Solo guy first time

[jhitch82]

im 28 single male from MA and ive always been interested in the swinger lifestyle. every girl im with is never into the swinging. so i figured id venture out on my own and check out a party. i work at nights so i had to go to a afternoon party.

going into the party i was open minded not expecting sex and just soaking up the experience. i already concluded before going that the night parties would be busier and the day would be slow. sure enough i was right. about 7 single guys (mostly creepy and older), 2 single girls (older overweight regulars) and one indian couple (im not racist but i dont like indians)..

i was youngest there, and there were few other 1st timers. immediately the girls tried to get me to venture off with them but i wouldnt. i talked to both of them and both really cool im just not into fat girls. but they took care of the shy 1st timers. the indian couples were just weird. the wife went to the guy running the party to have him ask me if i would fuck her. and i declined. not just cuz she was indian she was disgusting. they only spoke to each other in their foreign language. they were retarded no respect. they would open the blinds, open closed doors to enter the room and watch. im new but i know this is 2 negatives. at the end of the party the moderator who was babysitting the the whole time brought them into room and closed door. after they left the guy said they starting getting sexual together and the husband went to grab the moderator. complete idiots no respect and shouldnt of belonged there

i could have been sexual but i chose not to. but i was real social and friendly. the regulars females and the moderators suggested certain parties i should go to... after everyone left i stayed around for a bit and me and the guy running it chatted away about the swinger lifestyle and other things....

my intent eventually is to attend a few more parties. i really wanna bring a girl with me. not only do u not feel like a creep going solo, u dont need to pay the extra $ for being solo.lol....

so overall even tho the party sucked and was boring for the most part, i connected with the real swingers who are active all the time and i became really comfortable being there. definitely something i will do again.

[bbarnsworth]

Originally Posted by jhitch82

(im not racist but i dont like indians)

[Alura]

Originally Posted by jhitch82

(im not racist but i dont like indians)..

"There are only two things I hate ... racial prejudice and those goddamned European immigrants!"

—Standing Bear of the Oglala


Alura

[DiscreetDesires]

Originally Posted by jhitch82

going into the party i was open minded

Open Minded: Willing to consider new and different ideas or opinions

Just making sure we are on the same page here.

Creepy older guys, Overweight older girls and Indians that you don't like. That to me does not sound open minded. There is nothing wrong with having a preference, but your post is very negative about all of the people who were in attendance, giving the impression that you think you are better than them in some way.
You say that you were being social and friendly, but from the description of these people, it does not sound like you cared for any of them at all in any regards.

The average swinger age range (from my own observations) is about 35-50 yrs old. Granted, there are other age ranges out there, but from what I have seen in our area (Tx is a big swinger state and there are 6 swinger clubs alone that are within a 30 minute drive), that is the average age of most swingers.
You will most likely be the youngest at any party or social event unless it is specifically targeted towards your age group.

The next time you are invited to attend a party, take a few moments to view the guest list to see if there is a sexual attraction to any of the persons attending. It's much better to do that, than to come off as someone who thinks of himself higher than the other guests.

Again, nothing wrong with preferences, but your description leads me to believe that there was way more to it than that.
Hope you have a better time the next time you attend a party or event.

[strathmore]

Hey jhitch:
I also play solo. Been 6 years now. Never have been to a party; single guys just aren't welcome usually, so I don't go.
Have found good success contacting, or being contacted by, couples and ladies on various boards, then chatting and exchanging info and pics by email to see if there is a connection before meeting. It has worked often enough and have hooked up with some very pleasant, interesting and sexual people in various situations that I could not have anticipated at the outset.
Oh yes, and I have played with various racial backgrounds, body types, education levels, social styles, etc. that I likely wouldn't have pursued. And they were all fun in some way.
Good luck in your quest and go with the flow.

[doctoroctagon]

Big deal, he's not "attracted" to Indians... That makes him an evil racist? It doesn't me he hates Indian people, he just doesn't want to bone them.

[bbarnsworth]

Originally Posted by doctoroctagon

Big deal, he's not "attracted" to Indians... That makes him an evil racist? It doesn't me he hates Indian people, he just doesn't want to bone them.

Everybody has their own likes and dislikes. That's not the point here. The point is that he juxtaposes not being racist with not liking Indians. Yet, "Indians" come in all shapes, sizes, skin tones, backgrounds, etc. Every possible permutation just about. Regardless of what "Indians" he is referring to, I'd bet that half the time he fails at identifying "Indians", yet he's not attracted to them because they're "Indians". It's blatantly racist.