Friends In Swinging

[txduo2000]

Originally Posted by luv2play1021

txduo2000....You and my wife do have alot of the same issues or should I say "did" in your case.

Well, not to say I am glad she is having those issues, but I am happy if any of the ramblings I wrote came across to you to help in any way.

If either one of you feels pressured to be in this when you really don't want to be in it, deep down, and if either of you are doing it to appease the other ... these feelings will not go away on their own.

You each have to be comfortable in your own skin to make this work, and you have to make the decision that you are in it for yourself before it will be the least bit successful.

Believe me, if she is having even 1/2 the issues I was having, take a break and examine your marriage, its strength, your reasons for swinging and her comfort levels before you get back in. Believe me, if it all works out later on, it will be so much better.

[Dolphins524]

Not having even so much as an off premise experience yet, I'm kind of hoping to make some friends that are also playmates. Doesn't have to be w/ every playmate, though. But frienships are one of the things that attracted me to this. Not the thing, but one of them . We have plenty of vanilla friends, but like Mrs. Spoomonkey said, we really can't be ourselves around them. So I'm all for the frienships, @ least for now.

[mfmyeahbaby]

Thus far including a friend has the been the best thing for us. We usually only do mfm and from the very beginning he was our choice and still remains the best mfm we've had. We have tried others, but to this date the friend is still the best. Partly because with the friendship we've experienced a growth in the respect for each other as well as the sex. This allowed for serious growth in the sex, straight of course, strickly male female. So we feel including a friend is great.

[playmatesinpgh]

Originally Posted by good times

We have noticed that the better we have become friends with our play partners the less we have sex with them.

This has certainly proved true for us. Not sure why though. Maybe it is just the old familarity thing; the excitement tends to wane so playtimes get further apart???

The only exception has been one couple we met online, played with, became friends with, and now are our best friends. We still play almost everytime we are together. And each playtime is better then the last.

[Pepper & Drew]

We're friends with most of the couples we play with, but it isn't a prerequisite for playing. In fact, we've gotten to know a few couples after we played with them and enjoyed the experience. Like Mrs. Spoo said, with swinger friends, you can hang out and tell dirty jokes, flirt heavily, hint about what you're going to do later, and not worry about offending a soul.

But, it also depends on your definition of friends. Most of our playcouples are friends on the same level as people we work with. We're friendly, we care what goes on in their lives, but not on an incredibly personal level. We do have a few couples that we consider really good, dear friends though. And then, there's those people that you see at the socials and may have a good time with, but hanging out vertically is just plain painful

Pepper