Gangbang Advice

I really get turned on by and get off on gangbang scenes. I'm wondering if they are just porn movie fantasy or if the really happen? If they are real, I'd love it if someone could tell me how one gets involved in them. Internet searching just keeps leading to porn sites, nothing like this. Please help!

[JustAskJulie]

Try the Yahoo Clubs. There are clubs there for GB groups in just about every state and more than one for some states.

Julie http://www.swingersboard.com

[CanadianCouple]

Originally posted by Rego:
I really get turned on by and get off on gangbang scenes. I'm wondering if they are just porn movie fantasy or if the really happen? If they are real, I'd love it if someone could tell me how one gets involved in them. Internet searching just keeps leading to porn sites, nothing like this. Please help!

My wife and I personally know a swinging couple who've participated in gangbangs in the past. Real "hop on, hop off" ones at that. Their words, not mine.

They enjoyed it at the time, but found they eventually tired of them, and now prefer at least some semblence of a friendship first before diving in.

Dan

[Barb]

Hi Rego:
We're a couple who has been trying to arrange a Gang-bang for me for almost a year. I will admit that I'm *very* picky when it comes to guys but I do want to have one. Thus far we've found no one and have come to the conclusion that large endowments and gang-bangs only happen in the adult video world and NOT in Cleveland, OH.

> Originally posted by Rego:
I really get turned on by and get off on gangbang scenes. I'm wondering if they are just porn movie fantasy or if the really happen? If they are real, I'd love it if someone could tell me how one gets involved in them. Internet searching just keeps leading to porn sites, nothing like this. Please help!

[JustAskJulie]

If you want to set up a gangbang you can't be as picky about the guys as you would be if you were just looking for one guy.

In the case of a gangbang you are dealing with not only finding guys that fit your specs (whatever they may be) but also finding guys that are willing to be involved in a gangbang. If you are trying to find 5 guys who are all well-endowed, great looking and willing to do a gangbang.. your chances are a lot slimmer than if you were just looking for 5 guys that you could hit it off with that were willing to do a gangbang. The more you narrow down your search requirements the fewer people you are going to find that fit the bill.

Many guys aren't into the idea of a gangbang.. either they just don't like to share, they are too homophobic or whatever their reasoning may be.

If you really want a gangbang tho, there are plenty of groups out there that are set up just for that purpose. Most of them are large enough that you can pick your guys from the ones they have available. But even if you pick them chances are they aren't all going to be gorgeous well-built guys with huge cocks.

If that's what you are looking for your best bet is to find them one at a time.. and it will be a slow process. Remember, they have to like you too.. it's a two-way street.

Julie http://www.swingersboard.com

[pelagic argosy]

Some things you should know/do before you try gangbanging. First of all, it's not really that much of a romantic experience. From the women I've talked to (including my wife) some of the turn ons are: impersonal sex; a desire to be completely submissive and out of control; and a certain sense of danger. Also, most guys are trying to do as many different things, as often as they can, for as long as they can. None of these things really lend themselves to romance or relationship building. I'm not saying it doesn't happen, but I don't think it happens often.

Next, when you decide to actually do a GB, please, please, please, plan ahead. Know who will participate, have it on your turf, and set some guidelines. If you have it someplace where unwanted participants can join in, things get UGLY in a hurry. Some women look for this type of danger and lack of control, and tend to do some relatively unsafe things to get it. You might be interested in this, but you might want to try some more sedate stuff first.

[This message has been edited by pelagic argosy (edited 10-08-2001).]

[bicpl4u2pa]

Go to practically any swing club! Our problem is making sure to avoid them! Many people have zero respect for safe sex...ewe...like somebody said.....make sure u control the scene!

[pelagic argosy]

You can forget safe sex in a gang bang. Most of the guys who do gang bangs get off by having a woman completely at their mercy. Pumping loads of come inside her and attempting to make her pregnant without her consent is the ultimate domination. Also, guys think that since she's willing to be used like a toy, they don't have to be concerned about what she wants.

[Rob]

Im a 30/m who has been involved in a few gang bangs, and all were done with the utmost respect of the woman. condoms were used and despite the fact that it was 4 or 5 or 6 on one, the woman did have most of the control.
it does happen, but like julie said, its not going to be with a bunch of hung, great looking studs. but good looking guys like myself ~ do enjoy them.
As for the homophobe thing, Im straight but it doesnt bother me at all to rub up or be close to another guy in that kind of setting.

[JustAskJulie]

I know this has been asked before but I don't know if it was on here or in an email I received. A friend of mine just asked me for my advice when it comes to having her first gangbang and it made me think of it. She said she had looked here and couldn't find any info so I thought I'd remedy that. (I may also write an article at some point for the "info" pages of the site).

The advice I'm about to give is based on my personal experiences. I hope that if you have had experiences with this you will provide your own input as well.

- Choose your guys wisely. If possible find guys that you know are used to performing in group situations. There are GB groups all over the country and usually the guys who are members of these groups have experience in doing GB's and therefore will probably give YOU a more pleasurable experience.

- If you are planning the GB yourself and trying to line up guys. Make sure you line up at least 3 times as many as you want to show up. IF you want a 5 guy GB invite 15 guys to join you. Chances are that 10 of those 15 guys won't show. And if you have a few extra it will make up for any guys who have performance anxiety in group situations.

-Remember to make sure the focus is on YOU (the female). With so many guys there is no way you can please them all and if you try too hard you won't have any fun. SO let them focus on pleasing you and they will be pleased in the process.

- Set any rules on the table before any play starts. If you are open to anything except anal make sure they know that your butt is off limits before things start getting wild and guys just start sticking things in any available holes.

-Don't overplan. The mistake I made the first time out was that I made my first GB this huge production. I had met all the guys previously which helped but it didn't keep me from being nervous. We all met at a bar then went back to my hotel room. The evening was fun but the planning and WORK involved really took away from it. My policy now is that if it happens great, but I won't PLAN a gb.

That's all I can think of for now. Again if you've been there/done that and have your advice to add, please do. If this is something you are thinking of and have questions, fire away.

[Peter & Tanya]

thank you so much julie for the advice. i planned the first gb for my girlfriend about a month ago. that was truly a great experience for my gf but i still got a few questions to ask.

first, is it necessary to use condoms in gb's? the people we found are friends of mine but we couldn't make 100% sure that they're free from any std's. when we had the gb, the first few intercourses used condoms but later on guys just inserted and ejaculated straight inside.

second, what about the vagina gets dry and gets a bit painful and both the woman and the guys want more sex?

third, when we had the gb, the guys actually had sex with her one by one, but there was conflicts about the turns. several might wanna have her at the same time. have you experienced this? any idea to give?

thank you.

[JustAskJulie]

- Make sure they always use condoms. Did you tell them that you wanted them to use condoms then later they stopped? That is total disrespect for you and your GF. But it's up to you.

- Make sure to keep a good lube on hand. Dryness will happen. The girl will probably be sore enough the next day without having to worry about having a chaffed pussy to go with it.

- There is more than one way that a guy can be pleasured. She still has 2 hands and a mouth. She should be the one deciding who's turn it is to go where and not them.

- Sometimes it helps to have a "fluffer" or two around depending on how many guys you have involved. A "fluffer" is a girl who is there to keep the guys hard so that when it is "their turn" they are ready to go. Of course, later once the main girl has had what she wants the "fluffer" can get a little more action as well.

I am a 30ish m. My first experience with a gang bang was in college. A willing lady from town spent a Friday afternoon servicing atleast 20 of the brothers in my fratnerity.

The opportunity did not present itself again until last summer. My wife and I had discussed group sex, swinging etc. for sometime, especially in the heat of passion. However the opportunity never presented itself, until one Saturday afternoon I invited 5 of the guys on my softball team over to our house to help me introduce Carol to group sex. We got there, she was ready, willing and able to pleasure the group of us. It wasn't emotional involvement, but it wasn't production line sex either. We continued and until all were satisfied and Carol had a contented smile on her face. I will admit that part of the fun for me was the control aspect of allowing my buddies to do my wife. She tends to be the follower in our sexual activity and likes me to take control, initiate etc. Having 6 guys controlling her really got her off.

We will do it again.

[Tellya Later]

Trust me...they happen <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="eek.gif" />

Like Julie said Yahoo has groups that focus on this...and I mean a lot of them. Here in Chicago there is one group in particular that is small in size but high on the reality. They screen all people that enter the group (singles and couples) and is run by a swinging couple. I've never had a chance to attend one of their "meetings" (which on a good week could be once or twice during the afternoon during the week followed by Friday night, Saturday afternoon/night, and Sunday afternoon...yes they are active <img border="0" alt="[ROFL]" title="" src="graemlins/rofl.gif" /> ) But even is this screened group you run the problems of spurt of the moment/planned GBs i.e. no shows, performance issues, lack of "eligible" women. This group is starkly different than the gangbang I viewed previously as the women are treated with the utmost respect and care and in the eyes of the attendees...everyone there is just there to enjoy some outrageous and extremely fun sex. No demeaning or nothing.

On the other hand the gangbang I did view was in conjunction with a party thrown by another yahoo group. Now I saw view because I walked in (after the warden/hubby asked me first if I had a condom in hand) to be greeted by a naked woman giving a guy a blowjob while easily 10-15 guys waited around (and the second woman involved cleaned up in the bathroom). In this environment both the men and the woman to me were viewed as meat. After getting an eyeful I walked out...right around a used condom or two laying on the floor.