First Group Play

[Weezie]

Last weekend while at a social/pool party we became involved in a group sex situation. In over 2 years of being in the lifestyle, we have only gotten into anything more than a 4some twice. Those 2 incidents were not good. To avoid any further problems we swore off anything more than one couple at a time.
Everything went surprisingly well. Nobody got jealous and everyone left satisfied. This was actually 5 individuals....a 2+3...LOL! Maybe it went so well because we were with just the right people. I am ready to try more...but with the right people.
Later on, on Sunday evening, after a lot of the weekend-long partyers had gone home (including us), several of those "just right people" got together to play a game. I was very sorry we missed it, but was told there would be other times. My husband is somewhat reluctant to get into anything like this because of past experiences. He is worried couples we don't find sexually attractive will be involved and we will have to do things we don't want to do or else hurt their feelings in the game. I don't necessarily care for certain couples either, but there are some really good friends there. I want to do this for the social interaction mainly, not to get with a lot of people. What SHALL we do?!

[Roxysbayou]

We have been invited to a pool party in a few weeks and an implied orgie. I have never been to an orgie, so I am not sure what will take place exactly. It sounds like what you just experienced. I am also very nervous that I will be put into a situation where I will have to play with someone that I am not interested in. I can definately see your point. I wish I had more answers.

[Ashley]

Hmmmm.....this may sound strange but actually, in this kind of situation it is easier to turn down someone that you are not interested in playing with. The reason is, although all parties are present, people don't play as couples. So for example, if L is attracted to Cheryl, I don't have to be with Cheryl's partner Mike, I can go over and play with Tom(or Diane *g*), who I'm really attracted to. Meanwhile L , Mike, and Cheryl are not prevented from playing just because I'm not attracted to Mike. The few times we have done this have worked out really well.

We've never been to an Orgy.... yet, but what an interesting way to think about it. Having to 'take one' for the sake of the orgy as it were.

Ashley's post makes sence but I could see some ugly situations brew up from turning someone down, especially if it's not an overly large party maybe 6-8 people or so.

Of course if it's a huge party you'd think a little rejection would be easier to take.

[bbcpl4cpl]

Interesting, though I always thought that if I got into an orgy situation that the eroticism of it all would be more important to me that the looks of the people there. Unless there was someone that really did look dirty and disgusting I think I would be caught up in all the activity going on. Who knows though as I have never been in that situation. Hope to one day though!



Tigress xx

[fun_pairTX]

We are part of a group of 5 couples that manages to get together once a month or so. We have never had any problems at all with the group. I will add that everyone in the group was originally invited because they were all laid back non-pushy types. Everyone is friends and it usually doesn't take too long for the drawers to hit the floor once we all get together.

[MagicEnigma]

How would you define an orgy, vs. just having more than a few people having sex in the same room? Is there a magic line you cross, or rules that are different? I'm assuming its different from setup things like arranging for certain positions with more than one person, or being with two men or women, etc.

Our groups has a main room downstairs where it isn’t uncommon to have two or even three couples either doing it, or swapping partners in turn as they finish. But nothing with mass bodies crawling all over each other most of the time. Maybe two pleasuring one, or three pleasuring one. I’ve always called that group sex personally.

[Roxysbayou]

Originally posted by MagicEnigma
How would you define an orgy, vs. just having more than a few people having sex in the same room? Is there a magic line you cross, or rules that are different? I'm assuming its different from setup things like arranging for certain positions with more than one person, or being with two men or women, etc.

Good point, I am wondering that too. The group that invited us is an orgie group rather than swingers. They hold monthly parties for that purpose. I am not sure what to expect. I am kind of nervous about going. I don't think that I am that comfortable with playing with just anybody. I may go just to see where I fit in. I definatley need to think about it some more.

[Weezie]

OH, this wasn't what we considered an orgy. It was 5 individuals, not 5 couples. It was us and another couple and another female who's other half couldn't be there. We had previously been with the other female and we couldn't stand to leave her out. We later called him on her cellphone and had some fun with him...hehehehe! Everyone is still grinnin' so I guess we are all ok with it. I just wonder what will happen if this should come up again. I really love to be included in things friends do.

[OhioCouple]

I think perhaps my question would be, what constitutes an orgy? How many people does it take to make one? Or does multiple swapping need to occur, to consider it an orgy?

We had an incidence in which there were six of us (alone in the same room), but no one changed partners. Is a single swap between 3 couples with partners (other than there mate) considered an orgy since you are all in the same room?

[Roxysbayou]

The people putting on the party that we are invited to is expecting around 50 couples. They don't allow singles at all, but they will pair up single guys with single girls if the let them know ahead of time that they are interested.

[eagleindep]

Cumming from a rural area sure would be nice to find the right connection in a larger city.head bang