Do you ever fulfill all of your fantasies?

[Tia Vampire]

We thought that when you get all of your fantisies fulfilled that you stop swinging. We've read in some profiles, that there is not much that they have not done and that they have fulfilled all of their fantisies. So our question is, when do you stop swinging?

[Chicup]

When its no longer fun.

We never approached it as a fantasy check list. Sure they were in there, but it wasn't a prime motivator.

[BiloxiCouple]

When you fulfill all your fantasies do you stop living? Swinging isn't the only places I have fantasies. My wife says I have fantasies all the time!!! Is she trying to tell me something?

[StacyCat]

Nope, because I can always develop new fantasies. Besides, when will my celebrity orgy fantasy ever come true? :-P

[Michfunlovers]

Not really, and we're rather conservative. But if we did, we'd have fun helping other married couples fulfill there fantasies!

[Tybee Swing]

Fantasies are very fluid things. Some are here today, gone tomorrow. Some evolve into other fantasies. Does anyone ever fullfill all of their fantasies?

Originally Posted by Tia Vampire

We thought that when you get all of your fantisies fulfilled that you stop swinging.

How come you thought that? Why stop, if you're still having fun?

If a couple has been together for years (including monogamous couples), and has had every kind of sex they can think of, they're not going to stop having sex just because they've already done it all. Hopefully, they'll keep having sex with each other right up until someone's in the grave.

Swinging is the same - as long as it still works for them and they're having fun, there's no need to stop.

[DBL D]

My fantasies will NEVER be fulfilled...I have a very active imagination and I'm always coming up with new ones! :surrender

Seriously, a couple things...

You may never satisfy your fantasies because your SO isn't willing to do them or let someone else help you with them.

Swinging can help with your fantasies, if your SO is in favor allowing you to fulfill them. Conversly, see above.

Swinging offers so much more than the fulfillment of fantasies yet at the same time is part of the fantasy. I think people stop swinging for other reasons than because all of their fantasies have been fulfilled.

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[SouthBond]

We get such a high from the experience that we would rather not stop. Swinging to us is the ultimate lustful experience. Of course if it dominates every phase of your life, it can become harmful to your overall quality of life. Even if you stop, you can still replay the events in your mind. And that isn't bad.

[Tia Vampire]

For myself (the female half) it's like a part of your life that you would like to try, an exploration if you will. Just like a task that has to be done. After you have finished that task, then there is'nt anything else to do, so you put that mildstone behind you, saying that you have done it, or been there, done that, and then move on to something new.
I thought it would be the same with fantasies. After we have done our MFM and FMF then our fantasies have been completed. So why keep on?
We have met alot of people that I would like to keep in contact with, but I'm afraid that they won't invite us to party with them after we become vanilla again. Is that maybe a reason people stay in it longer than what they had planned to?

[havefuninsun]

I have to agree with everyone else here. Part of our motivation was to help fulfill fantasies, some was to experience variety, some was to make new friends ... but mostly, it's to have fun. When swinging is no longer fun, then we won't do it anymore.

Tia -- are you guys having fun? I have developed friendships while meeting couples to pay with. Some of these folks we've played with, some we haven't. I think they're super people, and if we weren't swinging I can't imagine that we wouldn't communicate. So I don't think folks would swing just to keep those friendships. That would feel a lot like manipulation to me.

[Tia Vampire]

Yes, we are still having fun with it. I have already had my fantasy fulfilled and we are still waiting on his to be. We were wondering that after we had them filled, would we stay in the life-style. The whole reason we got into it was to make our fantasies a reality. Just something we were wondering about. Who knows, we may just stay in it for the fun. Just watch, party, and hang out with other like minded-people.

[BCinIN]

Once our fantasies are fulfilled, we'll stop swinging probably. I mean, we could fulfill them again, but we wouldn't need to really. Every time we talk about it we come to the conclusion that in contrast to what we do for each other, no one else can possibly measure up, which makes swinging beyond the point of fulfilling the fantasies pretty pointless for us. We will, however, still enjoy the atmosphere of the club (it is a really fun place to hang out regardless of whether or not we play with anyone), and who knows what will happen?

[good times]

Initially, a big part of the allure of swinging was to satisfy unfulfilled fantasies. Unfortunately, what we found out real quick, was that most of the time, the reality doesn't live up to the fantasy, so were that the only reason we were swinging we would have quit some time ago. Luckily, it turns out that what makes it fun for us is the variety. Their is no doubt that if we want to have good sex and get all of our buttons pushed in the right order, we would just have sex with each other and pass on the swinging, but the cool thing is that we have discovered is that often times new play partners are able to push buttons we didn't even know we had. So while I wouldn't say we are still swinging to fulfill unrealized fantasies, I would say that we are having enough fun at it that we have no plans to quit.

[Chicup]

Fantasy's are great but in a lot of ways they are completely different from what motivates me (and the wife) to swing.

Let me use a non-swinging example to help with my point since I'm bored today and feel the need to post

I really like fishing. I've caught a lot of trophy fish over the years. I don't stop fishing because I've already got 'the big one'. I'll fish even when I know the waters have no chance at all of having a trophy fish, because I just like to fish.

Now lets take that to swinging.

I like to have sex.......(you can fill in the rest).

[lovinher]

Do you ever fulfill all of your fantasies?

I certainly hope not and if it ever happens just shoot me and bury me under a tree somewhere.