Open Minded

[28volts]

Ok...I have been looking at ads and noticed the word open minded in different situations.
I have seen it used with BI-couples and can understand that one.
I have seen it used with interracial couples and understand that one.

The one I have a problem with is, the other couples that say it. I read their profile and try to detemine what they are saying. Most of the time I'm stumped .

Does it mean kinky,bondage,water sports or what?
Please give me your insight on this word and what it means to you guys? :surrender

I do not want to be caught with my pants down and say....what are you doing back there?

Mr S

[tribbles]

Ask them.

I think the words get used to mean different things to different people.

S

[Chicup]

On some profiles I think its code for a bi male.

Whenever I see 'he's very open minded' I can't think what else it WOULD be.

After all whats more open minded than swinging?

[prettylady]

Definatly ask them
I liked watersports until I became part of the lifestyle and realized my idea of water sports was very differnt then idea of water sports is within the lifesyle. Imagine the problems that would have come up if that one wasn't claified.
Your friend,
Prettylady

[WesternSwing]

To me, it means they take everybody on a case-by-case basis. They are open to all kinds of people and who the person is, not what they are, is more important.

Mr. WS

[blondie77]

To me, it means they take everybody on a case-by-case basis. They are open to all kinds of people and who the person is, not what they are, is more important.

Mr. WS
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Ditto!

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by WesternSwing

To me, it means they take everybody on a case-by-case basis. They are open to all kinds of people and who the person is, not what they are, is more important.

Mr. WS

Then why is it so often 'HE is open minded?'

Not 'We are and open minded couple.'

I'll see things like 'He is straight but open minded.'
Or 'He is very open minded and willing to try about anything, just ask!'

I'm sticking with 'code' in those cases

[flkeyscouple]

Originally Posted by Chicup

Then why is it so often 'HE is open minded?'

Not 'We are and open minded couple.'

I'll see things like 'He is straight but open minded.'
Or 'He is very open minded and willing to try about anything, just ask!'

I'm sticking with 'code' in those cases

When it's written like these examples, I'll agree with Chicup's 'code' too.

And it seems to me it's more often than not referring to a male, not the couple.

Mrs. FLKeysCouple

[WesternSwing]

Dito, but I see many more "we are and open-minded couple" in profiles then "he is open-minded", which to me is code for "bi-curious".

Mr. WS

[blondie77]

I agree with all above, but actually I believe we have written in our Swing Lifestyle profile that "we" are open minded...which to us means that we, as western swing said, take people on a case by case basis. It doesn't mean anything sexual to us...hubby isn't bi in the least bit...but we put "open minded" in there I guess to let people know that we are open to anything and anyone so long as everyone is in agreement; also that we are okay and open to people of different races, cultures, backgrounds, lifestlyles, etc given we all get along...but we do have a side note that says we are open minded EXCEPT for certain things like extreme pain or potty games, things like that.

I guess I thought "open minded" was clear enough. I'm beginning to think I should be more specific...haha. I do agree, however, that HE is open minded clearly means he's bi.

[28volts]

I see to many people use to many vague descriptions,that it is sometimes hard to tell what people are looking for or what they are like. This is one of the words I wanted to see what people used them for. It cuts down on alot of emails trying to find out what they are interested in. head bang
We too are open to many new ideas , we might never try them that's why I chose not to use the wording. We mention what we will never do, so there is no confusion about that. If we meet someone and they ask us something we did not mention in our ad, we might say yes ,or we could say no.

Thanks for ya'lls comments.

Mr S

[BiloxiCouple]

This is so confusing.

Now ya'll are telling me there is a secret code out there amongst swingers? If I say one thing, the code means another? What if I say the wrong thing and I get unjustly labeled? Can't we just go back to be discrete and vague in the vanilla world and say what we want in the alternative world.

I guess we need to start a dictionary on secret codes for us.

We are open-minded I thought. We like trying different things and sometimes we don't want to try certain things. We look at new opportunities all the time and figure out what we want to try as they present themselves. It doesn't mean we are bi, or according to the code....

I am just glad we aren't a professional couple (pro?) which would make us prostitutes?

[Tybee Swing]

Originally Posted by BiloxiCouple

This is so confusing.

Now ya'll are telling me there is a secret code out there amongst swingers? If I say one thing, the code means another? What if I say the wrong thing and I get unjustly labeled? Can't we just go back to be discrete and vague in the vanilla world and say what we want in the alternative world.

I agree with you about avoiding secret codes in the lifestyle. It's hard enough as it is to connect with like-minded people with similiar interests -- why make it even harder?

[luv2buck]

Originally Posted by 28volts

Ok...I have been looking at ads and noticed the word open minded in different situations.

Mr S

The phrase was used in classified ads by escorts to alert potential clients. That usage was a while back, though...

buck

[ohash01]

I use the term "open minded" to describe myself every single day of my life. I grew up in a tiny town where it wasn't okay to be anything but white, a religion other than Lutheran or Catholic, or anything other than completely straight with a spouse and trying to have a family. Anyone wonder now why I bailed and came running to a big city when I was 17? Haha.

I don't think we used it in our profile, but if we had, it would have just meant that "we would like to hear what you're into and we will keep an "open mind" and discuss...then we'll decide if we'd like to try it."

I am open-minded every day...I'll let you have your opinions and I will listen to them...I will consider them. That doesn't mean I'll always agree, but it does mean that I will NEVER automatically go "shut up...you're wrong".