Benefits of swinging?

[newgentry]

For us the main benefits have been other than sexual, frankly, which may make us somewhat unusual. We're basically still rookies but the few experiences that we have had have made us decide that the actual physical act of swinging most times ain't what its made out to be. We've found that when we're with other people that we don't get any more excited than when we're with each other - actually get LESS excited. The visual thing doesn't do much for us either - it doesn't turn us on, it doesn't repulse us - its basically a "5" on a 10 scale. So why do we do it, then? Two main reasons and benefits. First, its good for our egos I think - its nice to be able to look in the mirror and say "I've still got it - I can still turn someone else on." And, lets face it, being with someone strange CAN get the juices flowing in a different and new way that your spouse just can't do anymore. Not that its better, its just different. The second, and downright best benefit is what this has done for us as a couple. We are more in tune and in touch and appreciative of each other now than we ever have been. Our love for each other, which was already fierce and powerful, has been ratcheted up about 20 notches. Its been amazing to see how we treat each other now and communicate and just plain LOVE each other since we started this. So that's our main benefit - what's its done for US as a married couple. The sexual benefits, while good, are actually way down the list.

[Avantgarden38]

Good question. We guess we hadn't thought about the fundamental benefits of swinging.

The initial reason was just pure sexual desire for something new and exciting. But then we noticed many other benefits.

Swinging is a very social activity, it is fun to meet others on a totally adult level and all share the excitement of what might happen. Not just the sex part, but the communication and dating is a blast. We prepare for hours sometimes to get ready for a date. . . personal grooming. . . what to wear? We help each other with these things, even "practice" different sexual ideas on each other to see how they might work or feel. We help each other with suggestions on how to relate to our new friends. Our communication skills have grown even stronger than they were before. Swinging for us is truly a team effort.

Sex with new people that you really like is just too much fun. Add into that a group situation and the results can provide topics of conversation for weeks. Beats talking about the news.

The boost to the ego can also be amazing, as well as the sex drive.

Our favorite thing about actually swinging is the development of our relationships with our swinger friends. We like to form lasting bonds when we can and the evolution of those friendships can be very rewarding and exciting.

[tazzie_n_truck]

For us it has had a few benifits for us.

#1 Our relationship is stronger, because we have become so openminded with the lifestyle, we have alot of trust with each other, plus our sexlife has gotten better.

#2 We have made some very good friends in the lifestyle, we have some friends now who we started swinging with who we enjoy other activities with like taking trips out of town with, and doing other activities not related to swinging.

#3 We have learned some new things since we started swinging, and have expirimented with things that we wouldn't have done before we were introduced to the lifestyle.

[SluttyWife]

I hate to admit this but I'm one of those grrls who believes that men are basically non-monogamous by nature. So for me this lifestyle provides for an opportunity to be honest and open rather than in the dark about what may or may not happen.

I am also terribly oversexed and for years felt like there was a little nymphomaniac living inside of me

Then I discovered this and realized that I can have it all.

Other benefits?

You REALLY get to know your friends.
You get to grrls in places that don't fly a rainbow flag
More sex
Circus act sex
A shared experience with hubby actually makes
me feel closer to him


I'm sure I've forgotten something here!

Love and licks ;-*

Slutty Wife

[turbine1999]

What has been one of the greatest things that you enjoy about being in the lifestyle.

For us it would be that no matter were we go, parties, clubs, or out of state the friendship and kindness for others that are in the lifestyle.

Brian N Regina

[yawanna]

Getting to try new adventures I would never have otherwise had an opportunity to do.

(that sounded convoluted lol)

At a club one night talking to a new couple, they asked just that question, and then asked for specifics. I told them of all the things I'd tried in this lifestyle and about halfway thru, the husband of the couple turned to my husband and said

'I hate you....'

[Spoomonkey]

I'm a big fan of the sex part...



Okay - actually, what I really enjoy, more than anything is the way Mrs Spoomonkey and myself are the next day, night, week, etc. It really fuels our passion for each other - instead of sex four times a week, it seems like four times a day for at least the next week. But - on the other hand - it seems we just can not talk enough about what happened, good, bad or otherwise.

We've always been an oddly happy couple and this has just added to it.

Spoomonkey

[froggyjenn80]

definately the people. The frienships go much more beyong the sex, and that is a huge plus! Also the openness and acceptance of everybody in the lifestyle, just being able to be free about who we really are and not have to tip toe around subjects.

Excellent question!
~Jenn

[tazzie_n_truck]

Can easily say the friendships. We have made some very good friends from swinging who we love to hang out with out side of swinging, we enjoy going to dinner and movies, dancing, and other activites non-sexual.

[Miss_Piggy]

Originally posted by Spoomonkey
I'm a big fan of the sex part...

Dito

[Alura]

We like the sex part, too, but beyond that, I have to say that swingers are more interesting people and quite different from your run-of-the-mill crowd. We like the people.

Swingers are more at ease with themselves and other people. I suppose the very fact that they choose to enjoy sex in a way few "vanilla" folks seem to understand, means that they have an open mind and are not constrained by society's rules.

To be able to share your spouse sexually requires comfort within the marriage few non-swingers ever imagine, let alone attain.

In my opinion, this mind-set carries over into all aspects of swingers' lives.

Mr. Alura

[Spoomonkey]

Hey Alura

I totally agree. One of the things that Me and Mrs Spoomonkey talk about often is how the nicest people in the world are at swing clubs or running events. People that we meet through swinging are generally more tolerant, level-headed, down-to-earth and able to talk about a wide variety of things than anyone else. And - if they disagree with you about something, they tend to smile and change the subject... Or make a pretty good joke... They don't live and die by being "right"...

It makes sense though - if you are comfortable with your relationship, your sexuality, even yourself naked - then chances are you are going to be a good person to know...

Spoomonkey

[Brit_Pair]

Dito Miss Piggy's Dito !

[PrtyinDuo]

I'm a big fan of the sex part...

If anyone said that sex isn't a part of the reason we'd deffinitely say they were BS'in.And we are no different.But we too agree that a BIG part is because of the folks ya meet.its like alot of other lifestyles in the fact that others that enjoy the same lifestyle kinda click.EG...I ride a Harley and its just a given(most of the time)that when I see another HD rider that we will get along.And when a trucker sees another on the road...they acknoweldge the fact that they both come from the same book.
And when we meet folks into swinging,even if our likes,dislikes are different.There is allways something in common to chat about.Hope someone understands what I mean!!

Enjoy!!!

[JustAskJulie]

the friends.