My wife is addicted to gangbang. What should i do?

[JnCC]

Originally Posted by bigman99

Anyway the guys talked at thier worksite and they saw a pic of her and now around 30 are going to be there,it doubled in a week and she says she told them she would do it so she will take all she can.

...could this gangbang get out of hand or is it safe?

That was a pretty long post. Let's see if we can break it down to it's essentials...

Your wife met some guy on the internet who proposed that she pull a gang-bang for 30 guys, none of whom you know, at some undisclosed location 100 miles from where you live. You, being a nice guy and all, are totally OK with all this, you just want to know if it "might get out of hand?"

Dude, it's ALREADY "out of hand"

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by bigman99

I caught my wife cheating on me about 2 years ago ,so i told her to do a gangbang and we would forget about it( i figured she would get enough).She did 6 guys . Icaught her again a few months ago ,so she said she would do a big gangbang for me ( that was my fantasy ),so she met a guy on the net and he said about a stag party,she said about doing 10 guys but he said there would be about 15 so she said ok.Anyway the guys talked at thier worksite and they saw a pic of her and now around 30 are going to be there,it doubled in a week and she says she told them she would do it so she will take all she can.My problem is that all the guys want to fuck her (no bj's) and she dont do anal,so can 1 woman handle all these guys by herself (ages early to mid 20's...she's 35)with guys this age word may spread ,so it could be more,and she wants to go alone and it's 100 miles from here.Have any of you women been in this kind of situation,if so ,how did it go ,and how was you after?And after you do this ,does it take more to satisfy you?and has any of you guys done this and how did you treat the woman and how was she after? I'm new to this so what does it mean when they say about it getting out of hand and what happens,does the woman have a say or do the guys take over and do what they want,and could this gangbang get out of hand or is it safe?

Not to be judgemental but are you freeking high?

You catch her cheating and her 'punishment' is she 'and she wants to go alone and it's 100 miles from here.'

Then you ask "and could this gangbang get out of hand or is it safe?"

You are going to send your wife off alone, to fuck 30+ strangers, 100 miles from your house, you don't know them, and you want to know if its safe?

Someone tell me this isn't a serious post HELP

[WesternSwing]

Sometimes I wonder if posts like these are done because the poster thinks we are all going to chime in with "oh yeah! I love orgies and gang bangs! Woohoo!" Then they can point and say "See, I told you swingers are just a bunch of horny, perverted, dirty freaks who worship the devil, molest children, lure good, caring husbands away from their wife, and torture puppies in their spare time."

On the chance this isn't such a post... Like Chicup and JnCC said "ARE YOU FREAKING HIGH? DUDE, IT'S ALREADY OUT OF HAND!"

Mrs. WS and I talked about this subject on the way to work yesterday and although we don't fault those that do like a gang bang, she has no interest in one. She loves a good MFM, and maybe a MMMF, but more then that and someone is left out. Plus a bunch of guys talking about sports and trying to keep it hard for when their turn comes up just isn't a turn-on to her.

Mr. WS

[Mogambo]

Mate, from my experience I can tell you that going for 30+ people is definitely crazy idea. Beside having to worry about spouse safety, diseases, the real nuisance come from first timers & immature young guys. After GB participation, they boast to every one they know. What intuition897 said is absolutely true. I have heard this exact words from immature first timers , "Dude! You won't fuckin' believe what I did this weekend..."

One of my customer who wanted to please me actually invited me to join my wife's gang bang as he was not aware that she is my wife. This situation is really unpleasant. We eventually relocated to another city. My wife eventually gave up her GB activity. I was not against her pleasure but was not comfortable anything beyond MMMMF. So you have to be realistic my friend.

[Merric]

I find I have to agree a hundred percent with Nymph an' Satyr there is something screwy here. From what I’ve learned from the net and folks here there is supposed to be an equality between the spouses, significant others. etc. who participate in swinging.

(While yes I realize as indicated GB isn’t swinging) Just the same I think equal respect for the others feelings in this should nonetheless remain valid. And why shouldn’t it? Can anyone here tell my how this instance should change the respect level one SO should show the other?

Ege: As I quote Nymph an’ Satyr “You're damn right I control who my wife sleeps with. But the same can be said for her, she controls who I sleep with.” And for me I heartily agree with this. To me it seems like not only does Mogambo’s wife have total power over the “blocks” of these GBs as she calls them. But also that she has total power over Mogambo as well. While for this to me it seems he’s reduced to helpless onlooker while his wife is ridiculed and fucked repeatedly in front of him. Or even not in front of him. I would have to imagine the pain for him is still the same either way.

I mean where exactly is Mogambo’s end in this thing? What is he getting out of it aside from being made to feel he’s a wimp who is helpless to do anything about it? Either way read he’s made and unwilling cuckold as well. And this since he’s plain and simply not happy with this scene which he yet seems forced to tolerate nonetheless if he wants to keep his marriage.

Which is something I think he should tell her, that plain and simple whether or not she enjoys these GBs that he doesn’t like the accompanying humiliation that is forced on him through them. That plain and simple whether intentionally or unintentionally he doesn’t like being made a cuckold of. I mean bad enough if you’re a man and made a cuckold of by one or two other men. But come-on, A NEW DOZEN MEN EVERY MONTH FOR YEARS ON END? Please a little mercy if you would. Look Mogambo YOU’VE BEEN HASHING THIS OVER WITH HER FOR THREE FRIKKEN YEARS NOW. SORRY BUDDY BUT IF IT HASN’T GOTTEN BETTER BY NOW IT JUST ISN’T GOING TO. SO TAKE A HINT! I MEAN THREE FRIKKIN YEARS, ENOUGH ALREADY FOR CRISSAKE. So as for me it’s just the same as Nymph and Satyr in putting her to the curb. For me this woman if it has to be all or nothing, as I seem to understand it. Then she would come home from one of her GBs to find the locks changed on the doors and her clothes waiting for her in paper bags outside them. End of story and she can then %$## GB all she damn well wants to.

Ah a Big P. S. On the other hand sorry it’s at your expense but I thank you with all my heart for alerting me to the pitfalls of agreeing to let your wife participate in a gangbang. Because buddy when I get a S.O I can get along with that enjoys the idea of swinging this will be the first thing on the boundaries list. NO GANGBANGS, Right up there with no SEX WITH DOGS. Because from what I’ve learned here from you then elsewhere about dogs and women no single man can compete with either of them. That plain and simple once a woman samples either she’s lost to him forever.

That is unless he's willing to share her with a dog anyway. While if he does hope he's not expecting much of a response from her when it comes his turn.

[JnCC]

Originally Posted by Mogambo

We went to one private gangbang party. My wife was raved by six single males... I was surprised to observe that my wife was enjoying tremendously hence I did not stop her from what she was doing. ... She then regularly visits (once a month) gangbang parties for last three years. During this gang bang she started enjoying anal sex, oral sex which she used to hate.... I wanted to test whether she is badly addicted to GB parties and suggested that let us be exclusive to each other. She reacted very adversely and said, I can’t dance all the time on your tune.

I am confused and would like input from experienced swingers.

I think that if you want to keep this woman, you ought to move closer to a Greyhound Bus Station. Or maybe a truck stop.

Otherwise, I'd be shopping for a new wife...

[TeamSoBe]

Even if most of this thread is complete fantasy it's still pretty hot.

[Merric]

Guys and Dolls I just had to add a Post script here ‘cause this thread has been playing in my head and it is driving me nuts.

Even though I know heart and soul monogamy is no way to go. I just the same have to admit there are things pointed out in this tread that makes me loose my faith in the lifestyle as well.

And yeah I gathered that GB isn’t swinging. I mean it’s rather obvious since it leaves a very left out and cuckolded guy on the sideline and that it involves only the woman. While swinging it seems to me is more of an equal partnership so GB doesn’t enter into the equation.

But I have to ask how in the hell does a relationship wind up in that sort of a mess? Is it Just bad judgment on the man’s part in giving his wife permission to do something like this or what? I mean for me GB strikes me as something only a single girl should be involved in. Not a married woman because to me I can see what could happen right away. And that’s exactly what did happen in this instance here.

Now for the most part all you folks seem to have very stable and happy relationships so where the hell does it go wrong exactly?

[bigman99]

My wife says that the guy told her that they will treat her good and that there will be around 30-32guys at the most and she is nervous ,but determined to show up ,she does'nt want to chicken out,So can a woman fuck that many guys ,is it possible? I heard about porn women doing it ,but has any regular women tried that many?

[intuition897]

Are you actually going to take this guy's word for it? Is he seriously thinking he can vouch for 31 other horny men that he barely knows? I doubt it!
32 men means that your wife is going to need some reconstructive surgery when they get through with her. "They'll treat her good." Yeah...they'll treat her reeeeeal good. The thing they don't show on camera at those pornstar olympic gang-bang events is the crew of people running the paperwork on STD screening, the lawyers writing up the contracts that include such things as mandatory condom use, bouncers keeping the assholes in line, and probably a couple of fluffers making sure that most of them are 3-stroke wonders who are there for the "money shot" but not wearing the poor girl out. It's smoke and mirrors, man! Fantasy!

Who gives a shit if she 'chickens out'?? I'd prefer to keep my asshole intact, TYVM. Screw my pride! I'm not into gang-bangs to begin with, but even if I was, it only makes sense to SCREEEN CAREFULLY and thin down the crowd to a few choice participants. I'm think 4 or 5 maximum. It'll still keep your wife more than occupied.
And you need to go with her, period. Is she your wife or not? Do you care about her safety or not? If you both really insist on going through with this scheme, there are no two ways about it: you need to go with her. If she doesn't agree to those rules, if there's something she's hiding or is ashamed of, then she shouldn't be doing it in the first damned place!

[Pepper & Drew]

Originally Posted by Merric

Guys and Dolls I just had to add a Post script here ‘cause this thread has been playing in my head and it is driving me nuts.

Even though I know heart and soul monogamy is no way to go. I just the same have to admit there are things pointed out in this tread that makes me loose my faith in the lifestyle as well.

And yeah I gathered that GB isn’t swinging. I mean it’s rather obvious since it leaves a very left out and cuckolded guy on the sideline and that it involves only the woman. While swinging it seems to me is more of an equal partnership so GB doesn’t enter into the equation.

But I have to ask how in the hell does a relationship wind up in that sort of a mess? Is it Just bad judgment on the man’s part in giving his wife permission to do something like this or what? I mean for me GB strikes me as something only a single girl should be involved in. Not a married woman because to me I can see what could happen right away. And that’s exactly what did happen in this instance here.

Now for the most part all you folks seem to have very stable and happy relationships so where the hell does it go wrong exactly?

Wait. A few things bother me here. First, just because a woman wants more than one man at a time, that makes her husband is a cuckold? And, you're assuming that the husband isn't taking part in the gangbang, or getting any enjoyment out of the situation. What about just an MFM threesome? Is he a cuckold then? What about a FFM threesome where the women are straight? Is she dick-whipped for going along with her husband's wishes? I think the whole thing centers around what you are comfortable with, what turns you on and how much you want to see your spouse have pleasure. Something only "goes wrong" when one of the partners isn't happy about it, and I don't think it's "bad judgement" on anyone's part. Perhaps the bad judgement had nothing to do with the gangbang, but everthing to do with their relationship.

In your case, perhaps it would be a "horrible mess" for your wife to do a gangbang. But please let other married couples decide what works for them.

[bigman99]

My wife assures me she is only going to to let the guys fuck her until it hurts too much to continue and then she will tell them she cant handle anymore and that she will give BJ'S ,even though they said they all wanted to fuck her ,she says she can convince them to take a BJ instead .She says he's going to go no matter what.

[intuition897]

Originally Posted by bigman99

She says he's going to go no matter what.

Honey...she just told you how much she thought of you right there. She just threw down the gauntlet, effectively saying, "I'm gonna fuck whoever I want, and there's nothing you can do about it." The only question is, what are you going to do about it?

You're not getting any respect from this woman. And she's not going to give you any until you dump her ass. Don't put up with this shit, man! If she's bound and bent on being putting pearls beneath pigs trotters, then let her do so...on her own time. Unless you really get off on the idea of being this woman's cuckold, you're going to need to respect yourself enough to leave this relationship. See the problem is, she's not just giving away her body to strangers; by completely disregarding the feelings of the one person she's supposed to care most about, she's giving away YOUR dignity to these men.

[LICouple4u]

I too see a BIG issue of complete and total disrespect for a partner's wishes here. Sends up major red flags with flames shooting off them for me.

As stated here rather often, swinging is for BOTH parties to enjoy. This gangbang thing is obviously only for her and she seems to not even want you involved. Her attitude (as the OP portrays it at least) seems to be that she's going to do this because she likes it whether the husband likes it or not. She seems resistant to do anything for the husband's pleasure (threesomes, another couple, etc). So much for marraige being a give and take relationship?

It just seems that the OP needs to look at what he really wants and if this is something that truly bothers him (especially since she doesn't want him there!) then he needs to take control and put a stop to it.

Just my completely humble opinion....

[bigman99]

She wants to try this ,so i'm going to let her try it ,she says she will only do what she can handle ,she says she probably cant do all but will do what she can ,so im willing to let her try.I am just wondering what is the most a woman can handle