Swingers without children

[daisy girl]

Just a quick thought...I am wondering if swingers without children have a different experience swinging than those with children. I don't mean better or worse...I just mean different. Thoughts???

[Dynamar]

I don't have kids... but I can't think of what any difference might be. Do you have a hypothesis you'd like to share?

[TxCouple]

Well the difference may be the fact that they are young? Gotta send them to a sitter? or maybe they are old enough to sense the fact that you are actively seeking outside sex? what are the conditions?

[driveajeepnaked]

We are 3 yrs together, 2 yrs married and nearly 2yrs swingers.. For the first year married and swinging, my then 19 yr old daughter lived with us. It was a constant struggle to figure out her plans for the night or weekend... she is a real socialite and party-girl , but also level-headed, so would come home if she weren't comfortable at a party someplace (because of things that might be happening that she thought weren't good... that is her level-headedness at work)

I'm sure she wondered where all the "new friends" were coming from, but since Mr Jeep and I hadn't been married that long, we always said they were his friends that she hadn't met yet :rollseyes We had new friends over one night, just chatting in the living room, and she came downstairs, leaving for a date in too long pants... and the female of the other couple got on the floor and quickly hemmed her pants , cause "Mom doesn't know how to do that"

Now, she is in college, living on campus, and life is very different... we don't have to worry about leaving our clothes in a pile in the livingroom overnight, or the Nude Only sign on the door to the hot-tub, or walking around nekkid during the day in the house...

Life without kids is good

V

[Chip_n_Muffy]

Having kids limits your play opportunity. No doubt about it. On the other hand, male slut that I am, maybe that is a GOOD thing. A kid in a candy store, left unchecked, soon gets a bellyache!

Chip

[prettylady]

Also something to think about with my situation.
I am a single mother who has to deal with a shit head of an ex husband. I know if he found out about the lifestyle he would use it against me.
I have to be careful, little ears hear way to much.
And of course there is the making plans around their fathers weekends. He isn't the most relieable for keeping his word. I have heard can we switch weekends to many times for my liking.
Anyway different rant for a different thread.
Your friend,
Prettylady

[avid]

The part about having kids and being in the lifestyle that gets me is that we can't entertain. They very rarely go away overnight.

Another thing I have to be careful of is how I dress when I'm getting ready to go to the club. My 7yo likes me dressing all "girlie", but some of my outfits are a little out there to show!

[driveajeepnaked]

Being that some of us are what's being called the "Sandwich Generation" - caring for both kids and parents at the same time... what are your thoughts about the elder generation, if they are living with you??

My dad lived with us for a few months, in between houses. I remember going out one night, in an outfit not befitting either a parent or child's eyes. The weather was perfect for a trench-coat though

Parents will always be just that..."Stayed out all night again, huh?? You should have called, I was worried sick about you two..."

V

[todesireu]

we have been on both sides of this. several years with kids at home and now as emptynesters. now we don't have coordinate our social life around their activities. we answer only to ourselves.

[meandher2go]

NO kids here and loving it.

its a very different experience for us as we can be very spontaneous compared to coupels with kids. we dont mind and understand completely though

[Pepper & Drew]

I can sum up the difference in a situation with friends of ours when we visited them for the weekend and their kids were away. We played, using various toys and tossing condom wrappers in the livingroom. It was late, so we went upstairs to bed immediately after. The next morning, our friend comes downstairs and sees the dildos, etc lying about. She said, 'ah, this is what it's like not to have kids.'

Since we're childless, we're a lot more flexible with time for play and where we can entertain.

Pepper

[hiswhooore]

Originally Posted by avid

The part about having kids and being in the lifestyle that gets me is that we can't entertain. They very rarely go away overnight.

Another thing I have to be careful of is how I dress when I'm getting ready to go to the club. My 7yo likes me dressing all "girlie", but some of my outfits are a little out there to show!

Dito ...I have two children and when I am able to get out I have to watch how I dress and almost always lie about where Im going .

[JustAskJulie]

No kids and have often found it works best to swing with others without kids simply because people who have kids typically have much more limited schedules. It's already hard enough to make schedules match but when you are dealing with people who have kids and trying to find a sitter, etc it just makes it harder.

The other thing that really stands out was a couple my ex and I swung with a couple of times, they had 3 or 4 kids (fairly young ones) and due to how hard it was to get a sitter wanted to swing at their house with the kids there (after the kids went to bed) that is something that has always made me feel uncomfortable. Maybe others with kids used to doing "things" with the kids "asleep" in the house wouldn't be bothered so much by that idea.

[good times]

We went to the club Saturday night and one of our friends showed up and I noticed she had a store tag hanging from her dress. When I pointed it out she was a bit embarrased and said that when they leave the house she is wearing her regular street clothes and she has to change into her sexy club clothes in the car on the way to the club. she does this because she doesn't want her teenage daughter to see her in her clubwear. So, one difference seems to be, having no kids at home, we don't have to change in the car.

[TNT]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

Maybe others with kids used to doing "things" with the kids "asleep" in the house wouldn't be bothered so much by that idea.

I'm very bothered by it. We just don't play with kids in the house, ours or anyone elses.

One set of friends we have, have a one year-old...he is constantly wanting to play when the baby is home and asleep...her and I just look at him :rollseyes and try and explain to him why this is wrong...he just doesn't get it, he figures the baby's asleep so what's the problem.

Swinging with kids still living at home is a major bummer. We do have very special swinger friends that visit while the kids are home, but they are all very respectful and swinging is never brought up at all, which is the way I feel it should be.

We envy those who have empty nests and those without children...less than four years and we will join your ranks. Until then, we'll continue to pay for hotel rooms for playtime.


Teresa