Benefits of swinging?

[b_and_sc]

This would sound crazy to our 'non-swing' friends, but it really has brought us closer to each other. We talk now more than ever...about sex, our thoughts, politics, etc...ANYTHING!! We just communicate more!!!

And our sex life without friends has gotten MUCH hotter!!! I don't feel embarrassed about my body, my wants, etc


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[bear_n_bunny]

The least of it for us is the sex. It's not that I don't enjoy the chance to fulfill a few fantasies or the sheer pleasure of the acts. It is the fact that no one does it for me like my Bear. If swining were just about the sex, I'd give it up without a second thought.

It's all the other great things it has brought that keeps us in the lifestyle. First, and foremost, is the friends. Then there is the additional spark and passion after we go out playing as mentioned above by Spoonmonkey. Then there is great social part of the lifestyle. Swingers are great fun to be around. The couples all seem to be more in love with each other, more passionate with each other, and just enjoy life more.

We went out to a club last night and it was filled with 40+ aged swing couples being wild, crazy and having a blast. I can't remember the last time I saw so much laughing, hugging, and mugging go on (unless it was our last party). Since we've become active in the lifestyle I find I don't want to spend that much time with vanilla couples who seem more concerned with work and/or bitching about each other, than loving each other.

-- Bunny

[NotsoNew]

The great friends that we have met. And we also love to meet people that are so happy and secure in their own relationships...much different than the "real" world.

[midnightpassion]

we would have to say the close friendships. we have made that swinging has brought to us. is top on our list. there has been so many times we have gotten together with others after getting to know them. and we all got taken to higher stages of pleasure in every thing the 4 of us have done together.you can almost become as one with each other.

For me it is simple.

Its about fulfilling fantasies.

What better gift can you give someone that you truly love than having their fantasies fulfilled without guilt or remorse.




Oh Yeah,

And it is just so damn fun!!

[bugaboos]

We can talk about anything!!! I never felt as though we had limits before, but now everything is free game, and there are rarely hurt feelings.

We get to do things we had at one time considered to be little more than bedroom talk.

We get experience..and bring that back to each other--how can that be bad??

And for me, since I don't go to work everyday and we're living in a new place.. it's a good social interaction for me. One that I would not have otherwise.

What a fun question!

[ratimadan]

Great question and some great and honest answers! Everything that has been said is true and more.

For us, a married couple of two decades, the act of swinging seems so natural. We human beings are inherently polygamous and the desire for sexual intercourse with someone other than one's spose or s/o can be overpowering. It seems we as swingers are able to give honest expression to the natural desires without a sense of guilt.

Just imagine a couple you have known for some time, or, a couple you have recently met, and, have a great chemistry with. You have great time socializing. Now you want to elevate the friendship to a higher plane. What better way to do this than to swap mates for intimacy and erotic exchange that leads to mutually fulfilling sexual intercourse! And, it strengthens an already secure marriage!

While straight couples cheat on their life partners and fuck someone else's wife/hubby, we swingers are able to fulfill our desires in the most natural way

[JonnyBlaze]

alot of relationships dont last after someone cheats. you take that threat away then what else could break you up? i just recently had my first experience sharing my girl of 13 years with another guy. and i feel more in love. watching him with her made me think more about how i am with her. i realized i rush things too much. not anymore

also, the sex afterwards was great

im sure ill find more benifits after more experiences

[WhosBtchAmI]

Truth . . .

Honesty . . . is probably the # 1 benifit. Knowing that we can be honest about something that MOST (casual society)would consider *wrong* and not have to worry about what each other would think. Knowing that once the MAIN faticy of swinging was up in the air ( untill it had initialy been fullfilled ) that hey if you don't mind me fanitsising about being with other ppl or seeing u with other pple then I KNOW I don't have to be embarassed about any of my other crazy sounding fantisies. Knowing that I can go out and screw 5 ppl in one night and come home not having to worry about jumping in the shower so's not to offend him by him knowing I've been out having fun without him.

Friendship . . . While being 22 yrs old, married, with 2 children it's very hard to make friends with ppl other then other moms at the park with their kids. and then only to find the only thing u have in common is that u both have kids. I like being able to call up a *friend* ask if they wanna go out and KNOW that when the nights over I will have been forfilled . . .mentaly and physicaly. Friends with privilages rule lol.

Of corse Sex is ALWAYS a benifit lol . . . when hubby can't always keep up with me it's nice to know there's more then one person in the room who still have energy to keep going

[ratimadan]

Just thought of something else as another benefit.

Would anyone agree that the act of intercourse and the resulting orgasm is nothing short of a spiritual experience? And we swingers get to enjoy this experience with a multitude of partners we truly desire and respect.

With bodies intertwined and the man's penis deep in her vagina, hot and moist, both enjoying the act of uninhibited intercourse ! And finally, as both reach the peak of esctacy followed by orgasmic release, is nothing short of a spiritual experience.

And us swingers get to share this spiritual experience with other couples by swapping mates for sensuous play and the interplay of male-female organs with someone other than one's spouse. Can one get any more unselfish with the sexual act of sharing one's life partner with another person?

RM

[meowkittyhascla]

The benifits we recieve is just the joy of knowing that we are giving each other pleasure. I love watching hubby with another woman...it gives me an ego boost because I have taught him so well and that fact is visa-versa. He gets off knowing that his "teaching" of me has payed off for another man. He gets very turned on watching me going down on another man or woman.
The great lovemaking we have at home is just mind-blowing, and after 20 plus years of marriage we find that very beneficial!

[da2ofusgb]

For us it has been the great friendships we have developed along the way. It is really great to have swinging relationships with other couples that you can do things with outside of the bedroom.

Many times we can go camping, fishing, site seeing, dining out, boating or just going over to there place or ours and watching tv and talking with these couples and have more fun doing it than if we were with non-swinging couples.

Sure the sex with them is great, but the friendships we have built over the years is a long lasting friendhip that will never end. We can talk about anything and everything with alot of these couples and we are all comftorable about it.

Also for us, it has really brought us closer together in many ways we never thought possible. We are empty nesters and now it is our turn to go out and have fun. And after 25 plus years of marriage our sex lives are more fullfilled and gratifying than they have ever been.

Peace...

Ed & Tammi

[Chicup]

Mmmmm well beyond the usual, it helps me stay motivated to stay in shape.

I'm not narcissistic enough to care how I look for the sake of looking good, and my prime motivator since I was about 16 for working out was being attractive to women.

Now that I'm married and have a wife that would accept me anyway I looked its good to have that little nudge to help keep me in shape.

This is be NO means a prime motivator or benifit to swinging for us, but its a nice unintended side effect.

[MoonLightKiss]

Well for us there were two big benefits. First was all the people we meet whether in person or online. There are alot of great people out there. Second was the level of honesty we brought ourselves too. Most of the marraiges I see among our friends are fairly honest, but still tell the little white lies, which turn into bigger lies, all to spare hurt feelings. My hubby and I have actually turned our kitchen table into the "round table" where everything gets said, and no one gets hurt.

Not to mention all the fun to be had with each other and other people

[HappyPeople]

Good question although I am not sure how to answer it.

Swinging has changed us very little. We were pretty mellow about it when we started and little has changed. I

f I had to note any change at all, I'd say it would be the fun "secrets" that we share and the desire to keep our home clean, just in case! When something comes up in a vanilla circle that reminds us of our swing time, we look at each other and smile a little. Otherwise, everything is pretty much the same as it was before.