Ok, Guys your thoughts on Gang Bangs

[JustAskJulie]

In another post JNCC said....

Originally Posted by jncc

Gang-Bangs - Whatever else you might say about it, normal, physically and emotionally healthy males...that is, "men who have options"...do NOT wait fifteen deep in line to fuck a woman. Trust me about this darlin', I've been a man all my life, and a horny one for most of it. It just doesn't happen. Less desireable males don't have as many "options" and are forced to play by another set of rules which basically reduces them to taking leftovers, stragglers, and anything else they can get. Sometimes, that means paying for sex. Sometimes, that means getting it from other males. In rare cases, it means waiting in line for it. Either way, it's been that way for 150,000 years, and it will be like that at the next, and every, lifestyle function you attend.

No matter how you rationalize it, gang-bangs are a sexual activity that I, and most reasonably "datable" guys I know, aren't going to have much to do with. I don't live in a trailer park, and don't need to pretend I do just to be with somebody...

'Course now, you and me...that's another matter...

So tell me guys, what are your thoughts? Have you ever participated in a GB? DOes that make you abnormal, a leftover, less desirable? What about women who participate in GB's, does that make them less desirable to you?

Does it make a difference if the woman (which is usually the case) takes the initiative and actually picks out the guys she wants involved, from a base of guys that she knows and perhaps has played with on a one on one basis? Would you have sex with a woman that you know has been involved in a gangbang (let's go ahead and assume condoms were used so we don't have to have that debate again).

[intuition897]

I might be a swinger, but indiscriminate fucking doesn't sit well with me. Yes, there is a great deal of freedom in the lifestyle - freedom to have sex with whomever you please - but it doesn't mean you have to have sex with everyone!

I've never participated in a GB, but it sounds like a pretty hot idea to me. However, the thought that I was being thought of as nothing more than "sloppy seconds" or that someone felt they were scraping the bottom of the barrel to stand in line for me is a huge turn-off. I feel that GB's with lineups that trail endlessly out the door - you know, the type where the guys have to take a number like you were at the deli - are not exactly the most responsible way to go about things. ANY partner I have is going to be someone whose name I at least know. There will be some forethought involved. There will be some researching and 'interviewing' done beforehand. I'd rather do that than realize after the fact that one of the guys (actually guy #12, but you'll never know for certain, right?) gave you genital herpes or warts or whatever...or worse. And then of course that means that everybody who happened to be in the lineup that night potentially got a dose of something. What are you going to do? Put an ad in the paper? "Any persons who took a run at the brunette last Saturday at the Eager Beaver, please call 1-800-DIS-EASE."

No thanks. Not for this gal. GB's are fine as long as they're conducted in a controlled manner. It's just a kink. I don't think it's 'sad' or 'pathetic' if it's handled correctly.

[jcbicouple]

We're going to take the easy way out on this one (at least for tonight) and just paste our post from the other thread in here. The only thing to add to this is that we talked (at least via the internet) to all of the guys in the same manner and same amount we would for any single or couple we planned to meet. Also, we still keep in touch with a few of them. BUT we do tend to be more promiscuos than a lot of swingers on here....Wow, now that's a concept. Unpromiscuos swingers. lmao!
Post from other thread:
"Well, We're certainly not going to tell you that we are normal in any sense of the word, but we have to tell you that there ARE a whole bunch of attractive, intelligent, single males that will stand 15 (well, really we can only honestly vouch for 5 at any one time) deep to have sex. Many of them have highly respected jobs. We're sure they don't go around airing their business any more than we do, and frankly we wouldn't play with them if they did. So, In reference to the "I don't know any" statement...All we have to say is "People we work with don't know any swingers". hmmmm. Now, Do these guys have issues? Maybe, but who cares? Most would argue that anyone on this board has issues. We like multiple sex partners, and meeting different people for the sole purpose of having sex.
STDs are a risk if you are having anything but monogamous sex. period. It's a risk you try to minimize to your own comfort level. some use condoms, some don't, some want to be exclusive to one couple, some want to be with them all."

Edited to add that the reason we still keep in touch with a few of them is that the ones we've met have been just as respectful as any of the singles or couples we've met.

[VegasLee]

No matter how you rationalize it, gang-bangs are a sexual activity that I, and most reasonably "datable" guys I know, aren't going to have much to do with. I don't live in a trailer park, and don't need to pretend I do just to be with somebody...

Lately I have noticed that someone seems to have a very low opinion of men that participate in things that he is not involved in.

Trailer parks? Not dateable?

Seems that maybe someone has had limited experiences or maybe just us people on the west coast get out more, I am not sure which.

This is not the first post with the same tones to it.

Just because something is "not your cup of tea" does not mean that others that do things you don't live under a rock or come from trailer parks.

There is many lovely ladies in our play group have done gang bangs, orgies and many other things that they love and so do the VERY DATEABLE guys that party with them. Last I looked, none of them lived in a trailer park, which personally I would not see anything wrong with anyway. Many of them do own motor homes that cost more then most houses though so maybe they are on the lower side of life.

Once again seems that some people feel the need to judge others, set standards for others or look down on others just because they don't think the same way as they do.

This lifestyle is about us being open, honest and not judgeing others for their desires in life. Seems lately some people feel the need to forget that part of it.

Stop thinking so much, have fun in life and keep it simple.

[jennandjamesinm]

Originally Posted by VegasLee

Stop thinking so much, have fun in life and keep it simple.

Lee - that's the BEST advice I have heard in a long time!!!!

Thank you for being the voice of reason!!!

Jenn

[TNT]

High FIVES for Lee !!!!!



TNT

[BradAndJanet]

Seeing as how I enjoy giving a lady pleasure, should a lady I like desire to experience a gangbang, I would, with the permission of my lovely wife, participate without hesitation.

I don't live in a trailer park either.

-B

[EternallySingle]

For some women, gangbangs are a way of life. Many of them wouldn't think of swinging, but see nothing wrong with getting five or six guys together who wouldn't mind having sex with her while the other watches. The kicker? All of these guys are guys other women want to date. They are not losers or outsiders (at least I hope I'm not hehehe). They are just guys that don't have a lot of hangups, performance issues, or big mouths. The women like to not only be the center of attention, but some actually get off on being thought of as a super sex object, so desirable that a bunch of men would stand in line to be with her.

Slightly different way of looking at it, wouldn't you say?

Oh, and I did live in a trailer park for a little while. Great people there. I knew everyone and everyone knew me. And I didn't have to lock my doors because everyone knew when someone new came in the park and someone would tell is someone entered your trailer when you weren't home.

[gsu22]

I haven't participated in a GB, however I have thought about it and would like to possibly try it one day with a couple I knew AND the other guys involved weren't just invited for sloppy seconds from off the street but guys that the couple respected and knew to some degree.....I think the lady should have a small group that she has had experience with at one time or another and organize a hot get together.

As mentioned in a previous posting, the thoughts of sloppy seconds do turn me on...however, I would think of it not as one after the other just penetrating her but perhaps one guy receiving oral while one is inside her and another maybe getting a "helping hand"...then maybe a few might switch or one might "come off the bench" and penetrate her...LOL

And yes, I would have sex with a GB professional...

[JnCC]

Hooray for LEE!!! Sounds like Las Vegas is THE place to be if you're an attractive, "dateable" single guy who just happens to be into gang-bangs.

By the way, about them "motor homes"...how much do they cost? There must be one HELL of a "senior citizens" discount on 'em, since I don't know anybody under 65 who has one.

Julie - Be fair now. I was responding to a post which wasn't referring to an MMMF, or a MMMMF. It was a MMMMMMMMMMMMMMMF. There IS a difference between 3 or 4 and 15. Where that cutoff is, I don't know. But for me, it's a lot less than 15.

Shit, even a junkyard DOG wouldn't wait THAT long for a piece of bitch tail...

Oh yeah, the question - "Would you have sex with a woman that you know has been involved in a gangbang?"

My answer - "Not if another woman were available to me that hadn't been involved in one." Sorry, but I'm with Intuition on this one...anybody I'm sexually involved with ought to know my name, and I ought to know hers. Even "Lifestyle" sex needs to be a little more special to me than just humping a slab of meat on a bed or table. I don't know if it's harder to make that connection when there are 14 guys waiting behind you, or there are 14 who've just finished ahead of you, but it's a connection that must be made for me to enjoy sex.

Brad (and Janet) - I understand participating in multiple-male sex because the woman likes it, but as a man, is there a number of males beyond which you would lose interest in participating in it? If Janet wanted a gang-bang, would you set a limit on how many males were involved?

I've only witnessed a couple of gang-bangs, both at swing clubs. The reason I feel as I do is because they were rather ugly affairs, very cold and dehumanizing of the female. If there was any attempt to "pleasure" the woman by the men, I didn't see it. Just one lonely woman surrounded by a bunch of lonely (but horny) guys, the woman looking for connection, the men looking for release. It wasn't "sex," it was spectacle.

[Mike and Jan]

When I was in the military (Combat Control) we had a lady who worked on base who liked our outfit. She would make a point of seducing every new Combat Controller who arrived.
Now she was a very attractive, if slightly older, lady and we all liked her a lot despite the sexual activities.
I can remember several times that she'd come up to our barracks, drink a few beers with us, and go to bed with more than a few of us in an evening.
It was what she enjoyed so we enjoyed it too. I never remember really caring what number (s) I was and even enjoyed watching her and my buddies between turns.
The only negative in that couple of years was when we'd get a new guy who tried to be insulting to Maggie. Now, when that happened it only happened once with them!

[friskyous]

Never participated in a gang bang but always wanted to.. would love it if Mrs F would do it. That would be my ultimate fantasy...

[BradAndJanet]

Originally Posted by JnCC

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Brad (and Janet) - I understand participating in multiple-male sex because the woman likes it, but as a man, is there a number of males beyond which you would lose interest in participating in it? If Janet wanted a gang-bang, would you set a limit on how many males were involved?
...

Not if she's still enjoying it, no. I don't see what the number of other males has to do with anything, really. If she's still aroused and wanting more, I'm going to be too. Four or forty, what's the difference? I'd like to understand why you feel that there is one.

To answer your second question, no, that would be up to her. I'd imagine she'd get a little sore after 5-6 though, based on how long and how often we can have sex in one day.

-B

[VegasLee]

Originally Posted by JnCC

Hooray for LEE!!! Sounds like Las Vegas is THE place to be if you're an attractive, "dateable" single guy who just happens to be into gang-bangs.

Vegas is a great place to be but we have traveled all over the country going to parties. Never ran into anyone that seemed to have the opinions that you do about people in the lifestyle. Vegas is great because we seem to understand that swinging was and is for everyone. Not just the ones that we might want to party with.

By the way, about them "motor homes"...how much do they cost? There must be one HELL of a "senior citizens" discount on 'em, since I don't know anybody under 65 who has one.

You can get a nice one for $350,000 to $500,000. More if you feel the need. Funny, most of the people that we know that have them bought them when they where in their 40's and none of them are over 60. We sold ours that we had years ago because we did not seem to find the time to use it. And no, I am not over 65 yet either. Working on it though.

[EvilMJ]

You know I have no problem if people want to engage in a GB, I am not sure it if is something that I would ever do but I certainly do not judge others that want to I think as Intiution said, in a controlled setting where you know all the men, well then you never know, it could be fun.

I find of late I have been agreeing more and more with Vegas Lee about swinging, it should be more about fun and less about thinking.