Friends have expressed interest in swinging with us

We are a couple who have been friends with another couple for over 15 years. Recently, they have told us that they would be interested in swinging with us. Is it advisable to get involved with good friends? Where do we go from here?

J&L

Your first step is to discuss it between the two of you and decide what you want to do about it. Are you interested in them both sexually? If you decide that you are interested in swinging with them, then take your time and discuss any ground rules you may desire. Such as , No anal, bathroom play or whatever you feel is needed.

Also, if you are not interested in swinging with them, then let them know that as well.

The biggest thing people asking this question worry about is how will this affect the friendship. There really is only one way to find out. Everyone is different, and has different likes and dislikes. Just be yourselves. You are already friends, so it may, as it quite often does, make your friendship just that much better.

Good luck and let us know how it worked out.

Husband of CyberMWCouple

[This message has been edited by CyberMWCouple (edited 11-13-2000).]

[JustAskJulie]

Swinging with good friends will either make your friendship that much stronger, or will kill it. Simple as that.

How you and they go about it is what will most likely determine which way things will go.

As Cyber said, before you do anything else. Talk with your mate and make sure that this is something that both of YOU want to do. You didn't mention if this was a case where both you and the other couple are experienced swingers or if one or the other is just starting out. That can make a difference here.

Make sure that any issues are out in the open , as well as any ground rules. If there is something you aren't comfortable with make it known. You are all already good friends so being able to have a frank and open discussion about swinging and any issues you have should be easy.

Once you are all sure that this is a step you want to take together, it's up to you to decide how best to do that, based on what you are all comfortable with.

When it's all over things might be a little awkward at first but help each other get over that by talking about the experience together and how you felt about it. If there was any jealousy issues or any other issues that cropped up during the fun, get them out in the open so that no bad feelings can grow and hurt your friendship.

As long as you treat this as an extension of your friendship and are open and honest with each other you should all be fine

Julie http://www.swingersboard.com

Just as an update...the other couple has suggested that all four of us go on "double dates" (Movies, dancing, dinner etc...) for the next couple of months. During these times we are free to tease and be suggestive and speak freely. Later, we agreed that if we all felt good about it, we would take it to the next level.

I think it's a good plan.

We agree, that sounds EXCELLENT! And don't forget to keep us posted!

Good luck & have FUN!

Hubby AND Wife

Thanks everyone!

Well, it wasn't planned but we have gone on two "double dates" since the 16th having a lot of fun. Dancing and dinner..I have to admit it was both exciting and a little odd to see your wife dancing with a good friend.

Anyway, after going out to dinner last night we ended up at their house last night - not planning anything - but it ended up to be one of the most intense, erotic and exciting nights for all four of us.
Wow!

[JustAskJulie]

Originally posted by musicmate:
Anyway, after going out to dinner last night we ended up at their house last night - not planning anything - but it ended up to be one of the most intense, erotic and exciting nights for all four of us.
Wow!

Glad to hear everything went so well. We'll be looking forward to you sharing your story with us .. hint .. hint...

Julie http://www.swingersboard.com

Originally posted by JustAskJulie:
Glad to hear everything went so well. We'll be looking forward to you sharing your story with us .. hint .. hint...

*Agreeing with Julie....Hint...Hint...And HINT...*


Wife of CyberMWCouple

Ok....I just submitted the experience we had this weekend. I wanted to do it while everything was still fresh in my mind.

It really was a great time that my wife and I had. My only wish is that everyone could have that kind of moment in their life.

[JustAskJulie]

Great I'm looking forward to reading it. Give me a few weeks to get it posted. It takes a while to get through all the stories that get submitted every week. I'd be heaven if that was all I had to do all day tho..lol

Julie http://www.swingersboard.com

musicmate...Cool, thanks!

I'm still working on our 2nd story, the "sequel" to "Dinner For 4..."! *lol*

Good luck to ALL of you & ENJOY!


Wife of CyberMWCouple

[JustAskJulie]

Thought everyone would like to know that I finally posted MusicMate's story in the stories area. You can read it under "Old Friend's Express Interest" - imagine that..lol.

Enjoy! & Thanks for sharing MusicMate

Julie http://www.swingersboard.com

Thanks for the notice, Julie!

Musicmate....Wow! That was a GREAT story, what an EROTIC adventure you all had! We're glad that it worked out, and we can't wait to hear/read about the NEXT one!

That was another reason why we seeked friendships with other COUPLES, we didn't have any mutual couple-friends, and who are into the "lifestyle" (that we know of), so we decided to place an ad online "Couple Seeking Couples" for friendships and more... Nothing but "EROTIC FUN TIMES" since! We're still working on that "closeness" with our new friends, and we look forward to it too!


Wife of CyberMWCouple

I would never have thought of myself as a swinger but last Friday, after eighteen years of uninterrupted monogamy, I spent the night in bed with a man other than my husband, Ted, who was in the next room with another woman. The spouses of my companion and Ted's were sharing the room (but not the bed) with me and my companion.
The other two couples have been enjoying a close relationship for quite a while though nobody would have guessed it - we have been their closest friends for over a year and never suspected a thing. I don't know if they had been conspiring to include me and Ted but last Friday the conversation touched on sex and before long we somehow arrived at a spontaneous mutual agreement that it would be a pleasant way for good friends to top off an enjoyable evening of socializing andthe next thing I knew I was cheerfully disrobing.
It was indeed pleasant: - no orgiastic athletics or passionate exclamations- just joyful satisfying sex. I could hardly believe how satisfying it was even though I didn't climax, but then I don't always with Ted either.
No pangs of guilt or remorse plagued me after and Saturday's sex with Ted was sweeter and more gratifying than ever. I can hardly wait for this Friday when we pair off in the alternate pattern.
I know we will have many more delightful evenings with our dear friends. It works for us.

<a href="mailto:jackduncan52@hotmail.com?subject=Feedback to Jack Duncan">Jessie B.</a><br>

I enjoyed your story very much Jessie. Thank you for sharing it with us. It is much like our own. It is amazingly erotic to become closer than friends with your best friends! We have doubled our pleasure but you have tripled yours!