Married white female with black boyfriend.

[mfmswing]

I am a married white female who has been dating a black man for four months now. Our relationship is purely sexual and my husband knows about the whole thing and thinks of it as a turn on. My boyfriend joins my husband and I for a threesome once or twice per month, but for the most part I spend time with him alone. My husband loves for me to bring him home the evidence and listen to my account of what happened when I was out. I was just wondering if there are any other couples out there who have similar arraignments within their relationships. If there are, I would love to talk about our fun.

[mfmyeahbaby]

Hello, we are constructed the same Married white female with black swing partner. I see where you coming from. I am the male half, my wife and I primarily play as a couple and usually mfm. we both prefer mfm because we truly love what is there for both of us. I just love her pleasure and she loves to get them. we treat our play experience as normal as possible, respecting all rules and really going for the gusto. we have played where she has been with him alone, mainly from my incouraging but not at all like she doesn't want to. for her the ability comes from knowing I am totally turned on and we are using it possitively withing our sex lifes, and she also has the comfort of knowing that she can't do anything wrong. Not just that but we also know that our male partner will never do anything to ruin the trust and respect that is there. The rule is pretty much if it happens just know that she isn't being disrespectful and pretty feel safe in indulging atleast as much as she is. That kinda makes his position easier. He doesn't have to worry about something being wrong, he is only fucking as hard or like she wants to. he also fully understands that from my stand point I trusts them both and know that nothing would go wrong. with that being said. yes she can play by herself (with this person only) and chooses not to and I don't push it. let me ask you, what was it that got you started in mfm leading into mf play with your play partner and is he your steady play partner?

[mfmswing]

Yes he is my steady partner, we call him my boyfriend. We got started in mfm play a bunch of years ago at a party that turned into a swing party by accident. My husband and I were just dating and it ended up with one of my male friends joining us for mfm fun. The whole experience turned us both on so much that we started to do it a couple times a week. I met me current boyfriend two years ago and I see him every fri night and sometimes he comes over for mfm with me and hubby. I like this arraignment better than having sex with many men, (not that I don’t do that every now and then) we let my boyfriend cum in me as we know he is std free. This makes the whole thing much more hot for me as well as hubby.

[daisy girl]

You call him your boyfriend...I am wondering if there are emotions involved in your arrangement. WHat I mean is...are you poly?

[mfmswing]

It’s not that we are poly, he’s my longtime regular playmate. We just use the term “boyfriend” to denote that status in our relationship. That’s not to say that I don’t have some type of feelings for this other man, but when it comes down to it, I only love my husband.

[Merric]

Originally Posted by mfmswing

It’s not that we are poly, he’s my longtime regular playmate. We just use the term “boyfriend” to denote that status in our relationship. That’s not to say that I don’t have some type of feelings for this other man, but when it comes down to it, I only love my husband.

So tomorrow if your husband asked you to stop seeing this other guy you’d do it?


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[Mr. HW Sharona]

Sharona had a steady Black boyfriend for about a year (6 months of it he was deployed though.)

We called him her boyfriend and he thought of himself the same way, from what he was telling us. The "L" word was even used between the two of them.

We used the word 'boyfriend' because there was an agreed upon agreement that is was an exclusive arrangement. He didn't play with others, and neither did Sharona (other than me )

Well towards the end of the relationship we became suspicious that he was with others while telling her/us there was no one else.

After a little poking around on Ad sites we found his profile with several 'verifications' from other women stating what a good time they had with him, etc... As well as verifications from him on other women's profiles, all while we were suppose to be 'exclusive'.

Needless to say, it didn't end well. But Sharona had some Awesome sex with him and we had many, many incredible MFMs when things were going good. But we weren't going to be lied to or manipulated.

A steady boyfriend is not something we'll likely do again, because when it ended it hurt. But you never really know. One thing we've learned in our travels is never say never.

(Of course this story has nothing to do with the fact he was black, but the thread title led me to post our story, because at a time in our life Sharona was a Married white female with a black boyfriend.)

[spectraschain]

So tomorrow if your husband asked you to stop seeing this other guy you’d do it?

Dunno 'bout mfmswing, but in our case, as far as we've come, Spec would need a better reason than "Gee, hon, I'm starting to feel a little insecure".
Hopefully, you've come to grips with these sort of issues long before the need would arise to confront them.
Comments such as the quote above nearly always originate from people unfamiliar with MFM, and what it entails...

[HotMoCpl]

There's the problem with finding a "single" guy. I think it would be safer with a couple. Just figure, a single guy needs to get laid a little more often then "once in a while". :surrender

[Mr. HW Sharona]

Originally Posted by HotMoCpl

There's the problem with finding a "single" guy. I think it would be safer with a couple. Just figure, a single guy needs to get laid a little more often then "once in a while". :surrender

In our case they were having sex together 4- 5 days a week, sometimes more than once a day.

[Merric]

Originally Posted by mfmswing

I am a married white female who has been dating a black man for four months now. Our relationship is purely sexual and my husband knows about the whole thing and thinks of it as a turn on. My boyfriend joins my husband and I for a threesome once or twice per month, but for the most part I spend time with him alone. My husband loves for me to bring him home the evidence and listen to my account of what happened when I was out. I was just wondering if there are any other couples out there who have similar arraignments within their relationships. If there are, I would love to talk about our fun.

Actually spectraschain that’s very presumptuous of you because I’m very well aware of what MFM entails and enjoy it a lot. But mfmswing’s relationship far exceeds just a man and his SO getting together on occasion with another guy for a session of fun. Then too since the question I posted was directed at mfmswing and not you anyway I find your opinion superficial and superfluous While to mfmswing’s post it had little to do with MFM anyway and as evidenced by the above quote more to do with the wife’s outside “boy friend” relationship.” And that’s the part I was putting into question was if her husband did grow unhappy with her many times away from him and he requested she quit seeing the “boyfriend” whether she would or not. So no I don't actually see anything at all wrong with that question. After all in any swinger relationship isn't it the primary one that must come first or did this change somewhere along the way to take a backseat to the secondary one?

[joaninla]

While I have never had a boy-friend as such, over the years my husband has sometimes encouraged me to get together [one on one], with a friend we have enjoyed threesomes with. And yes, my husband does want a complete narative describing everything that occurred. It's actually been kind of fun (for all three of us!) the few times it's happened.

[j_oneill67]

My first post on this board

This is our "preferred" way of swinging. We've tried couples, various combinations of partners, but what we enjoy most is for her to date while I wait. Her latest boyfriend happens to be black, but that's just by chance - she doesn't specifically seek out black guys. There are sites specifically for this style of swinging. If anybody wants to know they can drop me a PM.

Jim

[sereneiders]

I believe the OP sort of arrangement it's pretty close, if not, to the "cuckoldry" lifestyle. I mean, they play solo, that about bringing home the "proof", calling him his boyfriend (even when it doesn't seems to be a "poly" sort of relationship).

The key point here would be, there exist some degree of humilliation for your hubby in this arrangement (this may not be explicit but something you guess)?

[Merric]

I definitely have to agree a hundred percent with your observations on this sereneiders. Certainly one of the reasons I asked my so bluntly put original question on this thread.