Your First Swing Experience

[OhioCouple]

We have had some discussions in the past about the 'jitters' that people get prior to their first swing experiences and some about how they felt after. I can't remember though one that was about how you felt during your first swing experience.

Were you nervous? Did you find yourself holding back from fully experiencing the enjoyment of sex? Did your mind wander to how your mate/partner was feeling, detracting you from just letting go? If you are a single were you concerned about how the other half of the party you were with was feeling? Or were you just as open as all get out and went for the gusto with nothing else on your mind except pleasure?

[bbcpl4cpl]

Our first time was with a couple that we knew socially and they aren't in the lifestyle but claim to have an open relationship. We were sharing a hotel room and decided to play truth or dare.

The little sexual dares were of course exciting and my heart was beating going "I can't believe this is actually happening". The thoughts going through my mind also were "who's gonna be the first to get to a real dare" and "what dare will end this game and make stuff happen?".


It wasn't until we had played for about two hours that the game became over when I went down on the wife and the husband was under me going down and my husband was giving lip service to her nipples. This is where it ended the game and became the fun. I was not so into this woman though and those who've read my posts will know why but I was still swept up in the excitement of the eveing.

Well, after playing like this for a short while (bearing in mind it's about 3am at this point) I am laying on their bed naked and she's on ours naked. Her husband was laying on her and she was all playing coy and saying that he wasn't getting any that night. My husband was standing between the beds and says to him "Well, go do J (me)." He's like "really?". So he did and there was no hesitation. It was also like natural after all that had transpired.
My husband then got in bed with her and started to play and I was fascinated. I was done quickly with the husband (wasn't anything to write home about) and was watching mine. I had a moment's jealousy as he whispered to her words that I couldn't hear and I knew that he was stroking her under the blankets as he was spooning her. I had the feeling that this wasn't real but that passed quickly too along with the jealousy. The sensation of watching my husband was very thrilling and I enjoyed listening to the sounds of the other woman enjoying it too. I half heartedly played with the husband again getting him hard enough to have another stab with him while I was getting off more on my husband making her scream. The jealousy was completely gone.

It just felt right though that we should be doing this. We talked about it for a couple days afterward and it suited us. We wanted to do it more and since then I have been here on this board.

I hope I have somewhat answered.

I think I may have rambled a bit....lol

Tigress xx

[OhioCouple]

For us, our first experience was very strained. I think the other couple felt it too, even though they had been swinging for several years.

Both my husband and myself were trying to focus on something that had been a dream, which was now becoming a reality, but we both had thoughts of what is he/she thinking? What if he/she does something different or better? Is the other couple pleasing each of us in ways that we hadn't experienced with each other? In addition, not know our how first partners relate sexually, we both had fears of are we doing this right? Should we being doing more or less? Blah, blah, blah. In other words our first experience was more of going throught the motions and not really enjoying it, but not disliking it either. AND....we had prepared ourselves for this through much research and help from this board!

Fortuantely, the other couple understood what we were going through and understood. Basically there was no penetration that evening as both men could not maintain an erection and we shared oral sex only. Subsequent meetings with them have been nothing like the first. We all have a great time with no problems whatsoever, and no holding back.

Are we the only ones this has happened to?

[bbcpl4cpl]

Lol, I guess I wasn't answering your questions in my post. I do understand what you are trying to say now.

what is he/she thinking? What if he/she does something different or better? Is the other couple pleasing each of us in ways that we hadn't experienced with each other?

Yes, that is exactly what has gone through my mind on both the experiences that we've had. I have no jealousy whatsoever but do wonder also whether my husband might just be thinking how her technique on certain oral activities are different and I am focusing on the fact that I don't get the same treatment from the husband as I do from him.
Our second experience, the man is a lot larger than my husband and it's by no means unpleasant, just different and I was wondering if the fact that I make more noises with the man was upsetting at all to my husband. He wasn't in the least after when we talked about it but had sort of been wondering what he could do to make me that much louder. Well to quote Jim Carrey, my husband is "LIKE A GLOVE!" to me and it's perfect as it is. Also I figure that looking at what occurs that is different and pleasant can only be good when we are alone and try things that we had never tried before.

And that's always fun too!

Tigress xx

[OhioCouple]

I forgot to mention in my posting that like Tigress, neither of us experienced any jealousy, we were just unsure of how the other was feeling at the time and it hindered us letting go.

Basically the reason for this thread is for those that are contemplating entering the lifestyle will have one to turn to, so that they canl see that their fears or their first experiences and feelings are not uncommon.

So all of ya'll who have had at least one experience, please let us know how you felt, and be honest.

[Misty&Todd]

We were very lucky with our first time. We met the couple online and talked through messanger and email first then we agreed to meet, they were experienced and knew this was our first time. We had drinks and played strip poker after clothes were gone the "dares" began we were very confortable. my fantacy was being with another woman and she knew that, we went off together she and i and were in the bedroom for an hour or so, it was so great i couldnt believe this was actually happening. then we swapped partners, and after he and i were done i went in to watch my husband with her and i felt no jelousy it was so erotic to see him with her and watch them pleasure eachother it felt so natural. and at the same time i was almost thinking "dear penthouse..." lol

[BradAndJanet]

I think we rushed into our first experience a little and it .wasn't exactly a good one. We learned some valuable lessons from it, though:

1) We'll never go into a first meeting with anyone we meet through an ad site with expectations that we will play. The internet makes it too easy to pretend to be something you're not. We think a face to face conversation is necessary for us to feel comfortable. I'm not saying that we absolutely, 100%, wouldn't perhaps end up in bed, if everything 'feels' exactly right, but next time we will set the expectation up front that we aren't going there until a second meeting. We didn't leave ourselves an 'out' the first time and did something we probably wouldn't have, if we'd had time to think more about it.

2) We're very reluctant to meet any single guy via an ad site again (although there are a few on this board who seem to have the 'right stuff'). Let's face it, there are a lot of horny guys with computers out there (online porn is a four billion dollar industry!) and the ratio of good ones to bad ones is likely pretty low. We don't have the time or patience to weed through all that. It's hard enough to find couples that way.

3) We'll make sure we have signals for 'Stop' and 'Go' the next time. J wasn't really enjoying herself that much, but short of being rude and direct, she had no way to gracefully let me know it was time to stop. Next time we'll have a plan.

4) Given 1 and 2 above, we're probably better off in the long run getting comfortable with the party/club scene. As others have pointed out, at least you have some confidence that everyone else is 'for real', plus you get a chance to meet many people face to face in a short amount of time. This trip to Windsor will hopefully provide us some confidence to start moving in that direction.

-B

[naughty A]

oh dear... hard to remember back that far...

our early experiences were mostly MFM ... and I think I remember feeling vaguely pressured into it...

then trying again several years later... and more concerned with my "performance" than ...MY experience.

Our first swing experience with a "couple" don't remember it all that well either but...we did remain very good friends and I always viewed them as our sort of mentor couple... and we had several experiences with them so ... must have been good. They were a much more experienced couple and very patient with us newbies.

We had been to a few other dance/clubs before we met them at at different dance/club, were invited to a no-pressure house party the following week at their house... where we had a really good MFM with him... had them over to our place a few weeks later for a swap. I do remember going down on her and I remember that our queen size bed was really small compared to our present king.