Lies for Sex?

[LFM2]

Originally Posted by flkeyscouple

Took me about 5 minutes to figure this out!!

Sarah

Sorry... I could have typed it out.

[flkeyscouple]

Originally Posted by LFM2

Sorry... I could have typed it out.

I wasn't commenting on you not spelling it out - I was commenting on my stupidity! Sometimes I wonder how I make it through life!! If I had to coorespond via text message all the time it would take me DAYS and WEEKS to simply say 'hi' to someone. My kids can't believe I always spell everything out!!

Sarah

[Alura]

WYSIWYG

Hmmm... I still haven't figured it out. Lessee...

Why You Should Insert With Your G... No

When Your Sex is With Your Girl... No.

What You Saw in Wife You Got... No.

What You See Is What You Get!!!

Some of us are slower than others...


Mr. Alura

[havefuninsun]

I know I know I know!!!

What You See is What You Get!!

(damn -- 15 minutes for me. Gesh!)

[good times]

I am with Mr. Alura here, often enough people have a hard time believing what I have actually done in my life. So, what would be the point in lying?

I suppose it would be technically possible for me to tell a lie, heck after you tell someone a couple of verifiable stories about jumping out of perfectly good airplanes or how you caught yourself on fire a few times, people would likely believe just about anything. In reality though, I suck as a liar, I would probably blow my lie within minutes because of my character flaw which manifests itself by whatever pops into my head shortly popping out of my mouth. So, I think I'll just stick with the truth, it is easier to keep straight in the future.

And besides, if you tell the woman you are hung like a horse, if she doesn't run away screaming at the thought of it, wouldn't it be pretty obvious once you dropped your pants?

[Funcpl647]

Nope. We don't lie - to adults, or potential playmates, or friends, etc. We do keep a lot of our life private (depending on the folks). When asked a point blank question we don't want to answer, we usually respond, "Why do you ask?" and then change the subject.

I did lie to my 16 year old daughter yesterday.
Looked her straight in the eye and said, "No, honey. You don't need to worry. We are NOT swingers."

Perhaps someday, when she's old enough, she'll forgive me. For lying.

[gatorvol64]

I have a real aversion to lying (long story) so no, we don't. But, if you aren't someone who likes me the way I am, I very seriously doubt you will be someone I can be around long enough to have sex with. And to be honest, it isn't worth lying for.

Vol

[Edison Carter]

Only a conflicted mind needs to lie. A mind at calm never is threatened by the truth.

[havefuninsun]

I might lie for a ho-ho.

I read/heard somewhere once that said "if you always tell the truth, you don't have to remember what you said."

How true is that?!?

[Dynamar]

Can't imagine why I'd lie when I'm so freaking fabulous!

[alphaplaycpl]

Thanks for the responses...Stuck with what to do...we really like a couple, but get the feeling that they are "inflating" themselves slightly...

The comments have been akin to when Al Gore claimed to have invented the internet. I can't prove they are fibs, but I can't prove they are truths either. Just builds a lack of trust.

I have to echo the sentiments of those who feel honesty is the best policy. What a perfectly horrible way to ruin (or put doubts to) a great thing.

[lovinher]

Inflating the truth is one thing. But is accentuating the positive a lie?
I haven't seen a profile that states things like:
"I have a slightly bulging belly"
"my boobs sag a bit"
"I'm going bald"
"I am on welfare and have no job"
I think most people accentuate the positive and omit the negative. That doesn't make it a lie.

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by good times

I suppose it would be technically possible for me to tell a lie, heck after you tell someone a couple of verifiable stories about jumping out of perfectly good airplanes or how you caught yourself on fire a few times, people would likely believe just about anything.

Having heard a few of these stories over appetizers and beer at a casino bar, I have to say that I would know if you were lying the minute you said you tried something and DIDN'T get hurt. Because that would be bullshit...



Spoomonkey

[Tybee Swing]

Originally Posted by alphaplaycpl

Since so many of us swingers are in this for the "friends with benefits" perk, have any of you ever stretched the truth a bit to gain the interest of another couple?

If so, what is the most outrageous fib you have ever told?

We don't lie, because of the fact that we do want to meet and get to know people. Lies always eventually unravel the closer you get to a person...so for the sincere who really want to meet and get familiar, what's the point of lying to gain favor? They'll only get to know the real you, anyway. We want to be liked for who we really are. If who we are isn't impressive enough for them, let 'em go!

Originally Posted by lovinher

Inflating the truth is one thing. But is accentuating the positive a lie?
...
I think most people accentuate the positive and omit the negative. That doesn't make it a lie.

Absolutely. Being positive is not a lie at all. Just like anything in life - like on a vanilla date or being interviewed for a job - it's expected that you focus on the positive, while keeping it truthful. People who focus on negatives sound like people with "issues", low self-esteem, no confidence. Who wants that?

Another angle on what people say to gain the interest of others: braggarts. They may or may not have all the property and objects they say they do or all the money they insinuate they have, but it's very obvious that they talk about it in order to gain favor. This is a HUGE turn-off to me. It's usually men who do this. It turned me off when I was single and dating. It still turns me off in swinging. Why should I care how much they own or what's in their bank account? Whether they're exaggerating or it's real, braggarts turn me off. I think they do it because they feel they themselves are not enough, and they're trying to "buy" attention and affection with their wealth (or appearance of it).

[good times]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

Having heard a few of these stories over appetizers and beer at a casino bar, I have to say that I would know if you were lying the minute you said you tried something and DIDN'T get hurt. Because that would be bullshit...

Yea, I guess if one were to review my life, I have in fact, established that dubious trend.

Hey, did I ever tell you the one about how I got a black eye during a swinging play session. I am never doing MFM again, to damned dangerous.