We Finally Did It!

nwin_bifemcpl · 09-25-2003, 09:37 AM

:p My husband and I finally took the next step in this lifestyle, and did a FULL SWAP! We went into this with open minds, and things fell into place. I loved playing with the other mans wife first before we let the men come up! Never expected the whole scene at all that evening, and neither did the other couple as they are seasoned swingers, and we are newbies.

My husband just told me, and this concerns me.. that he really did not enjoy it as much as he thought he would. He said my pussy was tighter and such. He loves watching me with other women, but I'm afraid if I like being with another man too much, he will be angry. Any suggestions?

Suzie

Handyman69 · 09-25-2003, 10:39 AM

Communication is the key, you need to talk, talk and talk some more. Did he say why it wasn't as enjoyable as he had hoped? Maybe its a case of first time jitters. You guys really need to be open with each other. Go through all the post on things that concern you.

John

OhioCouple · 09-25-2003, 12:02 PM

I agree with Handyman69, Communication, is most definitely the key. We've had a couple of experiences that were less than satisfactory for one or the other of us and only through talking were we able to work out, what works best for us.

What you are experiencing is very common in the new stages. It has taken us a couple of years to finally get it right! But we could only acheive that goal by talking to each other about our feelings and sometimes, not all of it comes out right away. John could very well be right and it may just be nothing more than a case of "newbie jitters", or it could be that he felt a twinge of jealousy among a hundred other things. You'll never know unless ya'll sit down and "really" talk about it.

Does your husband read the board with you? If not, I would highly recommend that he does as there is a wealth of information to be found on here.

Good luck and let us know how things unfold.

nwin_bifemcpl · 09-25-2003, 02:56 PM

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Communication, is most definitely the key.

Yes, we have talked in great detail about all of it. He was not jealous at all, and enjoyed watching me with the other man. When we first started talking about swinging , he was all excited. As we met a few couples, we did the soft swap thing, and he liked that alot, especially watching me and the other women.

I just think he prefers me as far as sex is concerned, cause we have a very hot and passionate sex life by itself. I enjoy the excitement of a 4 some, it makes me very hot. I just wish Hubby would enjoy find his sweet spot and enjoy it as much as I do!

facelick Suzie

Brit_Pair · 09-26-2003, 11:23 AM

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Originally posted by nwin_bifemcpl
I just think he prefers me as far as sex is concerned, cause we have a very hot and passionate sex life by itself.

That's not such a bad thing, is it?

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Originally posted by nwin_bifemcpl
I enjoy the excitement of a 4 some, it makes me very hot. I just wish Hubby would enjoy find his sweet spot and enjoy it as much as I do!

Well, this was your first full swap, wasn't it? If you're communicating, and you're both happy to try the same thing again, maybe the variety another couple would provide will help find his sweet spot.

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09-25-2003, 09:37 AM	#1 (permalink)
nwin_bifemcpl Active Member Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 17 Location: Northern Indiana Status: Happily Married Couple	We Finally Did It! :p My husband and I finally took the next step in this lifestyle, and did a FULL SWAP! We went into this with open minds, and things fell into place. I loved playing with the other mans wife first before we let the men come up! Never expected the whole scene at all that evening, and neither did the other couple as they are seasoned swingers, and we are newbies. My husband just told me, and this concerns me.. that he really did not enjoy it as much as he thought he would. He said my pussy was tighter and such. He loves watching me with other women, but I'm afraid if I like being with another man too much, he will be angry. Any suggestions? Suzie

09-25-2003, 10:39 AM	#2 (permalink)
Handyman69 Here to Stay Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 553 Location: MI..God's country.so we thought. Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:handyman69	Communication is the key, you need to talk, talk and talk some more. Did he say why it wasn't as enjoyable as he had hoped? Maybe its a case of first time jitters. You guys really need to be open with each other. Go through all the post on things that concern you. John
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09-25-2003, 12:02 PM	#3 (permalink)
OhioCouple Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2001 Posts: 6,619 Location: Ohio Status: Married Female	I agree with Handyman69, Communication, is most definitely the key. We've had a couple of experiences that were less than satisfactory for one or the other of us and only through talking were we able to work out, what works best for us. What you are experiencing is very common in the new stages. It has taken us a couple of years to finally get it right! But we could only acheive that goal by talking to each other about our feelings and sometimes, not all of it comes out right away. John could very well be right and it may just be nothing more than a case of "newbie jitters", or it could be that he felt a twinge of jealousy among a hundred other things. You'll never know unless ya'll sit down and "really" talk about it. Does your husband read the board with you? If not, I would highly recommend that he does as there is a wealth of information to be found on here. Good luck and let us know how things unfold.
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