our first MFM

[RMRx2]

We had our first MFM expierence as a couple this weekend and a GREAT time was had by all!

Timing was right and I had the oppourtunity to set up something with either a female friend or a male friend.

I wanted a bit of an element of surprise for mrs rmrx2 and for this to be a treat. We discussed it at length and I did my best to prepare her for a surprise and I leaned it towards it being a FMF.

she was blindfolded in the begining and had ear plugs in. she was quite pleased with who and gender. she was made to feel center of attention and quite the princess for hours

it was hot, enjoyable, and all the fantasy and more.

and later, we made love for several more hours.

our original beliefs have proven to be correct. research, communication, this board and taking our time would give us the best chance for success with multiple partners.

our thanks to the board and all it's members for just being here.

we're looking forward to our journey, I can tell you that!
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rmrx2's,,,still panting

[xlr8tr&A]

Thats great that your first experience was everything and more than you hoped or thought it would. Thats what we're hoping to be able to pull off, and it's good to hear that it's successful. Continued good fortune to you...............

[sexypairca]

If all stories had such a happy ending...congrats on such a positive experience.

Annette

[Handyman69]

Glad the MFM get-to gather worked out great for you.......What an enhancement for your relationship together........We always make love to our partner afterwards........so much enjoyment.
John

[gsu22]

Congrats on the first time!


I know that first time can sometimes be filled with nerves and awkwardness but it sounds to me like everything went great for you two!

[RMRx2]

Originally posted by sexypairca
If all stories had such a happy ending,,,,,,,
Annette

OH NO! after Saturday, don't let the mrs think this is the ending to the story!

no no, definetly not the ending

to all, thank you for the kind words, I mean it when we say, this board is GREAT!

RMRX2'S

[RMRx2]

I was asked, how did we get to the point of actually dong this, who suggested it and for some advice, while replying, I thought I might as well put up parts of that reply for others; board members, and ,ah Julie, your board, get a lot of the credit,,so here goes;

background: fiance and I have been together three years. I married twice before for some time, first 20 yrs, second six. she was married once before and had been single some 11 years. both of us have been burned a time or two OR MORE. she and I had both had the kind of "fall into it" same room or soft swap situations earlier in our lives. and although those didn't go well, we both agreed it was hot, and lack of education, communication was key

I would say that a huge thing, for us anyway, was helping her feel secure in the relationship, and secure with her body and looks. I always love watching her, looking at her and having her masturbate for me. As she became comfortable about herself things moved along.

Yes, the videos, the multiple partner talk, being creative with sex play and playing out some different fantasy,,,,,,all of that which seems a big part of how others have come to this point.

But I would say, I did all that and more in past relationships,,,,,so that alone is not what I would credit success to.

Of course my lady IS SPECIAL and deserves a great deal of credit.

It was doing the research and study as well. Meeting folks.

I eased her into an introduction of the board and the subject. There was the immediate "WHAT, am I not good enough for you?" response. That lasted, with the roll of the eyes each time I mentioned it, for a cpl of months. In time, I was able to finally convince her that I was totally satisfied and enamered by her. It was simply a matter of expanding our lives, expierence, and sexuality, just as we had been doing. It was an extention of this. To live and expierence.

We both began to discuss the neat aspect of having friends that we could not only hang out with, have over for the barbecue and pool,,,but that if things went that way,,,,,we wouldn't have to wait to run them off to get naked and play. We could play together

We joined the board together. I copied her on everything going on on the board and we discussed it regularly. We met a cpl or two locally through the board, and they are great fun to hang with and I hope I can say, friends. As a close "meet up" came up,,,,I talked to her about it and we went. To date we have met many members from the board. The great thing is, all her (and my) questions are answered here in about a million ways. As we met these folks, she realized that they were fun, open minded, non-judgemental folks. they were the teacher, accountant, well you get my drift.

Meeting folks had been a big deal for her to. Guess she had all kind of notions from "horny dog's" pushy sleezbags" to outright criminals. A big part of making her comfortable with this was outlining the "procedure" communicate e-mail anonomously awhile, then exchange info some, then a meeting in a daytime neutral place for coffee, or a quick lunch,,,,,,,,someone here on the board would laugh out loud at the "quick lunch" comment.

and I never never communicate intentions, or anything without copying her or asking her feelings and opinion

we talk, we talk, we talk,,,we play out all of the rules, boundries we would have, discuss comfort levels etc. ah wonder where I learned how important that is!?

This has probably done more for her feeling comfortable than anything else, the board and meeting folks from here.

You meet folks from the board and get to know them and the funny thing is, not only are they NOT what many newbies would think of as sterotypical "swingers", but rather it becomes more difficult picturing these soccer moms/dad's or whatever being that sexual than thinking of a dog pile of nudity. that's swingers, normal folks,,,dare I say more normal,,,,,least open minded.

Of course we continued the fantasy and verbal play about multiple partners, often substituting folks we had met. She and I both got more comfortable.

We talked some more and we talk some more,,,,,,,and we have just gotten closer and closer. She loves this as much as I do,,,,the getting all the walls down and sticky subject matter out there. We are both confirming the benefit of at least exploring this subject to our relationship.

Things are adjusting now too. In our interest in another couple, we found that kissing was a big thing for them, they love it!. Hummmm , kissing?,,,,hadn't thought about THAT!? Surprisingly, I was the one who had a problem with kissing. go figure!?,,,,,,,,,,but this past weekend,,,there was a lot of kissing going on,,,,,I found myself encouraging it,,,,,,,,,,Ah, kissing? nope! NO PROBLEM! it was hot seeing her kiss him while I ate her out, WOW! and AH, making her cum while in a mouth clamp with him, ohboy!

so ya, I figure communication will continue and needs too.

Be patient, do the research, talk, set up the right meeting, and place, allow some time,,talk out boundries

if she feels safe, she may just agree and have a wonderful time. IT IS ALL ABOUT COMFORT LEVEL, if she agrees, take the time to find the right person/cpl

to your mrs', I would say you don't know what you'd like if you don't try it, life is too short

ps, the night before, we had some hot sex just over the anticipation,,,,,,I made her promise in the heat of things "this was to be her treat, she was to be selfish, and if she wasn't getting what she wanted, to TAKE IT" that gave her permission to have a ball,,,,,and she did!

best of luck to you and yours,
mr/mrs rmrx2

[Alura]

Hi, RMRx2!

Wow! What a happy experience! We're thrilled for you. Keep sharing- with each other, and the board!

We had a similar experience several years ago in which Mrs. Alura was the center of attention. On both our lists of "Top Ten Favorites" it's still way up there.

The man was the husband of our regular play couple. His wife was out of the country and fully aware so all three felt at ease and free to play. It was great!

Alura

[SexhoundDog]

Mr. RMRX2,
Sounds to me like you did everything EXACTLY right. The three important things that come to mind are
1) You made her feel comfortable about herself and her body
2) You reinforced her feelings about your commitment level to your relationship and that it came first
3) You made damn sure that the MFM experience was for her joy and pleasure

I'd be willing to bet you've got one happy convert (or is that pervert?) on your hands now. Many happy future rides with what sounds like a wonderful woman!

[RMRx2]

Only problem with the afterglow of our adventure, has been I have been and remain horney as hell. Not clingy,,,,,just really turned on. The problem; she hasn't quite had time to recooperate yet

I mean, it isn't exactly all my fault, she has been wanting me to buy and read her a series of books she read about a year before we met. They were most memorable. So for her birthday two weeks ago, I bought them and began reading the first to her whenever we get the chance,,,,,,,oh my gawd! these books are hot. For anyone who has knowledge of them, they will understand, and for those who don't,,,,,,I highly recommend buying "The Claiming of Beauty", "Beauty's Punishment", and "Beauty's Release" by Anne Rice and reading them to thier SO,,,,,,if there is a lull in your sex life,,,,it won't be there long!facelick

This reading inspired me to detail and write an erotic story of one of those special nights I arranged for her early in our relationship. I plan to give her this short story for Valentines Day. I am on page five, 12 pt typed, and only covered in detail about the first hour and a half of what was a eight hour treat for her. She can't wait to read it.

So you see, she has herself to blame for all of this nightly lovemaking. I bought the books and have been reading them to her, at her request!, They inspired me to write erotica about our own actual passion. Then the MFM,,,,,,,I mean come on,,,who wouldn't be in sexual hyperdrive! and then, of course, I find her so damn hot, Sorry princess,,,,,I may want to wear you out some more tonight! Viagra,,,,,,,who needs stinkin Viagra!

thanks again for all the well wishes
mr mrmx2

[BradAndJanet]

Originally posted by RMRx2
...For anyone who has knowledge of them, they will understand, and for those who don't,,,,,,I highly recommend buying "The Claiming of Beauty", "Beauty's Punishment", and "Beauty's Release" by Anne Rice ...

Oh yeah, we've got those...

Did you know that the book-on-tape is read by Elizabeth Montgomery ?

-B

[RMRx2]

Originally posted by BradAndJanet
Oh yeah, we've got those...

Did you know that the book-on-tape is read by Elizabeth Montgomery ?

-B

no didn't know that! Elizabeth Montgomery was one of my early fantasiesfacelick

however, don't know if I'd replace reading the books to mrs rmrx2 with books on tape,,,,,,Sunday morning while reading many chapters of the book to her I was treated to a long slow loving bj,,,,,,,,,,I think she was having fun seeing if I could focus on what I was reading or not,,,,,,to tell the truth,,,I did, loose my place a few times!!!! there definetly waqs more "inflection" in my voice!

rmrx2

[SilkyWmn]

Glad you had an awesome 1st experiance!

[flassh]

WoW! I'm impressed with your follow through and writing ability.


Will you make your writing available?

[JustAskJulie]

SOunds like you guys had the ideal experience there.

I hope that now that she's gotten that story maybe the two of you can work on one you can submit to the stories section here and we can all read it