a major fan of it. I've actually experienced being the fistor with a young woman in my past. Nevertheless, most women only take the fist in up the the wrist bones, and that is with the fingers curled up. Just as in childbirth, the vagina stretches open in width, and not so much in depth.

By the way, according to Grey's anatomy, the average depth of the relaxed non-aroused vagina is 9 cm in parous women (women that have given birth).

Banging against the cervix can be avoided to some extent while still enjoying deep penetration with a long penis. The penis will have to be angled towards the small of the back, and the head should follow more along the rear wall of the vagina, as oposed the front wall. This should allow the head of the long penis to press into the posterior fornix and pass up the cervix by an inch or two. Yes, a guy can still hump too quickly or too for forcefully and bump the cervix hard while attempting this, but if he is careful and gradually pics up the pace, he may be able to get away with only rubbing by the cervix, and pressing into the deep spot. Pressure in the deep spot behind the cervix is pleasureable to some women, but not all of them. This will be an individual thing from woman to woman. When the penis presses into the posterior fornix, it gives the woman the sensation of being completely penetrated, and it indirectly stimulates the cervix, as oposed to banging into it. On a men's forum, we call this the cul-de-sac, or deep spot. When deep spot stimulation gets combined with pressure on the g-spot, and indirect clitoral stimulation, such as when a thick penis tugs on the inner lips and pushes on the g-spot, a major orgasm can occur in some women. It is certainly a major blended orgasm.

Also, some women have a uterus that is flipped backwards in their pelvis (a retroverted uterus), and these women typically feel pain from deep penetration.

[ShellyM]

I'm an average size girl.....6-8 and I'm good to go. I don't want a small man because I can't feel it too well, but I'm not looking to screw a horse, either lol.
Shell

[prettylady]

You guys keep talking about how a woman can stretch and retract as if it was like switching a knob.
I had to be cut to make myself big enough to give birth to both my kids. Then I did the lady's work out all the time to tighten back up again to where I was happy with how tight I was.
An overly large penis does hurt me. You can quote doctors all you want, when it comes right down to it, they don't know shit about what I feel.

Your friend,
Prettylady

[djjwp]

You know, sex is way too fun to get this technical! LOL

I only know this... I' 6 and thick, wife likes it, when I place her large dildo in her, it only goes in 7" so I guess we were made for each other. She does not like it pushed hard and does not want a huge dick in her, that's my fantasy, not hers. I like her stretched so I last longer.

[Cerberus]

hey its fun and we are all adjust one way or another...the point is fun