First time

[hubnher]

We had an experience for the first time last night. It was with a couple we met on one of the board sites. They are very much like us in age and such, so we gave it a try. The night was great.. would I say earth shattering, no mostly because of the first time jitters and our inexperience. We started with a drink at a local bar, and then drove with the opposite spouse over to their house just to break the ice. My wife and I started getting "warmed up" on the couch and they in a nearby love seat. That progressed to removing my wife's top clothing so I could get to her gorgeous breasts, and then the male of the other couple came over and joined in. She liked that a bunch, and since the wife of the other couple was kinda left out I invited her over as well. Pretty soon he had his hand down my wife's pants, and soon, they went off to the bedroom while his wife and I fooled around a bit in the living room. I kinda wanted to go to the bedroom, not for fear of my wife's safety, but to see her go down on a man who wasn't her husband for the very first time. Well I missed that and after a few minutes of his wife going down on me, we went into the bedroom, too. He was going down on my wife and I moved up to her mouth and she sucked me a bit. Then, I went to his wife, and played with her for a bit. He was quite interested in being inside my wife, and he took her in a couple of not so comfortable positions. I was inside his wife for a bit, and his wife also had me in her mouth a bit.
My wife then took him in her mouth and then he did her from behind for a while. He then wanted to enter her from a sideways position, which was not so easy to get into.
To shorten this up, I was inside his wife and came on her ass, and he came in my wife, but he either didn't or didn't have much cum.
Then we sat and talked for a bit over a glass of wine and then we went home.

What WE took away from this....

Being with another couple is fun, but don't expect the first time to be spectacular.
We need to find a way to indicate better what we like and don't like without being pushy or difficult. My wife is a BBW and some of the positions he wanted to try were awkward for her.
Make sufficient time for "warm up" and flirting.
If making out to get started is part of your thing, make sure you have compatible kissers. We are not wet, sloppy kissers and they were. I liked it ok, but my wife was not into that, and it was a distraction to the beginning stages.


All in all.... much fun, but there are things we would do differently, and after all, everyone isn't the same.

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by hubnher

Make sufficient time for "warm up" and flirting.
If making out to get started is part of your thing, make sure you have compatible kissers. We are not wet, sloppy kissers and they were. I liked it ok, but my wife was not into that, and it was a distraction to the beginning stages.

Thank you for the well-written report summing up your first swing.

I think you've made some great observations. You seem to have a lot of common sense and a positive outlook. That will help you greatly in swinging.

The warm up and flirting is very important to me. I once decided against proceeding with a man because his kissing was a mood killer. So I agree with you on your decision to get plenty of warm-up time with those you are considering for play.

Keep coming back to let us know what you learn from future experiences. I'd like to read more from you in the future.

LM

[SW_PA_Couple]

Originally Posted by hubnher

. . . All in all.... much fun, but there are things we would do differently, and after all, everyone isn't the same.

Makes me feel good reading about it. May you have many, many more happy encounters.

~Michael

[SecretAsianMan]

Yay... glad to hear y'all had a good time & it all worked out in the end.

Looking forward to hearing more of your adventures in the Lifestyle

[LFM2]

Originally Posted by hubnher

What WE took away from this....

Being with another couple is fun, but don't expect the first time to be spectacular.
We need to find a way to indicate better what we like and don't like without being pushy or difficult. My wife is a BBW and some of the positions he wanted to try were awkward for her.
Make sufficient time for "warm up" and flirting.
If making out to get started is part of your thing, make sure you have compatible kissers. We are not wet, sloppy kissers and they were. I liked it ok, but my wife was not into that, and it was a distraction to the beginning stages.


All in all.... much fun, but there are things we would do differently, and after all, everyone isn't the same.

I'm pleased that you guys picked up some pointers for other newbies. Talk to your swing partner if things just don't seem right.

YAY for you two!! You did well!! Looking forward to hearing more about your adventures.

PS... it probably felt like you were being mauled by a dog with the wet sloppy kisses. Kinda gross to me too!!

[two4youinswva]

Congratulations on your first experience, and a great job on your after-play analysis!

[JustAskJulie]

Congrats on your first time!

Some people think it's all about showing how flexible they are and showing off the number of positions they know. It's not. If someone tries to make you switch positions to something you aren't comfortable with the best/easiest thing to do is to just tell them you are perfectly happy in the position you are in. Another option is to take control (as a woman that means putting him on the bottom usually) and if you aren't used to that it may seem awkward at first.

[hubnher]

Don't misunderstand, we had a great time with this couple despite the newbie-ness. I'm hoping to give this a second try, and modify some stuff. It's all about trying new things and making the adjustments and such. I mean, we couldn't expect the other couple to know us exactly, just in a general sense. Shoot if we don't say what we like and don't like, how are they to know? My wife is extremely sensitive to hurting someone's feelings, so she didn't say much. And as newbies, maybe we didn't know either. I've asked her to try and be more forward about what she likes and doesn't. That would have changed the night some, I believe. I also needed to "let it go" and not hover over my wife wondering if she was getting along ok. We were all on one bed, and maybe a bit of space like a hotel with two beds or something would have been in order. That would afford us (actually me, I'm the visual one) the opportunity to play with the other spouse and watch, and join in as well when the situation changes.

What's nice is that I think this will turn into a "friends with benefits" thing because we like them as just regular folks ,too.

[metroman]

Originally Posted by hubnher

We had an experience for the first time last night. It was with a couple we met on one of the board sites. They are very much like us in age and such, so we gave it a try. The night was great.. would I say earth shattering, no mostly because of the first time jitters and our inexperience. We started with a drink at a local bar, and then drove with the opposite spouse over to their house just to break the ice. My wife and I started getting "warmed up" on the couch and they in a nearby love seat. That progressed to removing my wife's top clothing so I could get to her gorgeous breasts, and then the male of the other couple came over and joined in. She liked that a bunch, and since the wife of the other couple was kinda left out I invited her over as well. Pretty soon he had his hand down my wife's pants, and soon, they went off to the bedroom while his wife and I fooled around a bit in the living room. I kinda wanted to go to the bedroom, not for fear of my wife's safety, but to see her go down on a man who wasn't her husband for the very first time. Well I missed that and after a few minutes of his wife going down on me, we went into the bedroom, too. He was going down on my wife and I moved up to her mouth and she sucked me a bit. Then, I went to his wife, and played with her for a bit. He was quite interested in being inside my wife, and he took her in a couple of not so comfortable positions. I was inside his wife for a bit, and his wife also had me in her mouth a bit.
My wife then took him in her mouth and then he did her from behind for a while. He then wanted to enter her from a sideways position, which was not so easy to get into.
To shorten this up, I was inside his wife and came on her ass, and he came in my wife, but he either didn't or didn't have much cum.
Then we sat and talked for a bit over a glass of wine and then we went home.

What WE took away from this....

Being with another couple is fun, but don't expect the first time to be spectacular.
We need to find a way to indicate better what we like and don't like without being pushy or difficult. My wife is a BBW and some of the positions he wanted to try were awkward for her.
Make sufficient time for "warm up" and flirting.
If making out to get started is part of your thing, make sure you have compatible kissers. We are not wet, sloppy kissers and they were. I liked it ok, but my wife was not into that, and it was a distraction to the beginning stages.


All in all.... much fun, but there are things we would do differently, and after all, everyone isn't the same.

Well, doesn't sound like a bad expereince; just a 1st expereince. Now you have insight on what you would do the same and what you would do different. Communication is a huge part of the LS!!! I didn't hear any talk of guidelines between the couples or is there a "No" list - which may have been a big help for all concerned.
Also, how much communication occurred before the meeting. No one likes endless emails but you can state your preferences and ask they be respected as you will theirs.
Hang in there - it's a journey !