confided in best friend, she can't handle it

[EternallySingle]

I have a very close female friend, Ms. A., that has bragged to me about her sexual prowess and that she has men begging her to have sex with her all the time. She's doing that to get under my skin, I know, but she has an active sex life with three or four partners a month. How is that different than swinging? I'm not sure.

Once, she told me she was very disappointed in the sexual performance of a guy she invited to go with her to a conference in PA. I asked if she stayed with him because he was also going to the conference, and she said she invited him because her best friend (both women are straight...I think LOL) cancelled and she called this guy because they talked before and he was cute (He couldn't have been cuter than me). Anyway, she said they had a good talk down there, a good talk on the way back, but he just couldn't do it in bed. Came too quick. I told her I have experience with multiple women and know I can last at least 20 minutes, no matter how good 'it' is. Normally things like that make her laugh, but she told me she couldn't handle another person, man or woman, being there while and joining in she was having sex. She's never brought it up again. She also cooled off the flirting to almost nothing. She still calls and asks me to fix things or have dinner, though.

[JnG]

> I was just thinking how hard it is to be a swinger because you have to hide an
> aspect of your life (or at least I do, some may not agree). We had a really fun
> weekend but we can't share it with anyone.

That's one of the suckier things about this lifestyle, but I guess it sort of comes with the territory. We have one 'vanilla' friend (in a sense - we had a couple of experiences with her, but probably won't in the future) who knows, and her main reaction is that of jealousy in that we won't take her along to the club we go to. For various reasons, it would be awkward and uncomfortable.

We've actually only lived here for a few years, and are very wrapped up in our work, so we don't have too many local vanilla friends to begin with. To some extent, we hope to meet new friends as a part of the lifestyle (that should limit the amount of hiding we'd have to do).