Lies for Sex?

alphaplaycpl · 11-14-2006, 12:34 AM

Since so many of us swingers are in this for the "friends with benefits" perk, have any of you ever stretched the truth a bit to gain the interest of another couple?

If so, what is the most outrageous fib you have ever told?

Were you once in a band that gained 15 minutes of fame? Are you a custodian and described your work as the Director of Sanitaiton? Are you close personal friends with Madonna, and sure that you can get her to have coffee with me? Was it your original idea that launched the entire site of Ebay?

Just curious...

**rpu3** · 11-14-2006, 05:45 AM

No fibs or lies told by this gal at all. I am honest (probably to a fault) in my "regular" life and wouldn't consider being anything different in our swing life. Lying for sex just doesn't cut it, especially if you are trying to make friends of your swing partners. Eventually, even the most simple fib will catch up with you. I will lose trust and respect, which are difficult to rebuild, if I catch someone in a lie.

Sweet_Candy · 11-14-2006, 07:21 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by alphaplaycpl

Since so many of us swingers are in this for the "friends with benefits" perk,

We're not in this for the friends, we have enough of those in the vanilla world. We are here for the sex with benefits. Honesty is our approach it helps weed out the drama.

pagan-lovers · 11-14-2006, 07:22 AM

Very well put. What comes around goes around. We have chosen what few playmates we have had on a combination of attraction and personality. Lying seems to circumvent that process.

Mr. PL

Spoomonkey · 11-14-2006, 07:32 AM

I tell people I'm hot...

But that always disintegrates quickly and I have to impress them with tricks.

Actually - we really do try to be as honest as possible with everyone we meet for the same reasons above. We love making friends in the lifestyle and have decided that in every part of life - if people don't like us for us, then it is best that we all be free to meet new folks.

Spoomonkey

Additude · 11-14-2006, 07:37 AM

I have to agree with the honesty thing....

I really did try to remember something that was said that may have been a stretch of the truth...but couldn't.

flkeyscouple · 11-14-2006, 07:55 AM

Before registering for this site we were lurkers. Reading this thread made us comfortable using alias names on this and other sites. Something we felt we needed to do at the time.

Since then, when we start to coorespond with someone we plan to meet, our first conversation tells them our real names. So far no one has freaked out about the fact that we've used alias names online.

I do remember our first visit to a nudist camp ground. I was SO panicy about being 'found out' that we talked about and planned our 'where are you from, what do you do' stories! We were sitting in the hot tub chatting with wonderful folks and found we were comfortable being ourselves - but we'd already started with 'the stories'. It was hard to keep the stories straight and we agreed we would NEVER do that again!! Talk about using energy to keep the story straight - when that same energy could have gone into some wonderful events!! facelick

We look back on that now and really laugh about how paniced we were! (:surrender OK.. I admit it - it was ME, not Roger - he's NEVER paniced!!)

Sarah

Beaverbumper · 11-14-2006, 08:21 AM

We believe in sex and friendship and either of the two cannot be had with lies...and it really gets up set to meet a couple and then find out they didnt tell the truth..which brings us to think what else would they lie about..

**Alura** · 11-14-2006, 08:43 AM

Hell, the truth in my life has been unbelievable enough. No need to add enhancements that I'd have to remember to keep straight.

Mrs. Alura is so honest that she refuses even to wear a "prosthesis" to hide her missing boob.

Here in Oklahoma, what you see (or don't) is what you get (or not).

Mr. Alura

Menage_a_Trois · 11-14-2006, 09:01 AM

The Truth and Nothing but the truth.............................

We feel there is no reason to tell anything but the truth. Why would we lie to someone who may potentially become a good friend not just in the lifestyle but in vanilla life as well. We have been more than fortunate in the friendships we have made in the lifestyle.

The Menage's

M and H · 11-14-2006, 09:26 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by alphaplaycpl

have any of you ever stretched the truth a bit to gain the interest of another couple?

I've stretched the truth a bit to (gently) LOSE the interest of another couple, and I've lied (by omission) to gain the interest of another couple (didn't tell them my age

)

M

havefuninsun · 11-14-2006, 09:55 AM

I said I was an astronaut. No one believed me, tho.

NJCouple · 11-14-2006, 10:01 AM

We never lie, but we do avoid giving out certain information until we are comfortable. For instance, my husbands occupation requires some discretion. When we become friends with people, we are completely open and honest. Lies no, but keeping some parts of our life confidential, yes.
Sharon

**LFM2** · 11-14-2006, 11:42 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Alura

Hell, the truth in my life has been unbelievable enough. No need to add enhancements that I'd have to remember to keep straight.
Mr. Alura

We don't lie about anything. We're a WYSIWYG type of couple. I don't want to have to remember the lies. That's why we can't even go with fake names.

flkeyscouple · 11-14-2006, 12:25 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by LFM2

WYSIWYG

Took me about 5 minutes to figure this out!!

Sarah

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11-14-2006, 12:34 AM	#1 (permalink)
alphaplaycpl Here to Stay Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 43 Location: Alpharetta, GA Status: Couple	Lies for Sex? Since so many of us swingers are in this for the "friends with benefits" perk, have any of you ever stretched the truth a bit to gain the interest of another couple? If so, what is the most outrageous fib you have ever told? Were you once in a band that gained 15 minutes of fame? Are you a custodian and described your work as the Director of Sanitaiton? Are you close personal friends with Madonna, and sure that you can get her to have coffee with me? Was it your original idea that launched the entire site of Ebay? Just curious...

11-14-2006, 05:45 AM	#2 (permalink)
rpu3 Doing it our way... Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 2,507 Location: Ohio Status: Married Female SLS Name:rpu3 Blog Entries: 2	Re: Lies for Sex? No fibs or lies told by this gal at all. I am honest (probably to a fault) in my "regular" life and wouldn't consider being anything different in our swing life. Lying for sex just doesn't cut it, especially if you are trying to make friends of your swing partners. Eventually, even the most simple fib will catch up with you. I will lose trust and respect, which are difficult to rebuild, if I catch someone in a lie. __________________ I'll give up my bad habits as soon as equally satisfying good habits become available. A. Brilliant

11-14-2006, 07:22 AM	#4 (permalink)
pagan-lovers Here to Stay Join Date: Apr 2005 Posts: 72 Location: WV Status: Couple	Re: Lies for Sex? Very well put. What comes around goes around. We have chosen what few playmates we have had on a combination of attraction and personality. Lying seems to circumvent that process. Mr. PL

11-14-2006, 07:32 AM	#5 (permalink)
Spoomonkey Chimpin' Ain't Easy Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 6,563 Location: Ohio Status: Married Monkeys - will you be our vine? SLS Name:Spoomonkey	Re: Lies for Sex? I tell people I'm hot... But that always disintegrates quickly and I have to impress them with tricks. Actually - we really do try to be as honest as possible with everyone we meet for the same reasons above. We love making friends in the lifestyle and have decided that in every part of life - if people don't like us for us, then it is best that we all be free to meet new folks. Spoomonkey __________________ "Eros will have naked bodies; Friendship naked personalities." - C. S. Lewis

11-14-2006, 07:37 AM	#6 (permalink)
Additude Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Apr 2002 Posts: 310 Location: OBX-NC	Re: Lies for Sex? I have to agree with the honesty thing.... I really did try to remember something that was said that may have been a stretch of the truth...but couldn't. __________________ If you want something you have never had before, you must do something you have never done before.

11-14-2006, 07:55 AM	#7 (permalink)
flkeyscouple Sarah&Roger's Female Half Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 1,160 Location: FL Status: couple-female half SLS Name:floridakeyscouple	Re: Lies for Sex? Before registering for this site we were lurkers. Reading this thread made us comfortable using alias names on this and other sites. Something we felt we needed to do at the time. Since then, when we start to coorespond with someone we plan to meet, our first conversation tells them our real names. So far no one has freaked out about the fact that we've used alias names online. I do remember our first visit to a nudist camp ground. I was SO panicy about being 'found out' that we talked about and planned our 'where are you from, what do you do' stories! We were sitting in the hot tub chatting with wonderful folks and found we were comfortable being ourselves - but we'd already started with 'the stories'. It was hard to keep the stories straight and we agreed we would NEVER do that again!! Talk about using energy to keep the story straight - when that same energy could have gone into some wonderful events!! facelick We look back on that now and really laugh about how paniced we were! (:surrender OK.. I admit it - it was ME, not Roger - he's NEVER paniced!!) Sarah Last edited by flkeyscouple : 11-14-2006 at 07:56 AM. Reason: spelling - probably didn't fix them all!!

11-14-2006, 08:21 AM	#8 (permalink)
Beaverbumper Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 155 Location: Union City, Mi Status: Couple SLS Name:Beaverbumper	Re: Lies for Sex? We believe in sex and friendship and either of the two cannot be had with lies...and it really gets up set to meet a couple and then find out they didnt tell the truth..which brings us to think what else would they lie about.. __________________ Diane & Allen

11-14-2006, 08:43 AM	#9 (permalink)
Alura T-Town Playmates Join Date: May 2001 Posts: 6,126 Location: Tulsa, Oklahoma Status: Married to Mrs. Alura	Re: Lies for Sex? Hell, the truth in my life has been unbelievable enough. No need to add enhancements that I'd have to remember to keep straight. Mrs. Alura is so honest that she refuses even to wear a "prosthesis" to hide her missing boob. Here in Oklahoma, what you see (or don't) is what you get (or not). Mr. Alura __________________ "They may call me a rube and a hick, but I'd a lot rather be the man who bought the Brooklyn Bridge than the man who sold it." —Will Rogers

11-14-2006, 09:01 AM	#10 (permalink)
Menage_a_Trois Sex is emotion in motion! Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 559 Location: Reno, NV Status: Couple SLS Name:Menage_a_Trois	Re: Lies for Sex? The Truth and Nothing but the truth............................. We feel there is no reason to tell anything but the truth. Why would we lie to someone who may potentially become a good friend not just in the lifestyle but in vanilla life as well. We have been more than fortunate in the friendships we have made in the lifestyle. The Menage's

11-14-2006, 09:55 AM	#12 (permalink)
havefuninsun insert witty banter here Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 1,190 Location: Virginia Status: Couple SLS Name:havefuninsun	Re: Lies for Sex? I said I was an astronaut. No one believed me, tho.

11-14-2006, 10:01 AM	#13 (permalink)
NJCouple Here to Stay Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 52 Location: NJ Status: couple SLS Name:voraciousdesires	Re: Lies for Sex? We never lie, but we do avoid giving out certain information until we are comfortable. For instance, my husbands occupation requires some discretion. When we become friends with people, we are completely open and honest. Lies no, but keeping some parts of our life confidential, yes. Sharon

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