Who is your first?

couplewanting50 · 08-16-2006, 07:55 PM

We have been going to some club dances and enjoying the group room. It seems our pattern is making love with one another first, and I realize I think that is what we are supposed to do, even though there are no rules.

Out of curiosity, what do you do? When with others are you sexual first with your mate, or do you often start with other partners? It seems that part of the thrill could be in playing with someone else first.

Please offer your thoughts and experience.....

Spoomonkey · 08-16-2006, 07:59 PM

We typically play with our playmates first. Sure - there have been times (rare) where me and Mrs Spoo will start out together, which is just fine with me since I have thing for hot brunettes

But most of the time, when we get to a room, there has been enough flirting and anticipation that we pair off.

It is different that you have been led to believe that playing with your spouse first was preferred. I wonder if that is a thing at the particular club you are attending? Sometimes the cultures at different clubs take on a life of their own.

Spoomonkey

couplewanting50 · 08-16-2006, 08:04 PM

That is just a thought I have had, it does not stem from anything that others do. In fact, given the generally group play atmosphere there, it seems possible that most others do not begin with their mate.

biblonde · 08-16-2006, 08:32 PM

With us usually I start with the other lady and get things going. But if she is straight...I start with the other man. Only a couple times did me and hubby start (which is great too!!). We really dont have any rule as to who starts with who...we just let it happen.

Spoomonkey · 08-16-2006, 08:47 PM

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Originally Posted by couplewanting50

That is just a thought I have had, it does not stem from anything that others do.

Oh, duh... I get it now... Sorry - I am a monkey and things have to be explained to me twice...

So for you - it seems right to start with your mate. You know - there is nothing wrong with that - and if we walked into a room with a couple we were interested in, that might not be what we expected, but we would go with it and probably really enjoy ourselves.

Spoomonkey

Mrs Spoomonkey · 08-16-2006, 09:11 PM

Just an added note on how us monkeys behave...regardless of how we start we ALWAYS finish the night with each other. When we get home depending on how 'hot' the night got we may be at each other as we are getting out of the car or walking in the door. Other times we may shower first (together) and continue it in the bedroom

Either way though there is no sleep for us monkeys until we have ended the night with each other.

Mrs Spoomonkey

biblonde · 08-16-2006, 09:14 PM

I agree with Mrs. Spoo....we always end the night attacking each other..even if it is 4am..he he he...

couplewanting50 · 08-16-2006, 09:44 PM

Not having any experience, it seemed right.... or, it was simply the beginning. After having gotten really hot at the dance in response to another woman, it emerges for me that I could have the desire to be with that woman first.

As for your other remarks..... would that be called monkey business?

Spoomonkey · 08-16-2006, 09:46 PM

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Originally Posted by couplewanting50

would that be called monkey business?

Monkey Business, TM, LLC, Patent Pending

Spoomonkey

**good times** · 08-16-2006, 09:46 PM

We are the same as the others, we normally start with the playmates, almost always, but if they want to start with their own partner first that is cool with us too.

ShellyM · 08-17-2006, 08:09 AM

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Originally Posted by Mrs Spoomonkey

Just an added note on how us monkeys behave...regardless of how we start we ALWAYS finish the night with each other. When we get home depending on how 'hot' the night got we may be at each other as we are getting out of the car or walking in the door. Other times we may shower first (together) and continue it in the bedroom

Either way though there is no sleep for us monkeys until we have ended the night with each other.

Mrs Spoomonkey

I think this is a great rule of thumb.

Amanda69 · 08-17-2006, 09:24 AM

Others first and then save the best for last....

EvilMJ · 08-17-2006, 12:26 PM

We pretty much always start with others. I figure I am going to have lots of time with my hubby and I am pretty limited with amount of time I have with the other couple so I want to make the most of it.

Can I send an application to Monkey Business? I run EVIL DEEDS and think it might be a nice affilate.

LikeMinds321 · 08-17-2006, 01:05 PM

We don't have clubs that have play rooms. So playing in this environment hasn't come up yet.

But when we do play we go at it for 2-3 hours and by the time we're through we're too pooped to have sex with each other, again.

During play, we make the decision who to start with based on the couple and what we are all comfortable with. But no matter how it starts, we always mix it up during the play.

LM

Spoomonkey · 08-17-2006, 06:01 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by EvilMJ

Can I send an application to Monkey Business? I run EVIL DEEDS and think it might be a nice affilate.

Sure!

We have a nice package to offer you

Spoomonkey

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08-16-2006, 07:55 PM	#1 (permalink)
couplewanting50 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 233 Location: Iowa Status: couple	Who is your first? We have been going to some club dances and enjoying the group room. It seems our pattern is making love with one another first, and I realize I think that is what we are supposed to do, even though there are no rules. Out of curiosity, what do you do? When with others are you sexual first with your mate, or do you often start with other partners? It seems that part of the thrill could be in playing with someone else first. Please offer your thoughts and experience.....

08-16-2006, 07:59 PM	#2 (permalink)
Spoomonkey Chimpin' Ain't Easy Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 6,739 Location: Ohio Status: Married Monkeys - will you be our vine? Swing Lifestyle Name:Spoomonkey	Re: Who is your first? We typically play with our playmates first. Sure - there have been times (rare) where me and Mrs Spoo will start out together, which is just fine with me since I have thing for hot brunettes But most of the time, when we get to a room, there has been enough flirting and anticipation that we pair off. It is different that you have been led to believe that playing with your spouse first was preferred. I wonder if that is a thing at the particular club you are attending? Sometimes the cultures at different clubs take on a life of their own. Spoomonkey
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08-16-2006, 08:04 PM	#3 (permalink)
couplewanting50 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 233 Location: Iowa Status: couple	Re: Who is your first? That is just a thought I have had, it does not stem from anything that others do. In fact, given the generally group play atmosphere there, it seems possible that most others do not begin with their mate.

08-16-2006, 08:32 PM	#4 (permalink)
biblonde Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2003 Posts: 1,020 Location: sacramento Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:curious1918	Re: Who is your first? With us usually I start with the other lady and get things going. But if she is straight...I start with the other man. Only a couple times did me and hubby start (which is great too!!). We really dont have any rule as to who starts with who...we just let it happen.

08-16-2006, 09:11 PM	#6 (permalink)
Mrs Spoomonkey Disney!All rides are open Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 1,758 Location: Ohio Status: Married Swing Lifestyle Name:spoomonkey	Re: Who is your first? Just an added note on how us monkeys behave...regardless of how we start we ALWAYS finish the night with each other. When we get home depending on how 'hot' the night got we may be at each other as we are getting out of the car or walking in the door. Other times we may shower first (together) and continue it in the bedroom Either way though there is no sleep for us monkeys until we have ended the night with each other. Mrs Spoomonkey
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08-16-2006, 09:14 PM	#7 (permalink)
biblonde Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2003 Posts: 1,020 Location: sacramento Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:curious1918	Re: Who is your first? I agree with Mrs. Spoo....we always end the night attacking each other..even if it is 4am..he he he...

08-16-2006, 09:44 PM	#8 (permalink)
couplewanting50 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 233 Location: Iowa Status: couple	Re: Who is your first? Not having any experience, it seemed right.... or, it was simply the beginning. After having gotten really hot at the dance in response to another woman, it emerges for me that I could have the desire to be with that woman first. As for your other remarks..... would that be called monkey business?

08-16-2006, 09:46 PM	#10 (permalink)
good times Mod Squad Member Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 6,919 Location: Reno, Nevada Status: Married to Mrs Good Times Swing Lifestyle Name:randp	Re: Who is your first? We are the same as the others, we normally start with the playmates, almost always, but if they want to start with their own partner first that is cool with us too.
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08-17-2006, 09:24 AM	#12 (permalink)
Amanda69 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 907 Location: Mississauga, ON Canada Status: couple	Re: Who is your first? Others first and then save the best for last....
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08-17-2006, 12:26 PM	#13 (permalink)
EvilMJ Pure Evil..In a cute suit Join Date: Aug 2004 Posts: 2,497 Location: Nova Scotia Status: Couple	Re: Who is your first? We pretty much always start with others. I figure I am going to have lots of time with my hubby and I am pretty limited with amount of time I have with the other couple so I want to make the most of it. Can I send an application to Monkey Business? I run EVIL DEEDS and think it might be a nice affilate.
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08-17-2006, 01:05 PM	#14 (permalink)
LikeMinds321 I'll think about it Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 10,099 Location: With Wild Things Status: Married Female	Re: Who is your first? We don't have clubs that have play rooms. So playing in this environment hasn't come up yet. But when we do play we go at it for 2-3 hours and by the time we're through we're too pooped to have sex with each other, again. During play, we make the decision who to start with based on the couple and what we are all comfortable with. But no matter how it starts, we always mix it up during the play. LM

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