Transition Lines

[Thrax]

I always wanted to try the line, "There's a party in my pants, you wanna come?," as a launching point, but if I've chatted up a woman or couple long enough I don't want to endanger a potential hook-up by being too glib.

Maybe I'll try it with someone I've played with before, so when some playing seems inevitable I can drop it into the conversation for a laugh...and to get things rolling.

Oh, and I guess I'd have to at least have underwear on to make it topical.

Thrax (Geekin' it to the max)

P.S. The line is actually based on a line from a Barnes and Barnes tune, "Party in My Pants." It may be very obscure, but they're the same duo that debuted their song "Fish Heads (Roly-Poly Fish Heads)" on Saturday Night Live in 1980.

[driveajeepnaked]

Very cool line, Thrax... and I had fun looking up the Fish Heads guys...

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Barnes_...External_links

Anyone heard "The Devil Went Down to Jamaica" parody?? So funny...

V

[Jester]

Awesome thread, love the topic!

It really touches on a very interesting point. Whether it's a couple you arranged a date with via on-line contact or just met in a club, it doesn't matter there is an underlying purpose for the conversation that everyone is aware of. It is to possibly find new playmates. So that is an underlying current, possibly tension of all interaction in those situations. Yet because most of us don't want to come off as pushy or aggressive we tend to stumble a bit at the lets get naked moment. So what do we do, over think the situation and over complicate it.

For us the more difficult situation is the transition when it is a date scenario, generally you have gotten together at a neutral location in a public place. So the flirting, conversation and all is generally more discrete. However to get the play started it requires someone suggesting we all leave a place where we have established a comfort zone and putting ourselves in a possibly awkward situation with people who are still strangers. So how many times have we all come to the end of a night, been standing in the parking lot telling each other what a fun night we just had hanging with them, waiting for them to say something while they are waiting for you to say something and next thing you know both couples are in their cars driving home because no one said anything......

So we kind of learned from a few of those moments that someone needs to put themselves out there, so we have come up with this approach so far. During the night, if it is a couple we want to play with, at some point one of us will say something to the effect of "we are very comfortable with you guys" Based on the response to that we take it from there.

Since we only go to on-premise clubs the transition is easier for us, it just sort of happens. It isn't even like we have an MO or favorite lines, it just seems as if our voyeuristic, curious nature helps us here. At some point I will look around the club and say something like "I wonder if anyone is playing yet?" That usually generates a few comments and then since there is only one way to find out for sure I usually follow that up with a "Time to check out the rooms and see, lets go" Almost always that gets an OK and we all walk into the play area, see couples having sex and get all charged up and the next thing you know we are in a room playing.

[sereneiders]

Great thread. We'¡re stuck at this, too.

Moreover when you're in the other side, and you get it wrong something for a transition line.

We're regulars of this club. We're there, teasing with another couple of regulars. They have way more experience than us, about ten years of going there, they know and joke about this, calling us "newbies", and we go along with the game "right... so we need to learn and you'd could teach us". They casually tell us they didn't saw up "upstairs", we say the truth: we've been there, we can go upstairs, but it isn't the most confortable place for us, since we live close and had no kids, we feel more confortable doing things at home, however we're up to move upstairs.
Later on, we're having fun: there are those long balloons hanging from the ceiling (someone's birthday), the ladies climb on the stage and start dancing by the pole, strip teasing, pleaying with each other, the other husband encourage them, they use to engage in MFMs so he teases a couple of singles around, the thing becomes hotter, my wife give to me some oral with they around, we all make a pause to buy drinks, some other regulars approaches and there's a chit chat that colds down the ambience, and finally the four of us end up alone, a few steps from the stair.

The husband says "well, guys... we're going upstairs" and keep looking at me. I think "ok, this is the transition line", and answer "well... you're the teachers... are you inviting us upstairs?". - "Oh.. I tought you said before you didn't go upstairs!". - "Mmmm I said it isn't the best place for us, but that we can and indeed, we did". - "I see... then, let's go upstairs".

Once there we start looking for a free place, the husband enters in one room while we're in the hall, a couple of times I approach the wife... as I did downstairs all nite long, but she moves away from me, places herself with my wife in between and start a little chit chat with her. I get the message and give her the space she's requiring. The husband appears from this room and calls his wife with his hand. She moves in and lay down on a couch, we wait by the door, confussed, and start looking at each other. I tell my wyfe "look, she suddenly frooze with me, this doesn't feel ok, let's better leave them alone". The problem was, we didn't want to reject them (we like them), nor allow them to suppose we leave because we're not confortable there or with them. The husband comes out, with this tense smile in his face, trying to pick what to say. I give him the way out, telling him the truth "Look, I feel your wife was politely rejecting me, I don't know if she isn't on the mood right now or if she dislikes me, and it doesn't care, I mean, anyway it is fine. You two are great guys and no one is obligued to do anything, so we'll leave you alone". -"Oh well, yes... you know, having fun downstairs is great, too". -"Emmm... yes, right". We enter the room, I kiss the wife on the cheek, my wife gives the husband a kiss on his lips, we wave goodbye and leave them alone. I realized this guy understood we hardly would follow them upstairs, and by telling us "we're going upstairs" he was calling the night off with us.

After two and a half years of going there, all of this keeps being too confussing for us. Go figure, we cannot even tell the difference between normal lines and transition ones from more experienced people... we just took a "good bye" line for a transitional one!

Add to this the fact that I am a very respectfull guy. I mean, I wouldn't touch another woman without having some solid clue that I can do it. Even with regular women who, you can tell, are up to be touched (some even by unknown guys), but... it's a matter of principles, a way to make it clear that I know the rules and I am up to follow them, and we've been told by other regulars they noticed it and appreciate it. However, I also perceive that this is way more easy for "less respectfull" people, so it's even hard for me to know where we are at each moment with another couple.

I guess we have a lot to learn about this.

[harsh]

"We've done so well tonight in getting to know one another; any chance of continuing this on a more intimate level?"

I see it as a non pressure way of imparting your intentions, whether that ends up being tonight, tomorrow night, or next weekend, or maybe later.

[She_n_Jaybee]

Originally Posted by Jester

For us the more difficult situation is the transition when it is a date scenario, generally you have gotten together at a neutral location in a public place. So the flirting, conversation and all is generally more discrete. However to get the play started it requires someone suggesting we all leave a place where we have established a comfort zone and putting ourselves in a possibly awkward situation with people who are still strangers. So how many times have we all come to the end of a night, been standing in the parking lot telling each other what a fun night we just had hanging with them, waiting for them to say something while they are waiting for you to say something and next thing you know both couples are in their cars driving home because no one said anything......

This sort of describes how She and I met (well, technically renewed acquaintances, We spent 6 years as classmates, although never friends). We had seen each other at our 10 year reunion, but I was married and she was with someone. Fifteen years later at our 25th reunion, she gets me to dance and after I spend 45 minutes debating whether I'm ready to become involved again, I go to talk with her. Some of the never stopped partying crowd talk a bunch of us into heading to a bar, just a block away. Too smokey so we all head to Taco Bell for a late night snack and some talk. By this time She has latched on to me like a bulldog and I'm not complaining. A few more hours of talk and we're finally sitting in her car alone. It's very late, and I have yet to make a move. Here's my problem: She is staying at her parents house (her house is a 75 mile drive) and my place is just 10 minutes away, plus I live alone. The signals are there, but the house is a complete disaster. Too long as a bachelor and never at home, I was afraid of scaring her off. So I do make my move (She says "Finally!"), we make out for awhile until it's obvious we both are ready to get down to some business. Then I have to put her off, finally agreeing to meet the next afternoon. This time, I had to tell her my two reasons for not taking her the 1/2 mile to my place. First, "it's a disaster and I would be embarassed, let me clean it up first", and "I'm tired of jumping right into bed and finding out that we're not on the same page. Either the woman wants a relationship I don't, or vice versa".

Fortunately, She has some patience. The following weekend I made the trip to her house and it was definitely worth the wait!

We now return you to our regularly scheduled topic.

[SuAndBud]

Su generally says we (not I - WE) need to go shower. That's not an invite to all pile into the cubicle, it's just her way of saying that time's getting on and we'll feel like shit in the morning, otherwise.

Bud might say "you wanna go for a shower, baby" to Su. (Which can sometimes mean let's all pile in there).

The shower (or maybe the hot tub if you're lucky enough to own one) is the perfect way of saying let's get naked - clean and naked.

[JustAskJulie]

To me when it comes to meet people in vanilla settings, it's hard not to end up awkward... either because of a lack of chemistry and trying to transition to "uh, we gotta go"... or if there is chemistry and trying to transition to "hey you wanna go home with us?". This is a good thread, I'd like to see some more added to it.

[twohots4u2]

We invited two other couples we had never met to join us and try a guy's Sybian. After we had talked, snacked, drank, watched videos of gals on Sybians, and got to know each other, the three couples went upstairs to the bedroom and watched the guy show us how the Sybian worked. We were standing around the bed and the Sybian, clothed, and everyone was hesitating. None of the women wanted to go first. Finally one guy said, "The last gal to get undressed goes first." Suddenly women's clothes were flying everywhere. After a pause, my gal said, "We are not going to do anything while there is any guy with clothes still on." In about 30 seconds, everyone was nude, each of the the gals had one or more dicks in their hands, and the party was on.

[sweet_tna]

Hmmm. . . I haven't had too many problems getting things started . . . if we're on a date in a vanilla setting, then, "Hey, this place is getting a bit crowded/noisy, wanna' move this to a quieter place?"

Once in our place/hotel room, "Here. You. Now," seems to work real well for getting things started. And yes, I've literally said those very words. Subtlety is not my strong suit.

=)

[cplnuswing]

Originally Posted by good times

Yes please, let's have some ideas, we suck at this.

Since we are so bad at this, I haven't really got any good ones to share that we have tried. Lets face it, to get us in the sack you need to be pretty direct.

Us too. Great thread, wish we would have seen this one before now. Since I find this the most difficult aspect of swinging, I always envy some people's ability to make it seem so easy and effortless.

The Mrs is usually more shy than me, but once she makes a connection she is much better at sealing the deal than I am. When we make the invitation, she is the one that gets it done. When talking to the other guy, she uses something like "They (referring to me and his wife) seem to be hitting it off really good, you guys interested in spending some time together?" or "You're a lot of fun, do you think she's interested in going some where a little more private? I know he is." She then lets me know, he let's her know, and things kinda fall into place.

The best line we have heard is the wife of the other couple said to the Mrs "Do you mind if I take your husband in the bedroom and ravage him while y'all have fun in the other bedroom?" Direct and to the point , I just can't pull the trigger on anything close to that yet.

[notaswingeryet]

It would seem that the female half could use any line and transistion into play, or back out if there was akward silence. We men on the other hand have to be carefull with our lines lest they come off as crude and pushy.
I once had an aquaitance (can't say he was a friend) who could ask anyone "wannafuck?" with no shame. Amazing thing is he usally scored. Me, I'm going to sound like a bad teen movie if I try that aproach. Abought the only line I ever had any success with (not in a swinger situation) was "Would you like to try something different?" Perhaps that could be used in this context.

[Hot Raleigh Cpl]

Before L and I hooked up, the best one I heard was "well, S, time to get naked." I could tell from the tone it meant more than just getting naked.

The "transition" line that L uses very successfully is to take off her clothes and tell everyone "Looks like I'm the only one not overdressed." Works every time. You'd be amazed how quickly things transition after that.

S and L, Hot Raleigh Cpl

[Swingercast]

Originally Posted by notaswingeryet

It would seem that the female half could use any line and transistion into play, or back out if there was akward silence. We men on the other hand have to be carefull with our lines lest they come off as crude and pushy.

Excellent point. I feel the same way. I let my wife do the "transitioning" that way I can be certain that we are travelling at the same speed.

I've had the opportunity to watch her in action and some of my favorites so far have been....

1. The Swing Set Game from greatsexgames.com - Forget the game, just play a few cards as an ice-breaker.

2. "I really like your (tatoo, piercing, breasts, panties, outfit). Do you mind if I get a closer look?

3. We're going upstairs (to the play area) if you are comfortable come up and join us.

John

[K&JIntimates]

Not very experienced but here are the transitional lines from our experiences.

1.) We're thinking of going back onto the big bed, would you two like to join us?
2.) Would you like to go into one of the back rooms for some massaging and touching?
3.) The husband of the other couple said something that led naturally into, "And with that, we'd like to invite you to join us in our hotel room."

The line I like best was Peppers, "I really would like to see if your skin tastes as good as it looks." I think that one has some wonderful possibilities.