First Full Swap

[ratimadan]

What were your mental reactions during and after you first swapped mates with another couple for nude play/soft swing (foreplay) and particularly after a full swap of spouse or SO and full genital contact for intercourse? Since it is generally the man who first proposes the idea of swapping mates for sex, the male respose is likely to be different from his spouse's. Among other things not mentioned below these may include:

Female: 1. A sense of guilt, since, for a married woman intercourse with someone other than hubby goes against her upbringing and martial vows.
2. Sense of elation and excitement on letting other guy undress you, play with you and then letting him sink his penis in your vagina and the two of you fucked to orgasm. 3. Jealousy watching your hubby fuck other guy's wife or SO.4. You are happy he is satisfying his desires for sex with another woman.

Male:1. Jealousy watching your wife or SO getting pleasured by another guy as she willingly opens her thighs and lets him penetrate her with his erect rod, moaning and groaning with pleasure while the two fuck to orgasm.
2. Pleasure and excitement watching your mate getting fucked and enjoying it. 3. You are too occupied pleasuring and fucking the other woman to notice or to have a sense of jealousy. 4. You are happy she is happy while you fuck another woman and are able to satisfy a man's natural urge and desire for multiple sex partners.

Would love to hear how you felt during/after your first swap of mates for sex.

ratimadan

Our first full swap.....

Actualy Mrs naughty did the first full swap (meaning intercourse)

I thought it was great!!!

I have to admit though I wasnt sure how I would handle the actual reality of mrs naughty being brought to orgasm by another man. In fantasy land it was awesome and when we finaly moved it into reality my fears melted away because I found it the reality of it was even better than fantasy!

I love watching mrs naughty taking someone elses cock!! No jealousy what so ever just pure sexual overdrive!!

watching your wife or SO getting pleasured by another guy as she willingly opens her thighs and lets him penetrate her with his erect rod, moaning and groaning with pleasure while the two fuck to orgasm.

Life cant get any better than that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Especialy when its my turn!!

[pairbond]

AAAAAAAAAAAAAARRGGGGGGHHHHHHHH!

The day we were preparing to go to our 1st couple's home, intending to do full swap, we agreed we would stay in the same room to provide each other a reassuring touch, if necessary. As luck would have it, I also had a terrible cold that day. My nose was running like a faucet, so I took a DOUBLE DOSE of antihistamines so I wouldn't drip on the other woman during sex! I didn't think that would be too cool.

More bad luck. It was spring, and the heavy oak pollen was making the other woman's allergies go wild, so she felt like a zombie. You can see we're getting off to a good start here, can't you? lol

Anyway, after dinner we all got naked and jumped into their hot tub. Mrs. Pairbond and our host got cozy in one corner of the tub, but Hostess Lady was about knocked out by the combination of allergies, medications, and hot tub, so she was just sitting there with her eyes closed doing nothing! Bad sign!

We decided to go upstairs, so Hostess Lady and I go up and head into the master bedroom, and just as we are going in, Mrs. Pairbond says "We'll be in HERE," and she and Host Guy disappeared into the next bedroom and closed the door. She said later that in her excitement she just FORGOT that we had agreed to stay in the same room, and when Host Guy said "let's go in here" she just followed along.

At that point, I turned around and there was Hostess Lady lying face down on the bed, fully wrapped in her terry cloth robe, not moving! This was NOT looking good! I was so new I didn't have a clue what to do under the circumstances, so after a while I started massaging her lower calf and ankle, which was about all that was poking out of her terry cloth robe. No response!

After a while, it was time to do SOMETHING, so I started to slide my hand higher up the inside of her leg, and WHAM, she slammed her legs tight shut! So now Mrs. Pairbond is in the next room fucking Host Guy, and Hostess Lady is making it pretty clear she isn't interested in doing anything with ME!

Not knowing what to do, I just lay back and did nothing, waiting for this whole horrible ordeal to be over with so we could go home. Finally, Hostess Lady stirred herself and tried to get me up with oral, but by then it was WAY too late. I had already stressed out to the max and nothing was going to happen, and it turns out if you want to have an erection under the BEST of circumstances, DON'T TAKE ANTIHISTAMINES, which are vasoconstrictors, which means you cut off blood flow to extremities, such as YOUR DICK!!!!

Anyway, for the first time in my whole life, NOTHING MOVED, no matter how hard Hostess Lady tried to get me up. Not a twitch! I was MORTIFIED! And just as the panic inside me was rising to maximum proportions, I heard Mrs. Pairbond getting off in the next room! Wow! Didn't I have a great first time?

pairbond

what a shity story!
I'm sorry to hear things went so wrong.

I hope things got better for you on the second try at full swap!!

[pairbond]

OK, here's "the rest of the story." The morning after our 1st time, Mrs. Pairbond and I were still talking about what happened the night before and how absolutely humiliated and mortified I felt. That's when it suddenly hit her that the antihistamines I took a double dose of may have contributed to the problem, and reading the small print on the label confirmed it. I was elated! My manhood was still intact!

OK, so we called & made a date for attempt #2 the following weekend. Saturday came, and I made sure I did NOT use any antihistamines that day. Hostess Lady's allergies weren't acting up. Looks good, right? So we go out to dinner, come back to their house, get naked in the hot tub, get fooling around a little bit, then decide to go upstairs. This time I was prepared for and OK with separate rooms, since that's what they preferred. Hostess Lady was feeling much better this time. So all was well, right? WRONG! I STILL couldn't get it up, no matter how hard she tried! AAAAAAAAARRRRRRRGHHH!

More embarrassment. More humiliation. More mortification. More of Mrs. Pairbond going off loudly in the next room! AAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRGHHH!

At this point I had a mental block about Hostess Lady. I still had no problem at all at home, but around her I couldn't help fearing it would happen again, so of course it did.

They were great people, though, and they invited us to go with them to an on-premises club the following week. I thought that was awfully forgiving of them, given that I had most certainly NOT given Hostess Lady a good time the last 2 weekends! At the club, the ambience, sexy attire, group nakedness in the hot tub, seeing people doing oral and having sex, all got me excited. So on a mat beside the tub, Hostess Lady and I lay there kissing & feeling each other, and despite my worst fears, IT CAME UP. At least partially. Hostess Lady was not going to be denied this time, so she took it in her hand and shoved it into her, and condom be damned! I was so thrilled to actually be performing that I "went with the flow." Once inside her, my erection grew strong at last! Woooooohoooooooo! I was a MAN! LOL

That was the last time I ever had that problem. Bless Hostess Lady's heart for being patient with me and giving me a 3rd chance. And also for not having any STDs! LOL

It's been nothing but a lot of fun and a great experience ever since.

pairbond

Glad it all worked out!!

Its weird the way that mental block thing works isnt it???

Everything in your brain is a go but your dick still says no.

I've had that happen a time or two and it is extremely frustrating. head bang

[CB_n_Red]

Ouch! And here's me taking anti-histamines for hay-fever.....

Not that they stopped things happening last week!

Could be that there is a difference between types of anti-histamines. I'm on the one per day sort that don't make you drowsy. It would appear they lack the other side effect as well

[pairbond]

Originally Posted by CB_n_Red

Ouch! And here's me taking anti-histamines for hay-fever.....

Not that they stopped things happening last week!

Could be that there is a difference between types of anti-histamines. I'm on the one per day sort that don't make you drowsy. It would appear they lack the other side effect as well

Don't take a double dose before swinging!

pairbond

[BodyScape02]

Hello, the male half here writing. I don’t know if she will reply or not just yet. Let me think about this as I write as there are some problems deciding exactly which experience I would actually count as our first experience. You see, we had tried a few MMFs at first but nothing really happened as the gentlemen involved had stage fright or something…I guess I really can’t count those, though it was a blast going out with her and watching her flirt and seduce as well as she does!

Then there was the couple we went out with for dinner and invited over to our city apartment for play. It turned out they were “soft-swingers” but he still tried to have intercourse with my sweetie, without protection, and that didn’t happen. The way we looked at it was if it’s going to be OK for him to screw my baby then why not the reverse? And did I mention the lack of protection?? We all did break the bed frame playing with our own partners though, so that was pretty funny. I had a heck of a time explaining that one to the carpenters when they fixed it for the 2nd time…LOL

We did eventually meet a man who was nice and charming and could at least get a semi-erection to try the MMF. It was very exciting seeing her in total sensual bliss as two men pleasured her. The seduction was fun and the extended foreplay was a serious blast! All in all, it was enjoyable but she still felt the lack of fulfillment as he never did get totally erect and that is what she really likes! Plus, what got us into this lifestyle in the first place was her desire for a MMF DP, something that has yet to happen. But we keep looking…

Then there were the couples where the women of the other party and I totally enjoyed each other but my sweetie was let down by the men…again… heck, one lady at one point pointed at her man’s flaccid penis and said, “that’s what I have to deal with all the time!” It made me feel so terribly embarrassed for him.

She is now calling men that cannot achieve full erections “Dairy Queens” for their “soft serve.” It’s not just an age thing either; they are in ages from 30’s to 50s… Of course, she always thinks it’s something about her but it just can’t be. She is a very sexy and seductive woman and when we meet other people they invariably pursue her. Sometimes in ways that are nice and sometimes in ways that are crude.

I am beginning to feel somewhat badly that she is getting the “short end of the stick” (pun intended). Now we have had a few encounters that were a lot of fun. It seems the FFM thing works out very well for us and while some people think it’s all about 2 women pleasuring 1 man, to me, it’s the opposite!

I love to see how turned on my lover gets when she is in the mood to play. Watching her flirt and seduce other people is so enjoyable. She really knows how to work it! LOL I also enjoy seeing her excitement rise as foreplay, sensual touching and kissing make her begin to moan with pleasure and her eyes light with fire.

If we could just get the whole package off the ground and actually get it to the next level, I guess I will tell you how I feel about seeing her actually with others. LOL

The one good thing about all this? All these men keep making me look better in her eyes…LOL

[pairbond]

Originally Posted by BodyScape02

She is now calling men that cannot achieve full erections “Dairy Queens” for their “soft serve.” It’s not just an age thing either; they are in ages from 30’s to 50s… Of course, she always thinks it’s something about her but it just can’t be. She is a very sexy and seductive woman and when we meet other people they invariably pursue her.

BodyScape02, the problem could be that you are playing with newbies with anxiety, like I was and posted above. A more experienced couple may give Mrs. BodyScape a good time, too.

Also, we have learned that the experience I had the 1st 2 times with Hostess Lady and posted about above is not uncommon at all. It turns out that a LOT of men have performance difficulty the first time with a new woman, or sometimes even the first TWO times. Clearly the guy whose wife said "I have to put up with that all the time" has a problem (and so does his wife, to say something humiliating like that about her husband), but if a guy can't get or stay erect long enough to please your wife, discuss with them afterward whether this is a common or unusual occurrence. It may well be "1st time jitters" with a new woman.

Men sometimes want SO MUCH to give a good performance that they worry about failure. If you worry about it, it's almost certain to happen. Unless the guy has a real problem, it's almost always due to anxiety. Familiarity and patience can usually make a guy comfortable and rexlaxed, and then everything works just fine. It may take a 2nd or even 3rd try, though, and you may want to change the scenery, as Host Guy & Hostess Lady did for me by taking us to an on-premises club.

Mrs. Pairbond has been with guys who had trouble the first time or two with her, too, but they all got over it with patience, understanding, and kind words.

Those 1st-time jitters are also a reason why we prefer to use separate rooms, especially the first few times with a couple. If either he or I has any difficulty, at least we won't be embarrassed in front of the other couple.

pairbond

[Brit_Pair]

Originally Posted by BodyScape02

… heck, one lady at one point pointed at her man’s flaccid penis and said, “that’s what I have to deal with all the time!”

One hell of a way to help your man overcome his difficulties . . . non-surgical public castration.

[BodyScape02]

Originally Posted by pairbond

BodyScape02, the problem could be that you are playing with newbies with anxiety...

I would have to agree to that in the case of the first few single men who joined us. They were new to it all and I am sure that had a lot to do with it. I spoke to one at length about it, as he seemed to have a real problem with it, not just with us but with dates as well.

As for the couples though, these were seasoned players all… of course, we still keep trying…sooner or later it will all fall into place…(pardon the pun this time!)

[mrs good times]

I'm typing but we're posting this together and LOL.

Pairbond, your first experience mimics ours but Bodyscape yours reflect everything since.

Our first experience was on NYE. We live in a tourist town and get alot of out of towners who are determined to score while they are here. We didn't know this at the time but later it affected what happened. We were heavily pursued by an out of town couple to the point of them being possesive but we were new and excited that someone had taken notice so we went with the flow even though Mr. wasn't sure about the female half.

When we started dancing, flirting and soft swinging in the club Mr. had wood for about two hours. When we finally went upstairs (we both bought rooms) and started to disrobe we found that the female half of the other couple had been wearing a corsette. She asked Mr. to untie the corsette and when he pulled the string it released with a bang. How they got it that tight I have now idea. Needless to say she was way more woman than was previously apparant and Mr.'s wood converted to noodle immediatly. A note hear Mr. doesn't require barbie but obese women don't do it for him. In her defense she was a trouper trying everything to get the wood back to no avail. So, Mr. pleasured her to orgasm orally.

I on the other hand recieved intercourse but he kept positioning me so he could watch his wife so I felt like he was just doing his duty but not really interested in pleasuring me.

Upon leaving it felt very akward as we didn't think anyone was really satisfied with the outcome. Mr. was embarrased and just wanted to get out.

Since that time we have played with both experienced and newbies but the problem is reversed. Mr. gives and gets good sex with the other women but I have only had "Dairy Queens".

So I guess practice makes perfect so we will keep practicing. We live in a gambling town so we're bound to hit the jackpot sooner or later.

[midnight hour]

My experience is limited, and only so far with MFM~the first two times was with a ex of mine so I was able to come to orgasm..thru oral this last time which was not long ago with a man we met thru Swing Lifestyle and he had no problem with *soft serve* though it did go up and down, but I am used to that as age sometimes does that to men, it happens to Mr. Midnight also, but as long as it arises to the occasion when needed... However I could not orgasm with anyone but Mr. Midnight, but the experience was just great so it worked out for everyone, we do want another play date with this gentleman, he was a really nice person~he has talked to Mr.about needing to know his secrets... So this is my fear, I won't be able to orgasm with anyone but Mr. Midnight. I have *very* limited experience with other men and I am not the easiest woman to get to the moon...Mr. Midnight is worried also, and that is one reason we tend to stick to MFM, as he is not foaming at the mouth for full swap..so my fear is on the womans side of things...but at least regardless he can satisfy his partner thru oral most likely...so that is a plus on his side, I however could leave a swapping partner feeling bad.

midnight hour

[CB_n_Red]

Originally Posted by pairbond

Don't take a double dose before swinging!

pairbond

Fortunately I didn't yesterday!

We entertained a M friend of ours last night.... no problem

Though how I have managed to get into the workshop this early this morning is beyond me (9.15 am here now). We were still busy 4 hours ago

No surprise that Red didn't look much like getting up early - she still had a big sleepy grin on her face when I left the house.

Ah well. Work to do.