What makes a man let another man fuck his wife?

[Roundstic]

Just wondering why a man would let another man fuck his wife?
Is there and scientific studies ever been done?
Or is it just ure pleasure?
Thanks

[ViSexual]

I've read a lot of answers to this question but I'll simply state mine.

I've loved my wife for almost 35 years now.

The very first time I saw her with another man was after about three years of marriage.

I've never been the jealous type. I guess I've just always been confident enough to not feel threatened by anyone.

We had friends, another couple, and my wife was obviously attracted to the husband. Whenever we attended parties together my wife and him would dance all the slow dances together. His wife and I joked about it and we both thought it was fun and sexy to watch them.

When, 'long story', things finally happened that allowed my wife and him to fullfill their desires, his wife and I, watched with complete enthusiasm. We, of course, were now allowed to play with each other too, but it was watching them that we both agreed was the best part.

After that, I found that watching my wife flirt with, have foreplay with, and have sex with the husbands we had adventures with was equally, if not more, stimulating than my enjoying the other wives.

And, honestly, I felt even more attracted to my wife for weeks after each of these activities.

Thinking back, the best sexual memory in my life, was when I held this first man's cock in my hand and guided it, personally, into my wife!

[redleader12]

My wife and I sometimes swings with a good friend of mine simply because we trust himand when we get together with him, we (my wife and I ) simply dothis because of pleasure even when we get with couples but anyway, my wife loves the feeling of being with us two and we trust him so much that we go bareback and let him cum inside of her it really is a pleasure to us both that sometimes us 3 get such a pleasure out of this and enjoy each others company in and out of the bedroom. And yes he even stay the night just to wake up and feel the pleaswure that we have felt the night before, and even one time i have let my friend fuck her while i watched and towards the end to have my cock sucked, so yes it's all pleasure to us if another man fucks hereven if i get to fuck another woman and she's looking at me doing it.

[Spoomonkey]

There is a fundamental flaw in your question and I almost didn't catch it. In fact, I wrote a box-full of response before it hit me that I was answering a defective wringer.

To ask why a man would let another man fuck his wife is like asking a man why he'd let another man borrow his tools. My tools are mine - can get lost - and don't have the wits to come home once they've been used. I own my tools, I bought and paid for my tools, and my tools are with me whether they like it or not.

My wife, on the other hand... She's with me because - for some reason - after running a gauntlet of men before me - decided that she was more than willing to stop and be with me. I don't own her, I don't control her and I DON'T loan her out.

You see - swinging isn't about me letting other men fuck her. Swinging is about us, partners in crime, experiencing adventures that we - as a couple - want to share. Those adventures include her fucking other men, yes, but they also include me fucking other women, us fucking other couples and a few other interesting combinations and pile ups. We do this together - in agreement - and we smile (sometimes laugh) together about it later.

Your question is flawed because I do not let other men fuck my wife - she does. She does so while respecting me and allowing me to give her permission to do so - and accepting when my gut tells me "no." Wives are not chattel.

I've seen a LOT of disrespect in the lifestyle - heartless husbands forcing their wives into a swing scene that isn't for them. And I've watched a lot of wives cat through a club with an attitude of "my husband will just have to deal with it" as she picks and does whoever she wants while hubby sits at the bar drinking and pissed...

I can assure you that this is not a picture of us - and fortunately it is not a picture of most of the active posters on this board.

Spoomonkey

[catslaughing]

Spoo, you have covered it so eloquently that I have nothing else to say but HURRAH!!!

[TheSwingerSet]

Spoo, Wow well said man! In all my years i have never seen a post that is so well stated on this subject.

You sir are a gentleman and a scholar, my hats off to you

Kent

[rpu3]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

Your question is flawed because I do not let other men fuck my wife - she does.

Thank you for saying it more nicely than I would have. Women, married or not, are not property. There is no letting, but a decision process (my decision, his decision and what morphs into OUR decision).

[LFM2]

Spoo, you've done it again. Thanks for stating that so well!

[Mrs az_rugburn]

My answer would have been the same in a much more crude, bumbling way, as with most every post I have read from Spoo, he is right on the money.

[Orchid]

My hero is a large purple monkey!! Well said.

[VanHlebar]

Man folks...don't keep saying this stuff about Spoo...Mrs Spoo will never get his big ass head inside the house again if you keep filling it up like that!

Honestly though....well put my man. The OP maybe just doesn't have the eloquent words to get his question acrossed...or maybe this is Troll bait and we all bit.

-Van

[Mr. Truelove]

"partners in crime...." I like that term. Hehe.

Mr. Truelove

[frndsnmoremaybe]

Long time lurkers, first time posters. We have learned a lot on this journey we call the "lifestyle" from this board. We would like to thank everyone here. In response to this question we want to tell Spoomonkey that his response was the most eloquent and well said answer. We would not have been as nice as he was. I (male half) do not own my wife, and do not let anyone fuck her. She is her own woman and she makes up her own mind.
R&K

[mfmyeahbaby]

for us it's not me letting another man fuck my wife. Instead it's absolute pleasure that is gained from all of our mutual enjoyment. For us it's the pleasures that are there (for both of us) that come from her giving and receiving pleasure from him and for him he is so respectful of our scenario and is single he can basically perform and enjoy almost as if he were me. I truely enjoy his giving and receiving as well mainly because there is absolutely no threat and nothing but respect, to a point of she can completely consume herself in what he and her are doing and totally know that its all good and vice versa with him. They both perceive what they are doing as far as I concerned as something that is not out of context and not harmful and should be enjoyed to the fullest. Yes, for him to stay the night afterwards only to wake in the morning and redo our pleasures is not only welcome but preferred. I think that as long as everyone is ok and there are no jealously issues, do whatever makes you feel good.

[HappyPeople]

We have sex for fun - that's why.