What about something a swing partner would do that your regular partner will not?

[robnbarb]

Me and the wife disscussed this yesterday and thought it would make an interesting topic.

Basicly it came up because she will not swallow during oral, she hates the taste. I really don't have a problem with this but the I thought "what if we find another couple and she wants to swallow."

My wife was unsure what to say, on the one hand she thought why not since she wouldn't, on the other she felt a tinge of jelousy.

As we talked we talked about more things she would not do. While there isn't much she will not do with me, she does have limits (ie Anal sex). So we got to thinking about how other couples may handle this.

So basicly is there anything you will not do but would allow someone else to do to your mate?

[good times]

No, if another woman does something to me that my wife doesn't or vice versa, we would call that a bonus. Thats assuming, of course it is something we enjoy.

For example, my wife can't quite swallow my dick completely without gagging, but several women we play with can, it's all good to us.

[friskyous]

We place no limits, it's about enjoying yourself and going with the flow, I honestly don't think theres anything someone else could show us that we haven't done together but if there is, I'd be willing to learn a new trick or two. It's about exploring new territories right?

[JustAskJulie]

I had some friends run into this at a party a few years ago. The couple was like you, the female would not swallow/ would not allow a guy to come in her mouth at all. The male was playing with another friend of mine and she LOVES to swallow and told him to come in her mouth. The wife of the guy got really pissed off.

This is something I don't get, if it's something your partner enjoys but you won't do, then why deny them that pleasure with someone who will?

[ALilOEverything]

I consider that a bonus as well. There are definitely some things that I won't do or don't do well that I think it's great he can experience with someone else. I don't care to swallow, I have a strong gag reflex and I just can't seem to do it without gagging. Also my husband likes a woman to Dom him and I'm not that good at it so when a woman wants to Dom/sub with him all the better for him. I don't mind it that she might be better, I just take the opportunity to learn from her since I'm kind of learning the ropes (pun intended). Also anal is a no go for me but if a woman wanted to enjoy that with him all the more power to them both.

[stoutgatte]

We've discussed this a bit too, our biggest concern is that the partner who doesn't get the "bonus" treatment feels cheated since the other one did. As a result we'll try to avoid such situations.

[Spoomonkey]

At first, my response was "we don't do with someone else what we won't do with each other."

But - then I read good times post and I realized that this isn't always true. Everyone we are with is unique in their own way. We have one playmate with a freakish, snake-like tongue... I don't have such a miracle of nature... But Mrs Spoo likes it

Doggy style had always been a little tough for us to figure out, until I was with a woman who really knew her stuff! Now we do it perfectly here at the ranch.

But - aside from differences in technique, I'd have to say that we won't do with others what we don't do with each other. Now - I can say that because we pretty much do everything - but where it becomes practical, I suppose is on the subject of anal sex. We don't with each other - we won't with others.

For us that is such a small issue anyway because we're neither one particularly interested. In fact, she's more interested than I am - and she fears the little monkey

I guess I'd feel a little jealous - to be totally honest - if she said, "you don't do this - so I am going to do this with him." That would kind of bug me... She feels the same way - thus, the rule was made...

Spoomonkey

[xxoticangel]

Anal-
Angel enjoys anal sometimes and loves it during DP's but given the choice would rather do vaginal. Also I am the only guy she has done anal with and we consider it special. However, since I have done anal with several women in the past I have taken a swinging partner anally during DP. Angel doen't have a problem with this since it is not as special in reverse. There are many things that we would not do while swinging that are common in our bedroom but nothing that we would do with someone else we would not do together.

[Greg & Sheryl]

Originally Posted by xxoticangel

I am the only guy she has done anal with and we consider it special. However, since I have done anal with several women in the past I have taken a swinging partner anally during DP. Angel doen't have a problem with this since it is not as special in reverse.

Our situation is similar, although it may change in the future. When we started having anal sex together, Sheryl initially declined to do so with anyone else. However, she has since softened that position and would consider doing so with someone she felt particularly comfortable with (probably one of our closer friends in the lifestyle). We haven’t met too many ladies who admit to enjoying anal in swinging situations, but Greg got the chance to perform anal on a swing partner for the first time this past summer. Eventually, perhaps we will attempt a DP.

[JustAskJulie]

Interesting question. I have a friend who is invited as a third occasionally for a couple where the guy will not give oral sex. So my friend is invited to fill the void (so to speak).

Personally, I've seen couples where because SHE won't swallow she has a rule that he can't let anyone else swallow either.... and I think it's rather silly. Now the other side of that coin.... if she wouldn't swallow him but WOULd swallow for other guys... I can see where that would be a HUGE issue.

[two4youinswva]

We call it a bonus too.

Mrs two4you can't and doesn't swallow. It's not that she doesn't want to, it's just that her gag reflex kicks in big time.

It's not a big deal to me, but we do have one or two play couples where the female really likes to do it. So, Mrs two4you really likes the fact that someone else can make that happen for me from time to time.

As for me, I can't do the "rough sex" thing. I'm just not wired that way, and can't really do that very well. Mrs two4you likes the rough sex sometimes. Not all the time, but occasionally. Once again, the male half of one of our play couples is very good at it. So, she gets to experience something she likes that I am not that good at.

In the business world, I think they call that a "Win-Win".

[sexcupid]

On some level, I few this question as sort of a double edged sword.

The more enlightened part of me wants to say, 'Hey...if there is a swing partner out there that is willing to do XYZ and I don't like to do it and I know he does...then go for it!' Because really...why are we doing this except for variety?

On the other hand...because the little devil on my shoulder won't shut up...depending on what it is exactly we're talking about, I may have a problem. Is it something he's asked me to do, and I won't for whatever reason? Then the above statement would apply (go for it!)...however, I am game for just about anything. So if there was something he liked/enjoyed/wanted to try...why wouldn't he bring the idea to me first?

For example...if your partner is curious about rimming. You hear him asking a play partner to do it for him and they do....ideally he'll have a good reaction to it...so on and so forth. Now, if you are the kind of person who is willing to try anything at least once or twice (just to make sure)...something like this would not make me happy...not necessarily pissed off or anything to cause a scene...but there would be questions as to why he couldn't ask me to do it for him.

Now, if the play partner was down on him or whatever and just went ahead and did something and afterwards he said...'omg baby...let me tell you what she did...'...I consider that to be an entirely different situation...one that once discussed, could also fall into the first category of 'eh, not quite my cuppa...but if you find someone who likes to do it...go for it.'

Maybe I'm just over thinking things again...I've been known to do that you know...

[screaminggood]

I've had partners rim me, but my hubby never has....but he knows I love it and respond to it. No problems.

Lots of women love to deep throat him, and he enjoys it, but with me, he doesn't like me to do it--he loves for me to lick and suck but on his head.

As long as it's fun and it's within "our rules" we're okay.

[Bama0468]

we have only 2 rules I can think of ( outside of that we are not into pain, potty, yadda yadda) 1)no one does anal on her but me, her rule as I am gentle with her to get going, and she doesn't want someone thinking they can just RAM it in. 2) if one of us says no, then its no period, neither of us argue about it.

As per topic, She will not swallow, nor does she care much for cum in her mouth ( I have been meaning to try that Pineapple juice or egg nog deal) however when encountering parteners should we happen to be with a couple where the lady does, she will not be jealous or angry, as others have said

BONUS!

[Tia Vampire]

My SO will not play rough with me. Sometime I like it rough. Not enough to draw blood or leave bruises, but enough to make me want him to go deeper.