Do you mix your swinger and vanilla friendships?

[fun_couple]

Just curious, how may of you mix your swing friends with non swing friends? Do you go for a sunday dinner with your kids to swing friends houses... or vacatios, (disney world etc...)& have a "normal relationship" or do you keep the 2 separate? Just curious? I wonder how many keep your playfriends for strictly partying alone, (without kids) or actually having a normal friendship & play when the kids aren't around... we have some new friends, that want to become "normal" friends as well, and have invited us & our kids for dinner at there house on a few occasions, My only concern, is my very noisy 15year old.


What are your thoughts on this?

[EternallySingle]

hmmm...
I have different groups of friends, period. There are friends I play pool and darts with, friends I go to movies with, friends I play Rifts with, and two or three cross those boundaries. But my pool friends rarely talk about pool with my movie friends, my movie friends rarely talk about movies with my Rifts friends, and my Rifts friends rarely talk about Rifts with my pool friends. Same with the three or four people I knew in real life who swing. They knew not to talk about swinging unless they knew all the other people were involved as well.

[MrsBliss]

We did not start swinging yet, but I think I could be mixing everybody. I like to have a lot of people around me, especially people I am close to. I hope my husband will one day agree to tell a couple of our vanilla friends that we are swinging, because I already know that I would like to honestly tell them 'what we did last weekend'.

[mrs good times]

We have kept them seperate however recently we were at a "sex toy party" with our vanilla friends and the host of the party asked if there were any swingers there and two of our friends actually pointed us out. Does this mean we've been outed?

[Alura]

We just figure friends are friends. We don't even have to ask our swinger friends to be discrete at our parties. We have two parties a year where all our firends are invited, including children. In fact, our kids make up their own invitation list of their friends and their parents. Sixty to seventy people attend.

The only time we've come close to a problem:

Mary: (vanilla friend) "How do y'all happen to know each other?"
Jane: (Playmate) "Our husbands met somewhere..."
Mrs. Alura: (quickly) "They met in a bookstore." (Actually true, an adult book store where we were both checking out the Swingers Bulletin Board.)
Jane: "Oh, right! I remember... They were both looking for something for their wives..." (Actually true, another man to fuck her.)
Mrs. Alura: "They compared ideas and we've been friends since."

Although the ladies were proud of themselves for keeping a straight face throughout that conversation, we've had a lot of laughs about that exchange since.

Mr. Alura

[GirlieZ]

Originally posted by Alura
The only time we've come close to a problem:

Mary: (vanilla friend) "How do y'all happen to know each other?"
Jane: (Playmate) "Our husbands met somewhere..."
Mrs. Alura: (quickly) "They met in a bookstore." (Actually true, an adult book store where we were both checking out the Swingers Bulletin Board.)
Jane: "Oh, right! I remember... They were both looking for something for their wives..." (Actually true, another man to fuck her.)
Mrs. Alura: "They compared ideas and we've been friends since."

Although the ladies were proud of themselves for keeping a straight face throughout that conversation, we've had a lot of laughs about that exchange since.

Mr. Alura

Such a cute story.....I bet it was very hard to keep a straight face!

Zgirl

[Brit_Pair]

Thus far, we've held to the principle of 'never the twain' - our friends are compartmentalised, and will likely remain so while we are active players.

[fun_pairTX]

Our swing and vanilla friends have begun to mix, there haven't been any problems as our swing buds are very discreet.

[viper31631]

i've met my entire gf and her hubbies fam and not been a problem, just have to be good for awhile lol

When we meet people from our swinging side we will take them to our usual watering hole. Where we have all kinds of nonswinging friends.
We introduce them to our nonswinging friends as people we met at the lake.

Its kind of Naughty to have the two mix together without the nonswingers knowing whats really going on.

[C&D]

Our swing friends have become more of our regular friends now. We have a few that have been to the house and all of the kids have gotten along great. We save the fun for when the kids are not around. And actually we almost prefer it this way.



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[yawanna]

Our friendships run the gamut from vanilla folks to swingers we are only friends with, to swingers we have played with and are mostly just friends now, to swingers we have and will again probably play with. It sometimes takes a bit of thinking to remember who's who and what's appropriate discussion We all get together when we can and this includes family only (no sex) type events, like bbq's.

Probably the best example we have is our wedding, which was a mixed wedding.....swinger and non swingers. The best man and the photographer are swinger friends. About a third of the guests are swinger friends. There was a LOT of discussion beforehand amongst the swingers - and a lot of teasing as to what a response would be to 'so...... how do you know the bride and groom?'

The bottom line is we all agree with and abide by discretion, and the only close call we had was my mother commenting to me about one swinger guy who is particularly outgoing who spoke briefly about their visit to a nudist resort. She said to me 'my...what an interesting man!'. You don't know the HALF of it Mom.......

[sexypairca]

A friend is a friend. We have successfully mixed the two without incident, it probably helps that our vanilla friends know that we swing. The only time I tend to get on edge is when family drops by unexpectedly and swing friends are over. It can be interesting to come up with an explaination as to how we know one another upon being questioned .

Annette

[meowkittyhascla]

We tried to keep the two worlds seperate, however, the swinging friends we have met have been such sweet people, that friendships outside the bedroom have grown. We don't announce to our non-swinging friends that these are swing friends. We (the swingers) tend to be very discreet and respectful of each other when meeting in public and in each other's homes with families about and other friends. We have never had any problems, but I could see if you found a bothersome sort of person that it could.
Hugs and Kisses From Missouri.

[BradAndJanet]

We have not, but I wouldn't have a problem introducing our 'vanilla' friends to any of the fine people we have met from this board.

-B