First Experience - Good or Bad?

Our first time was with friends we had known since h.s. We had boated, camped, played softball & volleyball and had been good friends for years. One evening after dancing and a few drinks, we ended up back at their house. Before the night was over we had full swing, and wife had her first passive bi experience. Wife and I had been married about 10 years and we had never discussed the idea.

Later in the evening they revealed that they had done it with other couples, most whom we knew. We had no idea. I guess we were kinda naive.

We live in a small community, and decided not to meet with that couple again, for fear of gossip. They were very understanding and never pushed the issue. We still see them from time to time, but no swinging.

Wife thought the other lady was too agressive, and told me I could have backed off. I reminded her that she never backed off, when she went down on her. We kinda laughed about it later.

[jsnps]

First off, hello to everyone. I'm not too new here (been reading posts since Feb.) I finally decided to reply My husband and I just had our first experience recently. It was good but not outstanding. After several months on a pay site and a few meetings that didn't pan out: we finally got up the nerve and asked a mutual friend. We felt that she was attracted to both of us, asked if she'd be interested and she said yes. The first time we got together we were all kind of nervous and were just mainly getting the hang of keeping everyone involved. Last weekend we met with her again for the second time and things were much more relaxed - no one felt left out. I must admit watching hubby with someone else for the first time was kind of strange (a mix of emotions: erotic but wierd). However, the second go 'round seemed much more natural. She and I really get along well, we have a lot in common and she is a wonderful lady so that bond really helped us talk to through the awkwardness...

[Misty&Todd]

My first time was great. My husband and I talked to the couple alot via email and exchanged pics, then agreed to meet. WE played strip poker and ended up swapping partners and ended up being my first experience with another woman(which was great i loved it). When we got home we still had enough energy to have a great lovemakeing session of our own.

[JustAskJulie]

Thought I would bump this up and see if we could get some of our newer members (or not so new but just haven't posted to this thread members) to tell us about their first times.

Our first experience was VERY good. But we didn't consider ourselves swingers yet (Mostly becuse the term never crossed our mind).

We had a soft MFM with a friend of ours and we found it incredibly wild & hot.

It was over a year before we tried it again and that time was pretty good to. Although not quite as fun because he was pretty hammered, but it wasn't his fault. He didn't know what was coming and neither did we till nights end.

But it was after that we decided to become "Active" and looked into the swinger world.

We did some experimenting in the first year (This past year) to find what turned us on the most and where we got the most fullfillment & enjoyment out of swinging. We found it to be what got us into the swinging in the first place. MFMs. facelick

[swingbie]

oh well, i would like to share mine. It was a bad one

I have a freind who is really good in swinging as he have participated in many swinging/groupies before and he gladly invited me to go for a swingers party last year. It was a married couple we meet on the chat room, he managed to chat wt them arranged a meeting . So i managed to rope in a single girl whose seeking fun and of course two of us. So in total five of us decided to meet up in a place. we travelled few hundred miles and end up missing the whole meeting due to some bad miscommunications and arrived a bit late. Bearing in mind tht was our first meeting , we decided to persuade them to atleast meet up for a drinks but they refused to turn up. It was a bad day for me and my friend as we spend half a day travelling just to meet em up. So bad communication played a factor here. This teached me and my friend a lesson to be carefull in communicating with the people who we are going to meet.


This year i haven't found any luck yet, but i hope i will find someone very soon .

[intuition897]

Our first time actually doing more than just surfing internet ads was not a consummated swinging event. Don't know if that counts, but I feel that that was our first attempt at swinging. We made several mistakes. The only mistake we didn't make, I think, was to come up with a keyword to each let the other know "We're bailing. Now."

Our first mistakes were to agree to meet a couple at their house(#1)...for dinner (#2)...with their kids at home (#3). We had no idea how to weed through ads like we do now, and we ended up meeting a couple without seeing pictures of both of them, and not figuring in how important the stability of their relationship is. Nowadays, we simply won't play with a couple whose relationship isn't up to the challenge; we feel it's unethical and irresponsible. But anyway, we had dinner and it just wasn't clicking physically. The other husband was very disrespectful towards his wife, and her attitude wasn't much better ("If he's going to fuck around on me the least he can do is bring it home so I can get some fun out of it."). The interest on their part was very one-sided, and it came across to us that he didn't give much thought to his wife's pleasure, enjoyment or comfort level in the situation, so long as he got what he was after. So we bailed.
We were all newbies once. We all make mistakes.

Our first actual experience was great, but we stuck to soft swing. They were a more experienced couple and were awesome about the whole thing. Our first full swap was also terrific! We had a blast.

[todesireu]

The first meeting with a couple was a disaster. In person they were drastically different from how they came across through phone calls after initial email contact. Went home disappointed.
The next couple was GREAT and introduced us to a great group of friends.

[mfmyeahbaby]

Our first exp was a soft swing situation with a male friend. This was hot. This led to an all out mfm which was the best. the both of learned to enjoy that situation (with that person) and still do to this day. That was 7 yrs ago. and he is still our friend.

[vimu74]

hi everybody. this is the first time we are actually posyting something on this site. our first experience was real mindblowing one reason could be that we played with a couple aho are actually very close friends. we have spent so much of time together that getting naughty was a matter of fact. we had discussed this thing between the four of us so many times that we never felt as first timers. we are looking forward to extend oue horizons. we promise to keep u guys posted.

[ALilOEverything]

Our first experience was awesome. We had met for dinner a couple weeks before and we really clicked then. They wanted to play that night but I promised myself I didn't want to play the first night. So we invited them over a couple weeks later to spend the night and have whatever happens happen. It started off slow because we were both newbie couples but when someone (the other female) decided to make a move things moved very quickly from there. There were a couple things that we wanted to be careful of next time but it wasn't anything to lose sleep over.

[Bob Flesh]

Our 1st was good, we meet some one from out of state for MMF. I was bi courious and we did play a bit. We did not know what boundries to set but he was polite and willing to stop if requested. He was not truthfull about his age and this was a slight turn off. Once play began it also became apparent that he was not as bi as he made him self out to be, but he did play; probably to keep up the apearence. I discovered that I did not take it well when he came, but have agreed to except it. She agreed that I could not come to terms watching her cuddle with some one else afterwards, and would no longer do this. In all if was a good experiance and have had 1 additional sense then. We just try to screen a little better now. I am no longer bi courious how ever, I am bi.

[Pepper & Drew]

Ours was just OK. Drew wasn't as attracted to Mrs. Playcouple as I was to Mr., but we weren't wise to (or discussed) the whole taking-one-for-the-team concept. Not that it was terrible, but having lots of great experiences to compare it to, the first experience certainly wasn't one for the record books.

Pepper

[angeel]

[I]Our first experience was great, not perfect. I joined AFF and read over the site for 1 month before showing it to my husband. After showing it to him, he was excited and suggested we register as couples. This action began the first night of many talks on Swinging. We researched all the words we could thing of to describe sex with other ppl other then spouse/partner. We spoke to ppl on AFF and joined a group. We did this from start to begining for 3 months. Then it was time for a greet n meet. Neither of us knew what was expected of us or if we could follow through. We have been with each other for 8yrs. We have excellent communication, honesty and trust between us is awesome. There was no pressure from the ppl in the group to participate in sexual activities. In fact upwards of 100 ppl were to meet socially at a bar for dancing, drinking and meeting each other. We got there and met 2 cpls right away that we had an instant spark with. Such as same interest in hobbies, music and profssions. It was great. We joked, danced, bought each other drinks and laughed together a lot. Then they dropped the bomb, " Do you want to go play back at the motel room?" I ignorantly asked, " Play what?" lol My husband and each of the 2 cpls burst out laughing. I felt like an idiot. But yet, that was our big, "Ice Breaker" None of us were drunk either. We had set our boundaries ahead of time and on the way to the motel, we went over them again. My husband reasured me that if I was uncomfortable, we would politely leave. As a teen, and pre-married adult, my husband had participated in group sex. I had participated in 3 separte three-somes wich included BI favors. But still this was the first for us as a couple. These 2 cpls had previously played together and the 1 cpl we had seen post in the group. We walked into the room and it was a spontanieous relaxing environment. The lady from the main cpl shed her clothes and announced she was going to shower. I surprised my self by doing a strip-tease and getting in the shower with her. With some coaxing from us we got the other one in the shower. We 3 became familiar with each others bodies. By the time we filed out and headed toward the bed , we were ready for each other. The 3 ofus engaged in play and 1 by 1 the guys got involved. This is were my pefect ends and the good comes in. Another man actually touching me? Could I handle this? I did not know. My hubby was having a ball and gave me a look that said, " if you want to bail, let's go" One of the guys did not perform. He just likes to play and it turned out so did my hubby! Go figure. I thought he wanted penetration. He is str8 and so were the other 2 guys. But only 1 was into the penetration and he wanted me. Part of me was ready to run!! I sat down in a chair and smoked a ciggerette to calm my nerves. ( that did not offend any one either as they also smoke ) He began to rub my feet and legs and talk to me. Eventually he had me melting in his hands. When he pulled me from the chair to the bed, i wanted to run again. He actually laid me next to his wife. She immediately took my hand and held it stroking the back of it with her finger tips. My husband was playing with her. That relaxed me again. 1) I knew he was there if I needed him and would stop anything that would hurt me, or if I said no to something. 2) The wife held my hand so lovingly, 3) The gentleman talked to me the whole way in such a loving and romantic way. It was as if we were all lovers, instead of here playing and having sex.My husband left to play with the other lady and her husband came to play with the one next to me. She continued to hold my hand and stoke me and my "new lover" continued to talk to me and they both held me close when I orgasmed. The whole experience was erotic, romantic, and intensifying! After wards every one held each other for a little snuggling and talking. When it was time to leave by mutal agreement, we each hugged, kissed and exchanged #'s and plans for a future play date

[Nova]

Our "first time" was when Mrs. Nova hooked up with a mutual friend's wife. I had apparently neglected to tell her that while my fantasy was for her to have sex with a woman, I would, in fact, like to be in the room at the time.
So I got to sit outside a locked bedroom door listening to them. Not fun.

But she made up for it a hundred times over later! facelick

Nova