Gangbang Dropouts Question

[JaneAndJohnDoe]

Originally Posted by JnCC

When a guy feels like anybody could fuck a particular woman, or like everybody has fucked a particular woman, she loses whatever appeal she may have held for him in the first place.

That makes sense. That's why, if I were to organize a group sex situation like this (I wouldn't organize a gang bang...I like playing with the women too), I would want to organize it with people we already were familiar with. This way, it would be with people that already respected me, and weren't seeing me as a "cheap and easy" target.

[JaneAndJohnDoe]

Originally Posted by good times

Half the fun and excitement is knowing that the woman wants or desires you. In a gang bang it seems like that is missing to me, any dick will do.

Exactly! It is so much more fun, at least to me, when the people we are swinging with genuinely desires us. I don't want to be just a pussy to someone...an easy lay. I want to be wanted.

I can't imagine that it would be that different for men.

[JaneAndJohnDoe]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

I think a lot of comes from guys being more turned on by the fantasy of a gb than by the actual idea of it. When they really consider it what arrives in their mind is the idea that they not only have to be naked in a room full of guys but they have to perform as well.

And this, I think, is the crux of it. Performance anxiety...

It's a lot of pressure on a man to have to perform in front of other men, at least from what I understand. I'm not a man, so it is difficult to understand, but I can sympathize.

I mean, as a woman, if we aren't aroused, we can easily pile on the lube, which tends to (at least for me) facilitate arousal. But if a man is not aroused immediately, it takes more work, and it is highly visible that he isn't physically into it.

Yes, I would say the fantasy of a gangbang with strangers suddenly loses its appeal when a man is faced with the reality of it all.

[Couple_N_Ark]

Our take on the situation would be that most men who you meet online are simply using the internet as their "aphrodisiac" (sp). The entire time that you're IM'ing the person, and talking to them about joining your gang bang they are most likely "jerking off".

If you're emailing with them then they are doing it while they read the emails and fantasize about what you're offering.

Most never have any intentions of showing up. They're simply fantasizing about what is being offered.

[curious24]

Originally Posted by Couple_N_Ark

Our take on the situation would be that most men who you meet online are simply using the internet as their "aphrodisiac" (sp). The entire time that you're IM'ing the person, and talking to them about joining your gang bang they are most likely "jerking off".

If you're emailing with them then they are doing it while they read the emails and fantasize about what you're offering.

Most never have any intentions of showing up. They're simply fantasizing about what is being offered.

You know I think you are hitting the nail on the head here. With that in mind I think the best way to get guys to show up is to invite guys you have been with and already know. That way you'll know they will be honest with you and if they say they will show then they will. However, asking a bunch of guys that you don't know probably won't get what you are looking for.

[DBL D]

I guess I'm trying to figure out what it does for the gal to be banged by a bunch (Name Your Number) of guys. I know us swinger types are supposed to be kind of faceless guys (people), in that you don't want to get attached to the person so ardently fucking you, but I'd still hope that the lady saw something in me (us) that made us special to them. I may be alone but I'd think that if I had an FFFM that'd be about right...as in Maxi-MuM...so what is it that makes someone feel like being ganged? Does that show through? The comment about it being so easy doesn't make sense because if you click with a couple...it's easy!

I'm confused.

Male D

[MikePulse]

This is abit off topic-but there is a real life tangent about guys showing up for gang bangs. After hearing that porn actress Victoria Givens was going to set a new anal gang bang record, I noticed that her DVD of the "event" was on sale during a March Madness marketing.

I thought it would be a real turn on watching a real gang bang, with every day dudes, who showed up for this unique opportunity. Givens, took on over a hundred anal rubberized penetrations and set a new world record. I have to say, having watched the DVD once with my girl, and once by myself; it is one of the most boring sex videos, I have ever watched.

The woman was willing and her 3 fluffers that helped the guys get wood, had alot of heart but what a bore. After a few minutes it was like watching paint dry. My biggest problem with the anal gang bang, was that they had this dude in a tux, with white gloves and a stopwatch, that called "Time", after 30 seconds. Let's do the math-101 guys at 30 seconds max each equals...aw, well you get the idea. It was like a documentary on the white spotted owl, even with all the graphics and flashy edits.

Probably, the most entertaining part, is almost a PBS analytical view of the type of guys that showed up. Some wore masks. There was the "dumpy single guy syndrome" going on, too. Despardo types. Certainly, organizers "fall-out rate" for attendance must have been a high ratio. There was NOT a super turn out, in my opinion, even with the event advertized on the Howard Stern radio show, before Howie left the terrestrial radio waves for the big bird in the sky.

Don't waste your money on the DVD, and further it brings the whole fantasy down, a hundred notches to that of 1989 motel bedsheets. It would be ideal for PBS Frontline or P.O.V. documentary programming. Although, the one guy in the Nixon mask was kind of funny.

[DBL D]

Boring for everyone, I'd think. Someone should really answer my question though...What is it that makes a woman feel like being ganged?

Male D

[Pepper & Drew]

Originally Posted by DBL D

Boring for everyone, I'd think. Someone should really answer my question though...What is it that makes a woman feel like being ganged?

Male D

It's like any other sexual fantasy. Why do men like to see two women together? Why do some people like golden showers? Why do some people like being tied up and spanked? Well, because we've all got some sexual peculiarity.

I think the intriguing part of the fantasy, at least for me, is being so wild, so out of control and being used. I don't think the idea is so out of the ordinary, either. I know quite a few women in the lifestyle that have a fantasy, or have actually lived some variation of a gangbang. Usually though, it's one girl with 2, 3, 4 or more guys all with her at once. I don't particularly think the line-up version would be my cup of tea, but I can definitely see the appeal.

Pepper

[DBL D]

I see your point, Pepper, but those other things (fantasies) you mentioned involved a one on one kind of thing. I can see how the feeling of being wild and out of control would be appealing but my angle was from my male P.O.V.--Why would I want to be just a number?

Male D

[Pepper & Drew]

Originally Posted by DBL D

I see your point, Pepper, but those other things (fantasies) you mentioned involved a one on one kind of thing. I can see how the feeling of being wild and out of control would be appealing but my angle was from my male P.O.V.--Why would I want to be just a number?

Male D

Well, I think that's why a lot of guys don't show up. Sure, from a woman's perspective, it's exciting, etc. and if you were a guy that was going to get to be with a porn start, even if it only was for 30 seconds, it may have some appeal. Other than that, I don't think it would be a huge draw for a lot of men, especially if they didn't know the woman beforehand. Thus, the large number of dropouts.....Some fantasies are better left as just that....fantasies.

Pepper

[WA_Cple]

We live in the land of the gang bang i.e. Portland Oregon. We have 2 clubs that have monthly gang bang nights and 2 adult theatres that have a lot of gang bang action.

I (Mrs WA) find gang bangs to be a huge fantasy that I have fulfilled in a small way (3 guys 1 me) at our local club. My husband has no interest in being the male side of a gang bang but he enjoys watching me.

At one of our first visits to a local club we watched a very sexually intense gang bang that happened like spontaneous combustion and it was hot. The woman was very attractive and she took about 15 guys in a row... whew!

Anyway... its my first post in awhile because sometimes I get lost in life but its good to see some of the 'gang' still hanging around!

Mwa!

Mrs WA