Benefits of swinging?

[NYCcouple29]

What do you feel that some of the benefits of swinging are? What would consider the benefits are? How has swinging changed your relationship?
-Paul and Sherry

[Alura]

More than anything else we believe swinging promotes a feeling of comfort between marriage partners. If you can have sex with others and talk about it later, there is no limit to what you can discuss and work out. It takes excellent communication to be able to swing in the first place. Swinging only enhances that ability to learn more about each other.

Alura

[Flori_DAMAN]

Great question!

To me the greatest advantage is being able to socialize with people that are not all bound up with societies normal inhibitions.

Go to a regular social event and you just won't see the interraction on such a personal level as you will with people in the lifestyle.

The pleasure of the females prancing around in there little nighties feeling so disirable is uplifting (in many ways).

There is plenty of normal stuff too. People talk politics, kids, current events etc. but can feel free to talk about one of the greatest pleasures God has given us, the pleasure of sex.

Sex is discussed in a "hehe" manner at most other social events and to me it minimizes the true gift we have.

On a personal level swinging does in fact open up a new dimension in communication. If you love someone there is no greater pleasure than watching that person have fun. Watching Tam moan in pure delight while she is getting it is just as much fun for me as it is for her ( i think )

The real fun is discussing it before we have sex alone. People that have never experienced this cannot possibly know the delights involved. John

[Sweetdevil]

Wow, I never thought I would use the phrase, "...swinging has brought use closer."

We are able to express our desires, fantasies and thoughts about someone we find sexually attractive. This has only happen because we are more in love, which swinging has assisted. By no means is swinging the only reason, but swinging has open the door for better communication.

Our growth as sexual beings, espically for my wife, has allowed her to be with another man and have my blessing, without feeling all the social controls placed on women. I can have the excitement of another woman without cheating on my wife.

We both know who we love and who we are going home with.

Also, we trust each other more than we can only assume if we were not swingers. The last thing either one of us want, is to hurt the other with lies and cheating.

For, us swinging has helped in our marriage and personal growth.

[MiCpl]

I don't know that it's really changed our relationship at all. It does allow us to be who we are rather than trying to act like we don't have desires outside of each other.

One obvious benefit is that both of us can have sex with other people, instead of just fantasizing about it. Being able to have sex with others in front of your spouse means that you are fully open before your spouse. Also I as a male am thrilled to see other guys getting hardons because of my wife. When I see her getting pleasure from them it makes me so happy for her. Fiona had always fantasized about doing it with two guys, and when we started swinging and she got to do it, it was so fulfilling for her. Her fulfilment makes me ecstatic.

Ash.

[Brian and Jo]

For my wife and I the benefit of swinging was that it saved our marriage. After we had been married for 15 years we had become bored with each other, had both had several affairs and were drifting apart. We decided to give swinging a try. We met another couple through their ad, were attacted to them and they to us. The first time the four of us had sex together was fantastic. They were first timers too and we all agreed that swapping partners and fucking while we watched and listened to the other couple as they fucked and came was extremely exciting. We went on to make many other swinging friends with whom we swing regularly as couples or in small groups of three or four couples. We are also members of a swingers club and participate in large parties with as many as thirty couples present. We really enjoy group sex because we can enjoy several partners in the course of one evening. Watching each other as we play with a group of other couples is especially exciting for us.
The benefit of all this is that our interest in having sex with other partners is out in the open. Before we became swingers we were cheating on each other but now we can explore and enjoy new sexual experiences together. We have learnt many tricks and techniques which we have applied to our own sexual relationship which has become much more interesting and satisfying.

[thump29]

Hi! Since we started in this lifestyle our relationship has became alot better due to we now have better communication than we did before. We believe in sharing everything with each other not hiding anything. Communication has really helped out.

Since we started it has added alot of excitement and spice to our relationship now. It allows us to explore our fantasys and desires with each other.

We have been in this lifestyle now for a little over seven years now and the changes from this lifestyle have been great

[EricSacto2]

We've had a couple of foursomes and what we gained was ideas for new posistions. Spooning was introduced to us during a threesome in college. I also really enjoy watching my wife have sex with another man.

[phone bugs]

Hi,
this is our first post.
What is Spooning?

[bear_n_bunny]

Originally posted by Mary&Bill
We are new to all of this but I was just wondering how has the lifestyle benefited you and your partner?

Easy; increased communication and trust. Sure there is the great sex but that is mild by comparison to everything else. In just approaching the idea of entering this lifestyle, we discussed so many aspects of ourselves and our relationship that we became even closer. There is also something wonderous about not being jealous of other people. I now know that Bear can play with someone else, have a hell of a good time, but it never touches what we have with each other.

I should also add, we've met the neatest people in the lifestyle. Fun, loving couples who are just great fun to be with whether there is play or not. Face it, seeing people naked makes everyone more relaxed.

-- Bunny

[yhungry]

Originally posted by phone bugs
Hi,
this is our first post.
What is Spooning?

Welcome to the board

Go to http://www.sexualpositionsfree.com/index.html

You can look up any position and see how to do it.

Have fun

Rich

[OhioCouple]

Originally posted by Mary&Bill
We are new to all of this but I was just wondering how has the lifestyle benefited you and your partner?

We have benefited by meeting some really neat people, from all around the country, for that matter the world. People we might never have crossed paths with otherwise.

And, like Bunny said....regardless of if there is play or not, most in this lifestyle are fun loving and you can make good friends within a circle of people that you can talk about anything with.

You can't exactly ask your co-worker about the best lube or discuss the latest bedroom toy. That is unless of course they are swingers too!

[phone bugs]

Originally Posted by yhungry

You can look up any position and see how to do it.

Have fun

Rich

Thank you for the answer and info.
We WILL have fun.

D & A

[ratimadan]

We are also very new to the idea of swinging or sharing mates for sex.

However, we can say unequivocally that the considering the lifestyle has opened up communication between us. We are able to discuss openly our fantasies and mutual sexual desire for another couples' wife or hubby. Now we can tell each other what qualities we would like to see in another person to make us want to engage in sexual intimacy and intercourse.

Also, we have discarded the old taboos that sanctioned sex between husband and wife exclusively. We can now say that desire for multiple partners for sex is universal and openly and honestly acting on it is indeed healthy. That is, consensual sex between couples is not sin; it is fun and part of life to be enjoyed fully.

We are hoping to make many great friends and lloking forward to openly sharing partners with likeminded couples for social and sexual intercourse.

Our hope is that the lifestyle becomes more socially acceptable and is destigamatized so that great many couples participate and enjoy the joys of sex in all its manifold possibilities than is presently the case.