My wife is addicted to gangbang. What should i do?

[bigman99]

Whats wrong with a guy wanting his wife to gangbang 10-15 guys if she thinks she can do it and keep it under control?

[intuition897]

Originally Posted by bigman99

Whats wrong with a guy wanting his wife to gangbang 10-15 guys if she thinks she can do it and keep it under control?

Nothing, I guess. As long as she knows she can handle it and knows that it WILL be kept under control. What we are not seeing here is any evidence of commonsense precautions. SHE can't expect to keep a party under control; what is she 5'6", 120-150 lbs? What's the combined weight of the men? Plus, there's no husband present. Having the woman's partner present seems to me would be a stupidity-inhibiting factor. Instead, what they're going to see (probably because they want to see it) is a party girl who has no value for herself, whose husband obviously doesn't value her, and who has basically just thrown herself at them to do with what they want. You don't know any of these men! The likelihood of finding two good single men in one place who understand the lifestyle, are healthy, etc...is pretty damn slim! You can't really expect that there are magically 10-15 of them wandering onto the guest list on their own? You have to get involved in this. HAVE to. It doesn't sound like your wife wants to bother screening them; she just wants a big number. Is it the big number that turns her on? The more men at the party, the more desired she is? I'm sure she could get as much out of a much smaller group. As I suggested, about 4 or 5. This is far more manageable a group.

But what am I still posting here for? You want an opinion of whether or not I think a woman can realistically handle - herself - a group of 15-30 horny men?

NO.

I do not.
My unasked-for opinion, also, is that a gang-bang is the last thing the two of you should be thinking about; you guys have some problems in your relationship that are needing some 911 intervention.

[OttawaCuple]

This is what happens when people read the first few posts and then skip to the last page.

This thread was started 12-28-04 by Mogambo from Australia. It died out 12-30-04.

On 05-17-06, bigman99 from Halifax posted a posting about his wife & gangbanging & it's been active since then, primarily talking about bigman99's gangbang issues, with Mogambo replying every-so-often.

Two4youinswva's comment about a previous similar thread was made 12-28-04 & was referring to Mogambo's posts. bigman99 is talking about HIS wife wanting to gangbang 30 (I think)

It IS a very confusing thread .... who's gangbang are we talking about, and could we possibly just stick to one man's gangbang issues at a time???!!!

MrsOttawaCuple

[pinquita]

Please.Why is people still giving this moron the day of light??? Why would anybody reply to such trash????
Please, respect the ladies in our life, I do. This is ridiculous. This is not swinging, this is a demented man's fantasy.....is this the kind of people we want in our lifestyle?

[Merric]

Originally Posted by Pepper & Drew

Wait. A few things bother me here. First, just because a woman wants more than one man at a time, that makes her husband is a cuckold?

Nope, never said a woman wanting more than one man made her husband a cuckold. Have no idea where you got that from.

[quote=And, you're assumng that the husband isn't taking part in the gangbang, or getting any enjoyment out of the situation.[/QUOTE]

From what I've read here gangbang doesn't include the male half of the couple. Nor did I find Mogambo I believe his name was giving any indications he was actively participating. So I've really gotten no indications here at all he's included, but is more or less left out standing in the rain so to speak. And so being apart from his wife’s sex act by definition whether it’s willing or not he’s a cuckold. As for Mogambo in view of his post he was plainly miserable with his wife’s gangbanging once a month and there was no ifs ands or buts about it. One of the primary things that upset him most which he stated was the way the “blocks” treated his wife. So there is no guess work he hates her gangbanging or he would not be consistently fighting with her about it and trying to get her to quit. Plain and simply if things are hunky dory then he wouldn’t be here stating his case.

[quote=What about just an MFM threesome? Is he a cuckold then? What about a FFM threesome where the women are straight? Is she dick-whipped for going along with her husband's wishes? I think the whole thing centers around what you are comfortable with, what turns you on and how much you want to see your spouse have pleasure. [/QUOTE]

Not certain I understand this. But as far as that goes I would be happy to do an MFM with my wife. And since I’m included in the act then no I’m no cuckold but a willing participant.

On the other hand no I certainly would not consent to sitting in a chair and watching her screw two other guys, sorry but no. since yes that makes me a cuckold

cuck•old [kúkəld]
n (plural cuck•olds)
man whose wife is unfaithful: a husband whose wife has been unfaithful to him (archaic)
vt (past cuck•old•ed, past participle cuck•old•ed, present participle cuck•old•ing, 3rd person present singular cuck•olds)
make cuckold of somebody: to make a cuckold of a husband (archaic)
[Pre-12th century. From Old Northern French , a variant of Old French cucuault , from cucu “cuckoo,” perhaps from the analogy that other birds’ nests are invaded by cuckoos.]
Encarta ® World English Dictionary © & (P) 1998-2004 Microsoft Corporation. All rights reserved.


So if you’d read any of my posts concerning being made a cuckold of the last woman who cheated on me and tried it (and yes when I was still of the monogamous philosophy) made it home from the fellows bed just in time to find her clothes in a paper bag outside our door that had the locks changed on it.

Easy peasy no problem and solved simply.

However now days she could have just asked me if she could bring him into our bed and I probably would have said yes. However I said “our bed’ meaning she would understand it would include me as well.

Now if you like to do nothing more than watch your wife have sex with two guys while you sit idly by then no sweat and more power to yah. I mean heck it doesn’t change my bank account or raise my rent know what I mean?

As for me I like to participle. So if I had a honey to distract me, say one of the guys wives or girlfriends to play with then heck yes she can fuck both the guys. As for the FFM if I get your meaning and my wife wasn’t comfortable with me, her and another girl getting in the sack together then plain and simple it would be a no go because my wife and our relationship comes first. Now as far as if it was me and two separate women same thing, if she wasn’t comfortable with it then it would be a no go. Again our relationship comes first.
Of course I have to point out these are only my own, personal heartfelt feelings. And this is because since my wife doesn’t swing so as to not hurt her neither do I.

[quote=Something only "goes wrong" when one of the partners isn't happy about it, and I don't think it's "bad judgement" on anyone's part. Perhaps the bad judgement had nothing to do with the gangbang, but everthing to do with their relationship. In your case, perhaps it would be a "horrible mess" for your wife to do a gangbang. But please let other married couples decide what works for them.[/QUOTE]

As for something “going wrong” if there wasn’t something “already wrong” with Mogombo’s situation then again he wouldn’t be here asking for help. And I quote him. “My wife is addicted to gangbang. What should i do?” So quite obviously it has gone wrong. And I defend saying it was bad judgment on his part to give his consent to his wife to participate in a gangbang. And this whether or not there was something already wrong with their relationship as you suggest or not is something I feel it is beside the point.


It already has been roundly agreed by the vast majority of those in the lifestyle that if a relationship is suffering already, then more than likely trying out swinging for a cure if anything will only compound the problem. Why then do you feel if Mogombo’s and his wife’s relationship was already troubled that “gangbanging would fix it? Sorry but your logic escapes me on this. Even though yes I agree with you a hundred percent in the end couples should fix their own problems. Though I also believe they have the right to ask their fellows for help in arriving at their solution as well. While you seem to have lost sight that when Mogombo came to this site and asked for help he gave me permission and asked me to interject my viewpoint. And again I quote him “My wife is addicted to gangbang. What should i do?” So whether or not you agree with my opinion or not this is again beside the point. The only one who needs to agree or disagree with it is Mogombo since he is the one who asked for the help.

In other words if someone doesn’t ask me anything, well then I don’t tell them anything. But if they ask me for something and I feel I have an opinion I also then feel I’m entitled to give it since they asked. So all in all if he hadn’t asked me (Again as in “My wife is addicted to gangbang. What should i do?”) I wouldn’t have said a golly, gosh darn thing.

What I myself am trying to pass on is the hope that all men in light of such things as Mogombo’s fateful choice. Is that during times when such a possibly relationship altering decision as this arises that men everywhere give it some thought and not jump into it with things colored by emotion. That instead they give it some time to be examined. For it is my heartfelt hope that any man with even a little intelligence who thinks a situation like this carefully through before doing something like giving his wife consent to participate in a gangbang. Should then be able to see, and No, not what definitely will come to pass, that's an unknown But at the very least I hope they take into consideration what could possibly come to pass. While if you don’t agree with this then again I have nothing against it and am fine with it. But as for me I’ll stick to considering such important things very carefully before jumping into them with my eyes wide shut.

You see to my view it’s as if you’re walking through the woods. Then come upon an old rusty, bear trap you think because of its ancientness just might not go off if you stick your foot in it. Well tell me now. Is it worth the risk doing it to find out?

I didn’t think so. So in my equation this is what giving your wife permission to participate in a gangbang is equal to. Pretty much going ahead and sticking your foot into that bear trap just counting on the chance that it won’t go off.

Well in Mogambo’s case it did go off. And again I quote “My wife is addicted to gangbang. What should i do?”

However just the same I’m only saying these are my personal opinions on this subject. That’s all I was ever stating all along. While of course other couples can make their own opinions and choices on things. So I don’t have any idea where you got the idea I had the power of dictatorship. We’re all adults here and can make our own choices. I mean I thought that was part of why I got stuck in “Nam” was to help insure this.
On another more practical level I’m all for people making their own choices like this fellow Mogombo did. I mean what difference does it actually make to me in the long run if some stranger I don’t even really know decides to take that chance and step in that bear trap? I mean either way it won’t make a single bit of difference to me or affect my life one way or the other if the darn thing goes off or not. My foot will still be right on the end of my ankle where it belongs.
Again you may not agree with this, but I’ll defend to the death your right to state your views to that effect.

Peace be with you and happy swinging

[Mogambo]

This thread was started by me couple of years back. Some respondants believed that it is made up story, some believed that i am asking for genuine help. Whatever perception you carry about my story, I am thankful to all who cared to read my post & offer their true feeling & honest opinion.

Well, eventually I managed to convince my wife to consult psychiatrics & she was diagnosed as sexual compulsion disorder & she was using sex as means of coping with stress as she is having very low stress tolerance threshold level. Further test revealed that she is a case of Borderline Personality Disorder. Since we were in swinging life style for a decade, her sexual deviancy & impulsive sexual behaviour was perceived as her fetish or suppressed fantacy. This perception was further compounded when I learnt that there are few woman, though in minority actually enjoy gang bangs.

Any way, when she realised that she has a problem, She co-operated with the treatment. She recovered from her addiction. I relocated to another city as she became quite ill famous for her gangbang activity.

So she no longer in gang bang business any more. In this case my initial intution that there is some thing wrong with her gang bang addiction proved
correct.

I hope this will clear confusion created by mixing of two different stories.

Once again thank you guys for all your replies.

[Merric]

And thank you Mogambo for bringing us up to date. It's much appreciated and I'm glad to hear things worked out for you. Also thanks for the mention there were two, seperate gangbang stories here which I think may have gotten crossed together by some of the folks so it was misinterpeted by them as being one.
Again congrats on having gotten things worked out.

[sereneiders]

Originally Posted by Merric

And thank you Mogambo for bringing us up to date. It's much appreciated and I'm glad to hear things worked out for you. Also thanks for the mention there were two, seperate gangbang stories here which I think may have gotten crossed together by some of the folks so it was misinterpeted by them as being one.
Again congrats on having gotten things worked out.

Sorry, but an user under the same "Mogambo" nickname posted a similar thread two years ago regarding the same subject, but with completely different details for the story. That other thread (and not the second story intermixed here) is what made me suspicious.

[pinquita]

It is not only Mogambo, but the other crazo Big Man that wants to use his wife as trash. So much disdain towards women. Incredible.

[Amanda69]

Well, eventually I managed to convince my wife to consult psychiatrics & she was diagnosed as sexual compulsion disorder & she was using sex as means of coping with stress as she is having very low stress tolerance threshold level. Further test revealed that she is a case of Borderline Personality Disorder.

She recovered from her addiction

You know through the entire thread I was just waiting to get to the bottom to say are you sure there isn't an untreated psychiatric disorder going on here. Though must question your statement about recovered from her addiction, it is not just an addication if she has been diagnosed as above. The above can be controlled with medication, Borderline however is a whole other issue and a life long issue.

I hope your wife is continuing with professional supports.

P.S. I also agree Gang bangs are a fetish and not part of the lifestyle.
I have also noticed that every time Bigman posts the numbers at his wife's alleged gangbang change. More than two is still tooooooo many for my taste.