first time club experience and the questions that follow...

[WA_Cple]

Hi everyone,

Well... we finally got over the trauma of the towel incident in Australia and decided to visit an on-premise club (Colettes) while we were in New Orleans. We sort of decided ahead of time that we would just go and check things out - get the lay of the land so to speak *ahem*

Wow... it was an awesome visit - we didn't play at all the first night but the visit convinced us that this swinging thang was definitely something for us. So we went again the next night... and it was even better! Hubby and I played with another couple... we kept our boundaries on some things... expanded them on other things... and in general felt more in love with each other after that night then ever before. We both felt that swinging has added a very rich and fulfilling aspect to our relationship.

So... we went again (visit #3) and omigod it was even more incredible... so we went again (visit #4) and it was the best of all the nights.

I really appreciate the comments and advice that we received from everyone before we went. Many thanks go out to remox and Julie. Julie's advice to BBW to wear accessible but beautiful lingerie was very very helpful and made me feel very sexy yet comfortable.

My only question is this... I did what I thought was appropriate to break the ice and talk with folks... but it seemed like every encounter we had we sort of ... I don't know... fell into?! We didn't have any situations where we were approached for fun... so instead of hanging back... we sort of just played with each other and people joined us. Is that the normal thing or ?? Is there any way to approach other couples - I mean neither the Mr. or I are bar crowd sorts... so we don't have a lot of savvy pick up lines. I sort of felt like... gee do I just walk up to someone and say 'wanna fuck?' Now I know that might work with some single guys but we're into couple sorts of things... and well... I know thats not how things are done but sheesh it made me wonder!

I did ask one couple after some casual chit chat... "So what sort of things are you guys interested in" and I got back the answer "We don't know"... and I was like oh okay... and the conversation just sort of died!

It seemed to me that ppl would just magically appear in the bedrooms with each other... that one minute they would be lounging in the room and the next they would be in a room fucking with another couple and we'd be like... hmmmm... how did they do that?

I'm rambling a bit... but it was about the only perplexing thing... well honestly there are other perplexing things but thats for another time...

All in all... the Mr and I are thrilled to have moved our relationship to another more intimate level and that everything I had ever fantasized about has finally come true and it was even more incredible then I ever imagined. We are even considering going to our local club... something we would have never considered prior to this experience.

I'll ramble more later... thanks to everyone again and to you all.

Mrs. WA

WOW!!!

Sounds like GREAT fun!!

4 nights in a row!!
We are Jealous!!!!

Hubby and I played with another couple... we kept our boundaries on some things... expanded them on other things... and in general felt more in love with each other after that night then ever before. We both felt that swinging has added a very rich and fulfilling aspect to our relationship.

I can COMPLETELY understand how you feel!!

That is exactly how we felt after our first time!

Aint it great!!!

I havent quite figured out what it is about seeing Mrs naughty with another man that makes me feel closer to her but boy do I LOVE that feeling!!

I am glad you guys had a great time!!!

And most of the time the encounters you kind of "Fall into" are the best!

So take it as it goes and ENJOY!!

Once again,
Congrats!!!!

[JustAskJulie]

I would say that it's not untypical. The key is that you had fun, however it happened. Did people show up in the rooms and start playing WITH you or did they come in and just start playing with each other? Were they easier to talk to after that? Or did they talk to you after?

[yawanna]

Congrats!!

The lack of 'wanna fuck?' offers is, I think, a major reason that many couples don't have experiences for many months, despite going to clubs and placing/answering ads.

I've learned patience....and to wait for that one couple or person who makes my knees weak, who is very attracted to me/us and wants more Those are the best!

Happy trails!

[WA_Cple]

Thanks for the feedback and congrats everyone!

It was funny today to hear my hubby tell his best friend about how much fun we had in New Orleans and when asked by his friend to define fun, my hubby turned all red and muttered something about going to an adult club that was sorta kinda like a swing club... hehe sorta kinda my ass!

Anyway... Julie - our first experience came when we were sort of feeling a bit kinky so I started giving dh a blow job on the couch (it was a bit dark so I didn't feel too 'out there')... and another couple came up and were watching and then Mr said, "its okay if you'd like to touch...' and then before I knew it I had these hands rubbing my back... my front... and the lady kneeled beside me and had a go with the hubby... omigod I just about died and the hubby almost had a huge major orgasm but stopped himself! We didn't have sex with that couple but both hubby and I were able to play with the F part of the couple... her hubby liked to watch which was just fine with us for our first go around...

We did talk and introduce ourselves afterward and we played with them again on night #2 WHEW! Just thinking about it gets me all wiggly inside.

The other nights were a bit different but essential similar... I became a lot more outgoing as the week went on... which is good because Mr is a little bit more ummm... hmmm... not anti-social but he's not a very outgoing sort of man. Plus he really wants me to be in charge of what happens, etc. to make sure that the situation is always a good one for me.

Anyway... I have to tell you... I am THRILLED to be out of the swinging closet... we have thought, talked, fantasized about this for most of our relationship and it is awesome to finally have the experience and it brings us closer together and makes our relationship even that more meaningful.

Look forward to many more experiences... sigh... I guess my only worry is that I'll turn into a sex addict! hehe



Mrs WA

[BradAndJanet]

Originally posted by WA_Cple
... WHEW! Just thinking about it gets me all wiggly inside. ...

I got a bit wiggly myself just from reading about it.

Thanks for sharing your good time with us!

-B

[JustAskJulie]

So once you loosened up as the week went on did others approach you (outside of sexual situations)?

One thought is that often when you are new at a club people won't approach you for fear of being too pushy (or perhaps your nervousness showed through in a "don't approach us" demeanor - no on purpose). Then as you were there more people remembered you from previous nights so it made it easier.

And as mentioned above, if you were nervous that might have shown through as something other than what you intended.

[WA_Cple]

Hey Julie - this is weird because I thought I had replied to this message and went back to check on it and it wasn't here! *sigh* I also had tummy flu earlier this week so maybe it was during my feverish state that I had a vision of answering you!

I found that during our visits to the club that we became more outgoing and broke the initial ice with people. I am very outgoing as it is... hehe.

I agree that on our first night we probably put off newbie vibes and nervous vibes... plus it was sort of a slow night which was good in a lot of ways. It gave us a chance to get more comfortable and sort of reinforced the 'rightness' of where we were going with our relationship.

Mrs WA

[leftcoastcouple]

WOW! WA_Cple, thanks for the stories.

THIS is why I'm trying to get my wife over her inhibitions so we can attend an off-premises club, let alone an on-premises one.

I think I'll show her your post...

[WA_Cple]

LCC,

Please do... I am a very outgoing in personality but very introverted regarding my body because I am overweight... and I really wasn't sure that I would fit in or get playtime because of my weight - I'm 5'8" and 225 pounds.

By the 4th night at the club... I was way over that and was walking around topless w/ only my lingerie boxers on (not right away of course but by 2am...) Hubby was loving it and it was a very liberating experience. Hopefully I didn't gross anyone out and I got a very positive response from the ladies.

I definitely credit the atmosphere of the club for assisting its members in being very open... the host of the club was very welcoming, etc. and it was a very positive experience - so much more then we had even hoped it would be.

Of course more then anything I also credit the members of this board for helping me in everything from what to wear, what to say, what to expect, what to ask, what feelings to be aware of... I mean everything that I could imagine I would need to know and then some things that didn't even occur to me but I was happy to have presented to me...

If your wife isn't a member or reading posts then I highly recommend this place to her especially if the only thing holding her back is inhibitions and she is 100% on every other aspect.



Mrs WA

[GirlieZ]

WA Couple! I'm so glad that you had an absolultely fuckinfantasic time! I had smiliar reservations--all proven to be unfounded--about my first club experience.

My inhibitions have been totally lost and I am looking for even more experiences.

Like Martha Stewart says-- Its a good thing.

Congrats and I hope for many more returns for y'all.


Zgirl