How long between when you started talking about it to actually swinging

[Gena]

How long did it take you to go from just discussioning swinging until your first experience?

[Darkblue]

3 weeks!! and thats only because we didnt want to visit a club on our own!!


Steve

[NandTfromCA]

10 years of talking about fantasies before discussing it seriously
1 year from discussing with intent it to deciding to meet people
3 weeks from meeting our first swinger friends to full swapping with them

[Mr. Truelove]

Talking about threesomes for about as long as I can remember, maybe 8 years?

I broke the topic of swinging to her about 8 months ago or so.

We hope to have our first Meet Up in September, so sometime after that should probably be our first experience.

[good times]

About a year of research and discussion, then one exploritory visit to an on-premise club. Second visit we jumped right in and have been having a great time since. Almost 4 years now since that second club visit, time sure flies when your having fun.

[MoonLightKiss]

Been married 5 years, together for 6.
Fantasized about threesomes entire time.
Talked about an open marraige seriously one time about 3 1/2 years ago.
Decided not to that our marraige was not strong enough.
Got curious again six months ago.
Found this board just a little bit after that.
Got all the answers I needed here.
Had first experience just a bit over a month ago. Not sure exactly how long I don't have my calendar in front of me, and I am exhausted right now.
Looking forward to many more times.

[Gena]

Thanks for answers

[WesternSwing]

We were married four years, together six at the time. We started talking about swinging about two years into our marriage. It was more along the lines of "what if" since we had noticed allot of sexual tension between us and a certain set of neighbors. We had talked many times about possibilities and played-out fantasies with sex toys, etc.

But, it didn't happen for two years and from there is was quite by accident. We met a couple at a party that happened to be swingers and they took an interest in us. Three weeks later we swung with them for the first time. We've been in the Lifestyle now about 2-1/2 years.

Mr. WS

[Menage_a_Trois]

Been married for 10 years, started talking about the lifestyle before we were married, attened our first club about 6 months after we were married and met a couple and did full swap the first visit. They ended up becoming friends of ours and we stayed close to them for several years. We had a blast that first night and haven't looked back since.

Mr and Mrs. Menage

[rpu3]

Been married 10 years, together 11. I had broached the subject about a year into our marriage, but it just never was a serious consideration.

I wanted to try Hedo but my husband really didn't want to go. So, I did some research and found Desire Resort. Talked him into it in March 04, and that was an eye opener. After a lot of talking, etc., we finally did a swap in 11/04. That one experience went badly for us on multiple levels. So, we chose not to do anything while we just went on with our lives and reevaluated what we wanted out of swinging.

Re-entered the scene in May 06, and while there have been a couple of extremely minor bumps that just have to be chalked up to a learning curve. We are really enjoying it, those we have met (even if nothing happens), and each other - and I don't think we are leaving again...

[prettylady]

Still talking, and talking, and talking.
Soon, I hope, we will be ready. Until you are both positive. Keep talking, and talking. Well you get the picture.
Your friend,
Prettylady

[swing52001]

Missed a golden opportunity with another couple many years ago. Been wondering about it since. Started talking about it back then-and the reply was head bang Still talking, but it has turned into conversation in the last few months. Maybe there's something in the future to share? I sure hope so.

[Amanda69]

Just over two years, he had swung previously but I was not interested in trying it for a while...Once I did never looked back.

[Fred&Wilma]

Let's see
Wilma mentioned it 25+ years ago.
Mentioned it again about 4 years ago.
We discussed it over copious amounts of wine about a year ago.
My reply has been - yabba dabba doo!!!
Still waiting, sometimes she is all for it and other times very very hesitant.
Up and down like a damn toilet seat.
It is like they say, go only as fast as the slowest partner.
Wilma openly admits that if she were to take the step, she would be like a kid turned loose in a candy store and I think this is what gives her pause for concern. On one hand her sexual side wants it, then the other side holds her back.
The good news is that she turned 50 this year and I think she is assessing things she has always wanted to do, but figured there was time later.

Fred

[twohots4u2]

Six hours. We were driving in New York City about two months after we started dating and she asked what the sign, Le Trapeze, was. I told her that it was an on-premises swing club. She had heard of them, had never been, but thought it might be fun. We talked about it, and six hours later we were ringing their bell. By agreement, we only soft swung that night, but talked about it almost non-stop for three weeks, until we went back again. The second time we visited we had our first full swap, and have been having fun ever since.