When do you let the other couple know your limits?

[JustAskJulie]

As others said there is no specific time to let the other couple know your limits, all I know is that we make sure it does come up at some point before we decide whether or not to play together. It seems like when talking to other couples one of the most common first questions is "So what you are looking for?" (meaning are you here to swap, threesome, f/f, etc). Assuming that the response from that question leads us to believe that we are all on the same page, the next question could easily be "what are your rules or limits?". It's pointless for the question to come up if there's no interest or possibility of a connection.

[MrsPandMe]

Originally Posted by ohash01

As for the "cum" warning. You can tell them a billion times before you start, but from experience, men forget that you would like a warning, so tell him several times before AND ask him IN the process. "Are you close babe? Is this gonna make you cum? Tell me.".

I'm not sure if you have the same issue as I do, but if I'm not given warning, I had the tendency to get a little gaggy...however...if I am given warning I can adjust my tongue to kind of block the little hangy-ball that gets hit and makes me gag.

Ya know... I've been cumming for a long time now, and it seems to me that it's physiologically impossible to NOT know when you're going to cum. Anyone who's in the lifestyle I would have to assume has had a fair amount of sex and/or experience with masturbation to know the signs, so I'm inclined to think a violation of the "don't cum without warning me" rule is intentional. Ergo, a general lack of respect. Not good times, IMO.

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