Attractiveness, Hot or Cute

[nvrgesus2]

My wife and I were sitting in the hot tub discussing some of our life style experiences. The one thing we chuckle about are the responses people provide when describing the general physical appearance of others and what the responses mean. We have heard responses as hot, attractive, cute and of course silence. Hot, attractive and no response seem self-explanatory. It’s the cute description that is bothersome to us. It seems being labeled cute is the kiss of death akin to the no response at all with politeness added. Is being labeled cute the kiss of death in meeting and moving beyond being friends? How does cute fall into the range of hot to silence?

[JustAskJulie]

To me cute and attractive would probably mean the same.... it would probably mean... they are attractive (or cute - and in the looks dept those are two different things but really hard to explain) but I probably wasn't into them for some other reason, sometimes there is no clear reason sometimes it's their personality, sometimes they may remind me of someone, or it may be something else entirely.

As for terming someone HOT, that is usually a straight up lust thing thing. I have no idea (or little care to get to know them and/or be friends) but I want to f their brains out.

[Chicup]

Well I suppose its if its an honnest cute or a polite cute.

Honest cute would be 'doable' but not the kind of person you would have a fantasy about.

Polite cute is what is said when someone would like to be silent but can't because someone is expecting a reply.

Exaple: Friend1: "Let me show you a picture of my new girlfriend!"
Friend2: (1/2 second pause) "Shes cute, where did you meet her?" (to change subject)

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by Chicup

Polite cute is what is said when someone would like to be silent but can't because someone is expecting a reply.

Exaple: Friend1: "Let me show you a picture of my new girlfriend!"
Friend2: (1/2 second pause) "Shes cute, where did you meet her?" (to change subject)

Good point. I do this all the time with baby pictures (I've seen very few babies that weren't ugly... but there's no way I'm going to say that to the baby's parent... so since you can't say nothing... "awww.. how cute".

[prettylady]

OH SHIT!
Everyone says I am cute.
What does that hold for me?
I have been called Hot quite often as well.
Does that mean I am hidious unless your horney then I am f**kable?
Oh well, I know one man that loves me even though I am cute.
Your friend,
Prettylady

[daisy girl]

My favorite swing partner says that I am sexy and cute. he he!!! So...I hope in this case that cute is good .

[bear_and_babe]

Originally Posted by prettylady

OH SHIT!
Everyone says I am cute.
What does that hold for me?
I have been called Hot quite often as well.
Does that mean I am hidious unless your horney then I am f**kable?
Oh well, I know one man that loves me even though I am cute.
Your friend,
Prettylady

Don't worry Prettylady, I am in the same boat you are. I will never be the classic beauty, but damn it I am cute! And I am ok with that. Bear loves me no matter what. But when it really comes down to it, looks are in the eye of the beholder. What is pretty to one person may not be so pretty to another.

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by prettylady

I have been called Hot quite often as well.

These people were right...

The others were just bashful

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

As for terming someone HOT, that is usually a straight up lust thing thing. I have no idea (or little care to get to know them and/or be friends) but I want to f their brains out.

I have never wanted to be hot as much as I do right now...

Spoomonkey

[ohash01]

It's weird, isn't it? There really are a million compliments and every one means something different.

I have been described as attractive, beautiful, and cute. Never hot. I'm not thin enough for "HOT". Atleast that's the way I view it. Well - J. has called me hot, but he sees my naughty wardrobe, and no one else does, so he's biased.

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by ohash01

I'm not thin enough for "HOT".

I am sure you have been "hot" more often than you think

Men should come with a scrolling marque on their forehead. It would say exactly what they were thinking all the time. You would be wildly flattered, unquestionably disgusted, incredibly offended and surprisingly turned-on...

It'd be a good/bad thing

But you wouldn't say things like "never hot."

Spoomonkey

[Thrax]

...and Ohash, Julie, prettylady, et al...regardless of the compliments yinz are getting individually from other posters, yinz're are all makin' me hot. facelick

Yeah!

(That and $1.50 (U.S.) will get you a cup a' coffee. :rollseyes)

Thrax

[gatorvol64]

Originally Posted by ohash01

I'm not thin enough for "HOT". Atleast that's the way I view it. Well - J. has called me hot, but he sees my naughty wardrobe, and no one else does, so he's biased.

That theory doesn't hold true in our house. Gator doesn't think thin is hot. So, I daresay, you'd qualify for HOT in his book and he hasn't seen your naughty wardrobe.

Vol

[Chip_n_Muffy]

Interesting exercise in semantics. When I think "cute", I think of a smile and a bubbly personallity. A Meg Ryanesque type person. When I think "attractive", I think more of the classical beauty of a young Elizabeth Taylor. When I think "hot", I think more along the lines of ALL the lovely ladies here on Swingers Board! Since the cute and the attractive are already taken, all of you hotties feel free to lavish your attention on me any time you want!

Chip

[Mr. Truelove]

I prefer cute people. Of course, cute has it's own definition in my mind that would be far too difficult to explain without citing examples.

And I have seen the same woman be hot and cute, at different times.

I guess if I had to articulate that... Sometimes I see a woman that by what the social norm is, would be hot. I look at those people, but often simply move on. But once in a while I see a woman that is cute. And well, she is usually your "average" good looking girl, but she has that special something that really gets my mind going. Usually a pretty face, smile, or way they carry themselves.

I hope that got my point across, but it still doesn't define what I think a cute person looks like... But I don't think I know, I think I just know when I see it.

Mr. Truelove

[EvilMJ]

Originally Posted by Chip_n_Muffy

When I think "hot", I think more along the lines of ALL the lovely ladies here on Swingers Board! Since the cute and the attractive are already taken, all of you hotties feel free to lavish your attention on me any time you want!

Chip

Oh you are a smooth one aren't you chip

I subscribe to the Julie way of thinking - cute is not a bad thing, but hot means my brain has shut down from lust and I just want to rip your clothes of and love ya silly.