Close friends swingers, but they won't admit it

[bear_n_bunny]

I would have to agree with the earlier posters, and advise you to just let it drop. The more I think about it, the more I suspect that you may indeed have a case of mistaken identity here. Just because you think you correctly identified one of the people from an online photo doesn't mean squat. You would be amazed at how many people we've met that looked very little like the pictures they had up on AFF, Swing Lifestyle, CT or the like. A case of mistaken identity is very likely here.

Actually, under the circumstances, the smart thing to do would have been to email this couple, but directly through the web site on which you found their profile. This way, you are approaching them safely from within a swinging environment, not a "bolt from the blue" regular email. That's a major reason why these web sites exist, for establishing discreet communications between swinging couples. (I'm assuming that since you stated that you "emailed" them that you did just that, rather than use the web site's internal messaging system.)

I think it more likely that you just "outed" yourselves as swingers to your friends to no purpose.

However, I about fell out of my chair laughing at the "they are too conservative to be swingers" sort of comments that some made. Anyone who thinks that whether someone is "liberal" or "conservative" has any significant bearing on their being in the lifestyle is either a noob, or simply has not been paying attention...

There is, however, the matter of discretion...

-- Bear

[HappyPeople]

I'd leave it... If it is them, they don't want to admit it to you. I'd pretend like the email never happened when you see them. You reached out and they've obviously made thier choice not to talk about it with you for what ever reason.