What makes a man let another man fuck his wife?

[Randies']

I think everyone totally misjudged the original poster when he asked ".... LET another man...". (I felt no need to write the whole thing out). I see nothing wrong with this wording. Now I am not some dominant asshole (no offense of course to those who are), and MZ is not dom either. But yes, I do *let* her fuck other guys, I do *let* other guys fuck her, just as equally as she graciously *LETS* me fuck other women. The word "let" does not connotate ownership.
I wholeheartedly agree with Monkey-Man's :-) well written post, that this is done together, as a couple, as a journey, etc etc etc. But the simple fact remains that if neither party has permission to do this... it's not "swinging". Just because you are swinging and happy and stable in your relationship doesn't mean that you don't need permission to engage in these activities. You need permission just as much as you need good communication skills, trust, and love. If MZ felt that this was going to far, and wanted to quit, she would be effectively withdrawing her *permission*.
I have no problem admitting that I need her permission, that I need her to *let* me do these things. I need it just as equally as she does, and when we agree on that, when we agree that we are ok with this and say it's ok for each other to do it, that is when the journey begins.
Does this make any sense? I don't want to start a fight here, and I may be missing something, but it seems that a few people sort of over-reacted to the original post is all.

Spoo had a good take on the subject and I agree with the direction taken if that is the way that one is thinking.

The way that I think the original question was directed is more along the line of how do You disassociate sex from love? To do this correctly we need to be so much in love with our SO that nothing or no one can ever get in the way.

Males are conditioned by history, biology and society to protect and defend what is ours. Can we share what we love? How do we keep in check the urge to protect and defend?

I don't take this as possesion of my SO but more of a natural reaction. I have to go thru steps to allow this to happen in my mind. Mrs Randies will let me know what my ultimate decision is but she still allows me to tromp thru centuries of male social feelings until I finally come to the correct decision.

GOD! I Love My Wife!!!

[Randies']

We don't smoke.

What does that mean??????????

[rickNterry]

Me thinks that just about everyone agrees that wives and husbands are not property, not owned, and not lent out. We are swingers, married over 40 years, and enjoyed the lifestyle for over 25 of them. I can remember many couples but none so well as our first experience which was a mfm threesum. I let my best friend join us in the bedroom to make love to (not fuck) my wife. We did the making out, the touchy feely, and the slow art of turning a woman on with oral stimulation and then slow passionate intercourse. This was such a turn on for the three of us that we continued with him for over 7 years before we ventured into enjoying couples. There was no rough sex, never has been any rough sex. Rough sex can be classified as fucking. My wife has always enjoyed another man so long as he was not rough and respected her as a Lady and I have always treated my Ladies with respect and made them feel Special. Wanna fuck..get a hooker, wanna enjoy sex get a swinger. Our aim is to please.

[dingdong69]

Ditto, ricknterry, those words exactly discribed my swinger experience on my previous marriage were we let my best friend make sensual,caring love to my wife with the only difference that we put it on video for our enjoyment after each session of love making that wonderful experience went on for more than ten years.

[sereneiders]

Originally Posted by rickNterry

Me thinks that just about everyone agrees that wives and husbands are not property, not owned, and not lent out. We are swingers, married over 40 years, and enjoyed the lifestyle for over 25 of them. I can remember many couples but none so well as our first experience which was a mfm threesum. I let my best friend join us in the bedroom to make love to (not fuck) my wife. We did the making out, the touchy feely, and the slow art of turning a woman on with oral stimulation and then slow passionate intercourse. This was such a turn on for the three of us that we continued with him for over 7 years before we ventured into enjoying couples. There was no rough sex, never has been any rough sex. Rough sex can be classified as fucking. My wife has always enjoyed another man so long as he was not rough and respected her as a Lady and I have always treated my Ladies with respect and made them feel Special. Wanna fuck..get a hooker, wanna enjoy sex get a swinger. Our aim is to please.

I dislike the "make love" vs. "fucking" comparison here. This implies men are the ones who fucks women, or make love to them, while for women it's is ok ONLY to make love to men, and not to fuck them. Behind this courtain of respect toward women we may find out a lot of prejudices towars them.

Is your wife free to ask to just fuck someone? If she does, where she'd be, what she'd become? as you said, whores fucks, wifes makes love... but for men, fucking doesn't dimish our value (culturally, it even improves it).

I strongly disagree with you. My wife is my partner, an equal, she deserves the right to fuck, to be fucked, ot make love, in other words to be a whore and to be a lady, as much as I deserve the right to fuck or to make love.

And for me, it isn't disrespectfull to fuck someone, it deppends on the game we're playing with a playmate wheter we fuck or make love, both are enjoyable activities, and none of them dimish the respect everyone involved deserves, during the game and afterwards.

What you're implying here is that those women who dislike fucking and produly preffer love making deserve better than those women who enjoy fucking (or who enjoy both), which includes my wife and a lot of women from this board.

In any case, you're not an elegible playmate for us. Should my wife just want to fuck with you (and preserve the love making to someone she thinks DESERVES it), she'd be losing your respect.

[prettylady]

Originally Posted by rickNterry

Wanna fuck..get a hooker, wanna enjoy sex get a swinger. Our aim is to please.

Well I am glad your aim is to please. But seriously, I don't appreciate being refered to as a hooker. I like to fuck. Plain and simple. I make love to Dog because he is the man I love. I may have sensual sex with a swinger friend, or I may just out right fuck him. That does not in anyway make me a hooker. Makes me adventurous, outgoing, wild, insashible(?) and one hell of a fantastic time.
Just because "fucking" is not something you enjoy, please don't disrespect the good people around here who do enjoy it.
I think many would have issue with thier SO "making love" to another person. Sensual sex, hell ya. but making love, not so much.
To each's own and all that jazz.
Your friend,
Prettylady

[interested-05]

Originally Posted by guruii

I realized from the begining of dating that a man can not be everything sexually for a woman. There will be times when she desires a longer or shorter or fatter or thinner dick. She will want someone faster or slower, rougher or easier. I could go on for hours here. After 16 years of being together I wanted her to experience more out of life than just what I could give her. I also knew that she got off giving me a BJ as well as when we had intercourse. Here I knew I could not do both things to her at the same time, yet did not want to deprive her of the experience. (To this point, that specific experience has been her most body shaking orgasm.)

The lifestyle to us is about sharing. Sharing each other(with others). Sharing the experience(s). Sharing the intensness of the situation(s). And later, sharing what we did and was done to us that we found we enjoyed so that we could use it to enhance our own sex lives with each other.

Chris & Linda

Well said, I know the limits of what I can do for her, as well as the limitations of what she can do for me. I can imagine sex with more than one person at a time, experience arousal by the thought, feel excited when talking to my wife about it, but unless I am willing to allow her and myself to try it, it is only that imagaination.
when I say allow her, I am allowing myself as well. She is no more my property than I am hers, or for that matter do I consider myself my property.
Thinking about it that way, Am I my property? Or am I Me?
Is she my property or are we, WE? Maybe I am her property, and she is the one letting me fuck another woman.
The reality is, we are a couple who loves each other. WE enjoy Sex and and trying things we cannot do when it is only the two of us. What more can a couple do, to enjoy our bodies and the pleasure of the few years we have to enjoy the lives we share? WE don't abuse or use, we share. we enjoy and give and receive as well. It is the blending of needs, desires, passions, bodies and pleasures, which makes this fun and uniquely human.

[YouDaddyPlease]

I don't know about the rest of you, but when I think of my wife with some other dudes cock buried inside her, I want to watch her squirm and moan.
I guess that's what happens with a 22 year old girl and a 24 year old guy.

[spectraschain]

I want to watch her squirm and moan.

Five pages and FINALLY the voice of reason...

EXACTLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[racewalker]

We live in the new age I let her boyfriend fuck her in turn I am free to follow my wishes.

[swyngtyme]

In my marriage, we have a particular way of putting it:

I don't let my wife fuck other men. I don't give my wife permission to fuck other men. I give her my blessing to fuck other men.

The first two imply control, posession. The third implies understanding and happy acceptance.

[Zoe&Wash]

What makes a man let another man fuck his wife?

Privacy and a box of condoms?

W

[beachguyz]

Men need to get over the issue of ownership with wives or girlfriends. Some guys can't stand the thought of their wife or gf with another guy. I used to think that way but I realized that it was selfish on my part. Don't men have fantasies about other women at times and most guys would take the shot if offered. Women are the same as men but most times not as crude.

Most times women just want to just fuck. Just like guys. No relationship just sex. So why not let them. Wife or GF it doesn't matter.

[dev&esha]

hi there, we wanted to say that the pic showed, the fishnet ur using is nice.

Luvs,

Dev&Esha

[dev&esha]

Luvs,

Dev&Esha