Transition Lines

[Spoomonkey]

So - you have said, "Hello."

Not only did they say "Hello" back, but you have progressed to talking about kids or cars or jobs... And this could go on all night, as the beer runs dry and the building empties out and the music changes from "get your bootie on the dance floor" to "get the fuck out of my club."

No one wants that: to be the two couples who have wasted an entire night not making the transition... Those guys who need to be kicked out because they spent all night talking...

Sure - sometimes you just get lost in the conversation and the idea of sex never occurs as something you are ready to pursue. But, let's face it, more times than not we want to turn that corner.

This thread will be a good place to post your best transition lines. What is a "transition line"? It is the line you use to turn the conversation towards play without saying bluntly, "So - you guys want to get freaky?"

For example, the line we have thought to use is:

"So, what are you guys into?"

Now - you can add transitional statements that work for you - and you can critque the ones - including my example - that others post.

As an FYI - we have always been that couple who can talk to anyone, but never quite know how to "make that turn." We are working on that part of our "skill set". And your input is really appreciated!

Spoomonkey

[Pepper & Drew]

We have no problems with being blunt. Last weekend there were two couples that we talked to all night, and finally Drew said, "hey, are we going to the room?" One of the couples begged off (at least for that night), and after getting to the room with the other couple, we talked a little bit and I said, "so, what are you guys into? What are your rules?" I hardly think if you've gotten to a certain point that anybody's going to be offended that you suggest sex. When we've been the nervous ones, we've been relieved.

A few weeks ago, we were at our single guy friend's house, and I said, "who wants to play?" and I raised my hand. Drew and our friend got the idea .

Just come on out with it!

Pepper

[EvilMJ]

Well for us the club is a hotel where generally we have a room. So our usual line is "do you guys want to go upstairs and have a drink somewhere's quiet."

I have also used "Okay, enough of this, lets go upstairs and do something fun." - strangley this one has the best results . I guess I am just not the shy type.

[bear_and_babe]

Bear and I are that couple also. We can talk to anyone, but are also having trouble "making that turn". There have been times where we talked to a couple all night, and just when we say we have to leave then they say something like, "Aw, we were hoping you would want to play". So I guess we are not the only ones having this problem. I will be very interested in what others say to turn the conversation to playing.

[good times]

Yes please, let's have some ideas, we suck at this.

Since we are so bad at this, I haven't really got any good ones to share that we have tried. Lets face it, to get us in the sack you need to be pretty direct. So, the only thing I can contribute is a few that others have used that have worked on us.

"So, you want to get a room?" At our favorite club they have private rooms, so this one is pretty common.

"So, what are you guys into?" No, it wasn't Spoomonkey's that used this one on us, but it probably would have worked had they done so.

"So, you want to go fuck?" Seems a little blunt but it once worked on us.

"So, what's your sign?" Just kidding, haven't heard that one yet.

We are working on getting better at this too, but I have to say that some people are just natural closers. we have even had people that were so good at this that we ended up playing with them even though we really weren't into them that much.

[Pepper & Drew]

Originally Posted by good times

We are working on getting better at this too, but I have to say that some people are just natural closers.

Who knew the 5 step sales process would come in so handy? I never thought of it that way, but you
1) greet
2) qualify (so, is this your first time here, how long have you guys been in the lifestyle, are y'all from here blah, blah, blah)
3) recommend (ah, well, we'll have to do dinner sometime, etc.)
4) close the sale (I really would like to see if your skin tastes as good as it looks facelick )
5) follow-up (the email the next day, or over breakfast...whichever )

Yep...who'da thunk it?

Pepper

[TNT]

Originally Posted by good times

"So, you want to go fuck?"

Ummm...that's my line I've used it numerous times...it seems to work pretty good.


Teresa

[tribbles]

The best line ever used on us was "we are going to the group room, we want to invite you to come watch and join in if you feel comfortable".

[intuition897]

Usually it went something like this: "Gee this is awkward [nervous laugh]. We really suck at this part of the date. " This was sometimes followed up with a suggestion for something like a massage. Seemed to work okay.

We still really suck at that "transition" thing, though.

[Dooode]

Fun topic, SpooMonkey!

98% of the time, I allow others to make first contact, usually online. If it develops into a date and we meet at a mutual location, I keep the conversation swing-related and our personal lives at the peripheral of the conversation. The transition becomes very easy because the purpose for the meeting is never far from anyone's mind.

Twice (that I can think of) became "we don't match".

The scenerio you painted is one that would almost be a nightmare for me. I can hold a conversation, but I hate small talk. I really suck at it. I only need to know that they're healthy, curious, adventurous ... if I get into politics or philosophical discussions, I might find out something I REALLY don't want to know.

If the discussion remains around swinging, or funny swing stories, or fantasies or rules (or whatever), then the conversation easily turns to "Hey, let's get out of here and go to ... ". Dates typically run 1 to 1 1/2 hours, which is enough to ascertain swing compatibility.

I know that's fast for some people. But I do take a little longer if I'm going to propose marriage.

[She_n_Jaybee]

Depends on where we are. If at a swing club, She will usually tell me we're taking a walk (heading to the play area) and then tell the woman of the other couple (or couples), "we're heading to the back, care to join us?". Once there She has no problem closing the deal. If at a home with another couple, depends. If there's already been a lot of physical play going on: "I think we need to move this to the bedroom". If no play so far and we both agree and feel they both are waiting for some way to broach the subject I might pull out the dice. One has actions, one has body parts. If they are intrigued we'll let them roll them a few times, just to see what comes up. Then have them do whatever comes up to their partner. A few times around the table, and we'll let the roller decide who does the action and who receives the attention. That crosses the touching someone else boundary. From there, modify the rules to direct the flow, until the dice are no longer necessary. There are several different versions, some tamer, some wilder, some male oriented and some female oriented. They have worked for us with first-timers.

The only rule we have that I enforce is that She always sets the pace and makes the decisions. If approached and She says no, I'll make the announcement. I do retain veto power, although I've only used it when she wants to say no, but doesn't want to offend. I'm sure everyone has figured out I'm not afraid to offend.

[pumpkins1970]

We have come to that point a few times ourselves, where you are kinda of like uh...uh...(ok think of something to say stupid!) But a female part of one of the cpls's we have played with really seemed to know how to overcome this. She simply excused herself and went to the bathroom, when she came back her pants were off...we got the hint! Now maybe someday we may use that approach ourselves!

[Tia Vampire]

I think being blunt is the best way too. Everyone knows what they are there for and when someone makes the first move, it takes away that feeling of ,"Are they really interested". :rollseyes We have used " are we going to get this party started or what?", "We would love to meet up again, if that's possible." and "can we seal the frienship with a kiss or a try out."

[fun4Ds]

kinda got me thinkin,the last time we had some guest over we had a wonderfull meal and lots of conversation. me and the mr. had some harley, fishin, sex kinda guy talk. and the girls had everything from kids,cooking,sales, and previous dates, talkin goin on.

its about 1:am

so as im coming out of the bathroom,into the bedroom( they were in the dinningroom) and i just kinda hollerd out " hey i'm nakid in here does anyone want to get nakid?)

then there was an eternaty of silence................... they never said a word.......

then 3 people came smashing each other through the door jumping on the bed for some all out grabbing, sucking and fucking like you wouldn't believe.

what a night to rember.... facelick

so i can't see anything wrong with trying to break the transitional lines

[driveajeepnaked]

I'm usually the one that lights a fire under the conversation, and keeps it on track, after the usual chatter. I'll usually ask if they want to come back to the house and jump in the hot-tub or pool. The hot-tub is usually a good lead in to nekkidness... the sign on the door that says "Nude Only" let's everyone know that if they plan on staying and tubbing, then the clothes come off

Once there are 4 or more bodies in a 4 person tub... things just touch !! Well, there's always the line, "Hey, you really need to try this jet right here...yup, just sit right there... a little to the left..."

V