Benefits of swinging?

[Texasfuncouple]

In a recent post regarding New Swingers on our blog we wrote:

"If you have a healthy happy marriage, then hang on for the most exhilarating, sexual liberating, marriage intensifying, communication inducing ride of a lifetime."

We stand by it. Our marriage both inside and outside is better since entering the lifestyle, and it was pretty damn great to begin with!

~Texasfun

[willyoats]

When we got married, my wife was ready to do it all the time. I had hang-ups from various childhood experiences. We were seriously mismatched in the area of sex. Fortunately, there were so many other things that kept us close that we hung in there until the sex was adequate. That went on for many years. Finally, I raised the question of swinging and she went along.

Wow, what a difference it made for me to loosen up at last. I loved watching her have so much pleasure. We learned new positions and made a lot of friends. I made love to some wonderful women. I fucked others just for the fun of it. We had threesomes, foursomes, and moresomes. No fantasy went unfulfilled (well, hardly any). Our sex life went to the moon and back. We had enough screwing in ten years to last most people a lifetime.!!

Now, many years later, she doesn't swing any more (hormone deficiency), but I have a regular swing partner that I see every couple of months. All is sweet. Besides, we have those wonderful memories of all the great times, all the great women, all the great guys. That will be enough to hold us to the end.

[sweet_tna]

1) The chance to finally let my wilder side out (very empowering)
2) The sex
3) People we've met/friends we've made
4) Increased volume and quality of communication
5) Increased self-confidence

=)

[Tia Vampire]

We are totally open with one another. Things that other couple hide from each other for years, we find it easy to talk about. If we think it, we speak about it.

[MikeandDawn]

For us the benefits are numerous. First, we have a steady M parter we play with. Dawn is in her sexual prime, and sometimes I don't feel like I can keep up with her all the time. But many times when I don't really feel like doing anything, and Dawn and our partner do, I let them go for a few minutes and then walk in on them, and most times that's enough to get my wick started, if you know what I mean. And the times when I'm not home and Dawn needs fulfilling, I know there's someone I trust there who can give her what she needs. When Dawn and I are together alone, both our orgasms are still as intense and as frequent as when we first married. And when all three of us play together, we get to do certain things that two people can't do by themselves.

[twohots4u2]

We were discussing this during the past weekend. We had dinner with another (vanilla) couple who always seem to be jealous about each other. He made some snide comments about how his wife wore something sexy to the grocery store and the vegetable clerk was eying her. She put him down about how he was always "checking out" every woman they passed.

Afterwards we had a great time laughing about them and how their petty jealousness got in their way of enjoying the finer things of life, each other. We felt that swinging has removed all that trash from our lives, as we revel in watching the other enjoy themselves sexual with others, both male and female. What a delight that is!

So, as a result of swinging, we feel closer to each other, more confident in our love for each other, and have a happy, more relaxed relationship as a result.

[BCinIN]

Originally Posted by Flori_DAMAN

Great question!

To me the greatest advantage is being able to socialize with people that are not all bound up with societies normal inhibitions.

Go to a regular social event and you just won't see the interraction on such a personal level as you will with people in the lifestyle.

The pleasure of the females prancing around in there little nighties feeling so disirable is uplifting (in many ways).

There is plenty of normal stuff too. People talk politics, kids, current events etc. but can feel free to talk about one of the greatest pleasures God has given us, the pleasure of sex.

Sex is discussed in a "hehe" manner at most other social events and to me it minimizes the true gift we have.

On a personal level swinging does in fact open up a new dimension in communication. If you love someone there is no greater pleasure than watching that person have fun. Watching Tam moan in pure delight while she is getting it is just as much fun for me as it is for her ( i think )

The real fun is discussing it before we have sex alone. People that have never experienced this cannot possibly know the delights involved. John

I couldn't have come close to saying it better. The first time we went to our favorite club, we had agreed within twenty minutes, "Hey, this is like a bar, but much, much better!" People are laid-back, open, and not self-conscious. The men are friendly and the women are relaxed--just about the opposite we've found at any bar. Throw in the on-premise aspect, and the deal is sealed for life! The only time we go to regular bars now is to meet couples from Swing Lifestyle, or because driving to the club (which is really far from us) would be a logistical problem on a given night.

As for discussing swinging encounters before having sex alone: to anyone that hasn't done this, do. You'd be amazed at how much it super-charges the whole experience!

[Snappy1970]

It has had its ups and down's (lol). But I would have to agree it has been one of the greatest choices we have ever made. We had a great relationship before joining the lifestyle. Since joining though it has really enhanced or relationship, it's not a love conection you are making but a carnal conection between 2,3,4 or more what ever your number maybe.
It is not for everyone, but for us it has been fantastic and continues to be one of our greatest adventure's ever.
If there was a little more openess in the world I think people would be a lot better off.

[JustAskJulie]

So what have been the best benefits of swinging for you and your relationship?

[SW_PA_Couple]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

So what have been the best benefits of swinging for you and your relationship?

Swinging gets us up and out the door. Without outside activities, we'd be sitting around all day doing stuff like Swingersboard.

~Michael

[NealnAnji]

Benefits of swinging are all of the above and more. Simply stated a couple learns to separate sex as an enjoyable activity in itself, apart from duty, love, sexist attitudes, etc. And swinging also gets rid of the jealousy factor in a married couple's relationship.

When another guy pays attention to your wife implying that he finds her so attractive that he would love to fuck her, that seems to be the height of a compliment that the hubby can get.

Since swinging invlolves social as well as sexual intercourse with another couple's mate, one enhances his/her social as well as sexual skills. It is an awesome site to see a guy slip his erect dick in your wife's pussy and fuck her to orgasm while she watches the other guy's wife engulf her hubby's penis in her vagina and the foursome fuck to orgasm.

[lulowa]

Originally Posted by Flori_DAMAN

Great question!

To me the greatest advantage is being able to socialize with people that are not all bound up with societies normal inhibitions.

Go to a regular social event and you just won't see the interraction on such a personal level as you will with people in the lifestyle.

The pleasure of the females prancing around in there little nighties feeling so disirable is uplifting (in many ways).

There is plenty of normal stuff too. People talk politics, kids, current events etc. but can feel free to talk about one of the greatest pleasures God has given us, the pleasure of sex.

Sex is discussed in a "hehe" manner at most other social events and to me it minimizes the true gift we have.

On a personal level swinging does in fact open up a new dimension in communication. If you love someone there is no greater pleasure than watching that person have fun. Watching Tam moan in pure delight while she is getting it is just as much fun for me as it is for her ( i think )

The real fun is discussing it before we have sex alone. People that have never experienced this cannot possibly know the delights involved. John

I AGREE WITH THAT

[lulowa]

I Believe The Benefit Of Swinging Is Watching My Wife Getting Fucked By Another Man

[Fantasy01]

First and formost I want to thank all of you who took the time to give your answers. I have tried in the past to explain what the benifits are from enjoying the lifestyle as my ex-wife and I had share. No we are no longer together due to fact that I let alcohol get the better of me but not any longer. The same benifit my ex and I shared was open communication which I turely believe is the utmost importance in a relationship. I will gladly show your answers to my wife and maybe she will believe what Ive been trying, unsuccessfully I guess, to explain to her since we got married. Thanks again

[LFM2]

Swinging has brought many benefits to our marriage.
-- Better communication
-- Trusting each other implicitly.
-- More self-confidence for both of us
-- A much better social life
-- We've met some great people in this lifestyle
-- More passion between us. Our sex life outside our marriage is good, but it's abso-freaking-lutely fantastic just between us!