What Was Your Introduction to Swinging/Lifestyle?

[Elusive BiFem]

clecouple just posted a comment that everybody has fantasies about 3-somes, etc., and I commented that that was not necessarily the case for me.

Got me to thinking about how we all arrived at this place in our thoughts, whether active swingers or just thinking about it? Singles or couples?

For me, as posted previously, it was what I call an "accidental" experience with really good friends and the result of too much Cold Duck one night. For years after - almost 20 - I thought I was just weird that I had enjoyed it. It wasn't until those 20 years had passed that I "discovered" the lifestyle, clubs, etc., and even then, it was mostly boredom...just looking around on the computer...curiosity about porn sites....that sort of thing. I'll admit tho', that it was a great relief knowing that at least, if I was weird, there were a bunch of weirdo's just like me!! Now, that is part of the reason I enjoy the board so much. Sorta like that old "I'm OK - You're OK" thing.

So I was wondering...how did ya'll get here?

- EBF

[Michcouple]

I dabbled with the swinging lifestyle several years ago while attending college and working in an adult video store. The video store was an upscaled porn palace. Hence, it attracted more couples and women. Almost every weekend I would get invites to join couples for some fun. After college I continued to dabble in swinging from time to time.

My girlfriend got started in the lifestyle just prior to meeting me. She was surfing the net and found herself in swingers chat room. That peeked her interest and started her down the path. From that she attened house parties and some swing clubs.

My girlfriend and I ended up meeting in a swingers chat room. After several weeks of chatting online we decide to meet. I am happy to say it was love at first site.

[naughtygirl27]

I worked at an adult movie store and was attracted to a co-worker (also a female). One day I worked up the nerve to ask her if she was bi. She told me she was. I asked her where she meets other bi-fems in our area because at that time I couldnt seem to meet any. She explained swinging to me, told me about clubs in the area. Now they were a full swing couple but said that I might beable to find a playmate at a club. I went home that night & told my hubby everything she said. We decided to try out a club to see if I could make a connection with any bi-females. As I am sure you all know finding a single bi female is like finding a needle in a haystack (atleast around here). So we discussed swinging for about 2 years (YEAH I know a looooong time). And here we are 3 yrs later having a great time meeting wonderful people.

naughtygirl27

[EternallySingle]

I was working for a singing telegram company and started dating one of the women who was a belly dancer. Over the course of six months she maneuvered me into accepting swinging as a pervertedly normal lifestyle...

Then she dumped me when I said I was joining the Army. The bitch. LOL Look where I am now.

[hmr]

It was more like an infatuation with 'Mr. Big' from "Sex in the City". Shortly after turning 40, something happened to me. It was like someone flipped a switch. While on vacation I had a dream about a (yes) 3some with myself, Mr. Big, and mr hmr. I had never had such thoughts before. It was scary and intriguing at the same time. I thought about how I felt, and actually got more excited. So I decided to tell mr hmr about my dream. He thought it was great, and encouraged me to talk more about any other fantasies I had. He told me of his fantasies. We searched the net for sites and clubs. We found a local club, and eventually worked my courage up to attend a party. To my surprise, they were normal people just like us.

Had one bad experience. Got over it, moved on...put my head back on my shoulders and forged ahead with happy experiences ever since. Just had to remember,I am in charge, I make the rules, ALWAYS!!

mrs hmr

[Rickyle]

Elusive,

Our intro was similar to yours but perhaps not quite so "accidental" even though wine was involved.
The other couple had been friends for a few years and we enjoyed their company a lot. Before any serious play, there had been some teasing (with words) and even one late night skinny dipping incident. (Warm night, secluded beach, full moon - Highly recommended) Then what we thought was going to be a one time experiment with partner swapping became quite regular.
Later they became involved with another couple that they had known for a while but with whom we were only slightly acquainted. Eventually, they suggested we all get together. We did.
Later we added another couple and so on. Until there were about six regular couples in out little group. Most of the time just two couple would get together. Sometimes more. I think there were only 3 times when we actually got all twelve of us together for a big party.
For us it never felt weird. Somehow, because we were all good friends on other levels it just felt very natural.

Keep up the good fun!

[bear_n_bunny]

EBF darlin',

Actually, I got into swinging by accident. Naturally, I had heard about it over the years, and had even been approached a time or two by couples looking to do a threesome (this was back in the BBS, pre-Internet days, and I was married at the time to someone who would have come unglued at the thought of swinging), but never seriously considered it. For one thing, based on the relatively few conversations I had had with swingers on the boards, it seemed to me that the main purpose of swinging was so a bunch of bi-married females could have their pussy and eat it, too. Didn't seem like there was much in it for me, so I pretty much dismissed the idea.

Several years went by, got divorced, along with assorted other life changes, and about three years ago was involved with a woman with whom I shared a lot of sexual fantasies and desires (in other words, we were both regular little pervs... . One day, bolt out of the blue, I got an email (and to this day I have no idea how they got my email address) with an invitation to a swingers party. My lady friend just happened to be walking by when I read this, and just as a joke I told her what I had received and would she like to attend a swingers party. She thought for a few seconds, and then said "Yes, why not. It might be fun". "Are you serious?" I asked in astonishment. "Sure, go ahead and contact them". After picking my jaw up from the floor, I did and we went.

Our first experience was a disaster, and I've related this story elsewhere and hence there's no need to repeat (short version; turned out this party was mostly Barbie and Ken clones, and we did NOT fit in with that crowd). However, we were still interested in pursuing this swinging thing further, and before long found some party groups around town that did not mind if you were not one of the "beautiful people", joined up with those, and overall had a very good time at it for the next year and a half.

We only did the couples thing once; while the woman (her name was Tina) and I got on famously (in fact, this couple joined the same groups we had soon thereafter, and this woman became my regular playmate at the parties; I played with several other women at these parties, to be sure, but Tina and I really meshed sexually, and more often than not, she and I would end up playing), her hubby and my girlfriend did not. All of our other playing was at the parties, which in some ways is easier than the couples thing.

This lasted until my girlfriend and I split up. Or rather, I broke up with her. Unfortunately she was very popular with the other members, and after the split she put on a really great act for eliciting sympathy from them, and I became the Dirty Dog Who Dumped Her. To make a long story short, I became persona non grata with these groups not long thereafter.

To this day, I still miss the party scene to an extent (I especially miss Tina... ), but thus is life.

About a year goes by, and I meet and eventually marry Bunny. I was upfront with her about my past activities, and these did not bother her. In fact, Bunny is almost as sexually adventurous as my previous swing partner, and after thinking about it for a while, she started signing us up on some of the swinger's boards. I assured her that she didn't have to do this if she was in the least bit unsure about it, but Bunny assured me that she wanted to try this out. We have gone the couples route this time, and the rest is, as they say, history...

-- Bear

[Alura]

After working together all day the first day we met, Mrs. Alura and I went out to dinner, sat and talked for four to five hours and spent the rest of the night making love.

The next evening, in the same restaurant, we met a couple who invited us back to their apartment. In a couple of hours we were all naked on their bed, giving each other massages. It was a lot of fun, felt really nice, but swinging was one of the few subjects we hadn't discussed the previous evening. Not knowing how the other felt about what could have happened, we dressed and left.

Driving back to her apartment, we did discuss it. After we'd talked about the difference between having sex and making love, I asked how she felt about the subject.

"It sounds like a helluva lot of fun to me!" she replied.

A couple of years later, back in the States, we were waiting to order in a pizza restaurant when we struck up a conversation with the couple who were in line in front of us. We had dinner with them that evening and several other times. We liked them and decided we'd like to play with them.

The next time we went out to eat together, I built up my courage and asked, "How do y'all feel about swinging?"

Less than an hour later, we were involved in a foursome, the first experience for both couples. That was about twenty years ago.

Mr. Alura

[shadesofgrey69]

My introduction started with 3-somes as a teen. I have always been open minded. My good Catholic mother always taught me to think for myself and consider all alternatives. It wasn't until I was 20 that she learned how far I had taken her advise. My real introduction to swinging as a lifestyle came when I was 19, newly married, and 1 of the couples that we danced with invited us to their on premise party house. Since that first party I haven't been able to give up the lifestyle.

[funnncpl]

I had a dream about screwing one of my husband's friends/business associates. I told hubby about it and he said "no you can't **** him but there is some internet sites I have seen about swinging". So I read up on it and we met our first couple a few week later. To this day our friend has no idea that he's the one who got us into this lifestyle-lol (he's one of our few friends who knows what we do).