Just One Question...............

[Menage_a_Trois]

On a recent car trip Mr. Menage and I were talking and it has lead to me posting this thread.............

As a swinger if you were with a potential play partner and you were allowed only one (1) question to determine if you felt that they would be a fun play partner what would that one (1) question be?

The obvious assumation is that looks, sexual attraction, etc. were all in place for them to be on your "doable" list.......so again you only get the one (1) question to determine if they would be a "FUN" play partner - what would it be?

[DBL D]

"Do you like my wife?"...of course that would likely be a given too, I suppose.

Probably something along the lines of what they do or don't like to do or see done. Maybe ask how open minded they are?

Male D

[Spoomonkey]

Great question!

I think my question would be, "are you into me?"

I know that sounds a bit bland, but really, that has always been the toughest thing for me to figure out. If a playmate is into you - it can make all the difference in the world. And if they aren't you can tell in the worst way.

Knowing the honest answer to that question frees you up to flirt more comfortably and be yourself. Being unsure about that question and I am reserved. I want to play with someone who wants to play with me. Those are the best experiences. But damn my social awkwardness if I never seem to pick this up easily!

Spoomonkey

[sexyshelby]

I just asked my boyfriend and he said "spit or swallow?" He was kidding...I think

That's an interesting question. how do you determine if you want to play with someone based on just one question? I'd be inclined to ask something along the lines of what Spoo said. If the other person is not interested, then it doesn't matter what clever question I ask.

I can't wait to see the other responses.

~SS

[curiousswingers]

How many rules do you have? or What are your rules? becasue the attraction is already there so now I want to know how much fun your going to be I don't like to be bogged down with a million rules. NO fun!

[lovinher]

Because we are looking for couples right now I'd have to put a spin on Spoo's question and ask "Are you guys into us?" It would be an awkward question I think, but it sure would cut through all the BS trying to figure it out on my own. Being a rookie, I'm kind of clueless when it comes to that.

[Tia Vampire]

We Have fantasies that we would like to fulfill and we are sure that the couple that we get with have fantasies that they want to fulfill themselves. So our question would be, are they willing to let two stranger into their freaky little world to make thier fantasies come true without holding back?

[DBL D]

I thought that attraction by both was already a given, not just whether you may be attracted to them. Maybe the OP can clear that up. Otherwise wouldn't everyone would have the same question?

Thank God for the art of communication.

If that is the case, then I'll stick with the idea of finding out what they like to do.

Male D

[socolais]

A very interesting proposition that quickly gets deeper than it might first appear. The objectives of the question are to demonstrate the potential for my capability to deliver a fun time and invite them to respond similarly. Therefore, perhaps the best question to pose to the potential playmate might be something like, "What would be your one question to a potential playmate?"

Recursive logic can get nasty at times, but it sure has its fun moments...

[Menage_a_Trois]

Ok - my original intention was that this be a fun and light hearted - how would you type question...........something for some fun reading - not anything so serious as to bring in reverse psychology, etc. and as for the issues of only looking for couples, etc. this was purely a hypothetical situation.

For example when I posed the question to Mr. Ménage his response was “spit or swallow”. I came back to him with so you will only have “FUN” with a woman who will give you a blow job? His response was no but if a woman tells him spit for instance then that tells him she is a little squeamish and would not make the “FUNEST” of play partners as he would be constantly wondering what else she is squeamish about……

Another response he had was………”Which would you rather do – give or receive?” – what if they said – receive!!!! Duh……….here again my response back was – well does that really tell you anything other than they are very selfish?..........lol

It just made for a very fun and interesting conversation so we thought we would bring it to everyone here – keep in mind the attraction is there and the interest is there – you just get one question to determine if THEY would be “FUN” - Hopefully this help……

The Other Mrs. Ménage

[Menage_a_Trois]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

Knowing the honest answer to that question frees you up to flirt more comfortably and be yourself. Being unsure about that question and I am reserved. I want to play with someone who wants to play with me. Those are the best experiences. But damn my social awkwardness if I never seem to pick this up easily!

Spoomonkey

I'm 100% with you on this Spoo!!!!! This is my biggest challenge because I HATE to feel like I'm making a fool out of myself for nothing and then ending up all embarrassed by it!

The Other Mrs. Ménage

[TNT]

One question......


Which is more important to you...the journey or the destination?


Teresa

[socolais]

LOL!!! Can I get a "do over" on that???

Since the complexities of "a real fun time" involve more than just any interaction between the folks involved, a good question might be, "Do you think our spouses are making a fortuitous connection as we appear to have?"

[BradAndJanet]

"What... is the air-speed velocity of an unladen swallow? "

Seriously, someone who gets that, I probably would find fun in bed as well.

-B

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by BradAndJanet

"What... is the air-speed velocity of an unladen swallow? "

Seriously, someone who gets that, I probably would find fun in bed as well.

I get it... But I don't think you'd enjoy me sexually

Spoomonkey