First dance experience

[sweet_couple21]

Hi all,

M half here.

Last night my partner and I attended our first swing dance ever. We were (and still are) super new to swinging and wanted to test the water. We thought we would share our experience with the board for any other new swingers who aren't sure what to expect at a dance and what they will go through from the beginning of the night to the night's end.

We're not going to discuss every little detail, just our experiences up to and during the dance. Every club has their own rules and what's allowed and what's not. It's our understanding that many clubs will set rules but allow them to be bent throughout the night as long as nothing gets out of hand and no one is putting the club at a potential risk, legal risk or otherwise.

When we decided to explore swinging further we came onto the Internet for more information. We don't have any couple friends that are swingers (to our knowledge anyway) and we are apprehensive about discussing it with people who may not understand - duh. We met Naughty A, from this board and who also lives in our city, on the 'net and she told us about a club in our town that she and her husband attend once a month and she pointed us to both this board and the club's web site.

We did a lot of reading on this site, as well as others, and we decided to go ahead and make reservations for the upcoming dance. We figured we could always cancel the reservation if we couldn't make it, or decided to back out, and it would be a "test the water" experience to see what everything was about and to meet other couples etc.

The reservation process was extremely simple. There's a form on the club's web page or, if that doesn't work for whatever reason, you can send them an e-mail or phone a toll free number. We chose to send them an e-mail and that same day we received a reply with directions to the hall.

The night of the dance we were pretty nervous and shy to say the least. We dressed up all nice and called a cab to get to the club (since neither of us drive). Upon arriving there were a few other people arriving at the same time. We went in through the first set of doors and were greeted by a very polite man in casual clothes at a small table with various pieces of paper and a money box who asked for our names and checked the reservations list. He also collected the cover fee and had us sign a form claiming that we read and understood the rules and that we were not police officers or reporters. After that we were given membership cards. The entire entry process took no more than a couple of minutes.

Inside the club there were several group tables, a snack bar and a table with toys on display. We had a look at the snack bar and the toys and then proceeded to sit down. We sat for about 10 minutes as guests continued to arrive. Both of us were pretty nervous and inhibited about getting up to introduce ourselves but knowing that nothing would ever happen if we just sat there we worked up the courage, got up and proceeded over to the "crowd".

We approached one group but they were in heavy conversation and we didn't want to interrupt them so we went on to another. The second group immediately greeted us with smiles and introductions. We explained that we were new and were slightly relieved to learn that another of the couples in that group was also new, though it was their 2nd dance (yay! We’re not the only newbies!).

We stood in an evolving social circle and spoke with these people for quite some time. There were about 4-5 other couples that we were talking to over the course of this time. Things seemed to go quite well and they invited us to sit at their table when we were ready to sit down.

We must have either been quite obviously newbies, or did an excellent job of describing ourselves, because when Naughty A arrived she was able to pick us out of the crowd. She came over and tapped me on my shoulder and we briefly exchanged formalities with her and her husband.

As people started to dance we went and sat down with our new group. Our nervousness and shyness were pretty much worn off at that point until the actual dancing came. As a typical male I’m pretty inhibited when it comes to “shakin’ ‘dat ass on tha dance floor.” One lady in the group signaled to my partner and another female in the group to get up and dance with her and they did. I sat there with the guys for a few moments completely nervous about dancing (it’s a guy thing I guess) and then again I had that thought that “nothing will happen just sitting here” and I said what the hell and got up and joined the girls on the dance floor.

Almost immediately about 4 girls were starting a “dirty dancing train”. The woman that had dragged my partner and the other girl on the floor told me to join the train. I did and women started piling on at either end. There were probably about 5-10 women on either side of me and I was right in the middle. At this point it became pretty obvious to me that I had made the right decision to get up and dance and from that point on I didn’t find myself shy or inhibited at all. In fact, at times when my partner was tired I was the one trying to drag her onto the dance floor!

The rest of the night was extremely pleasant and went by too fast. We met a lot of great people who we look forward to seeing again at the next dance and getting to know better. When we told our new friends we were leaving the men shook my hand and hugged my partner and the women threw their arms around both of us and kissed us on the cheeks.

All in all it was an extremely pleasant and no pressure environment. A great place to meet people and take it as fast or as slow as you want. We’ll definitely be going to the next dance.. and the dance after that.. and the dance after that.

- SweetCouple – M half

[Elusive BiFem]

M half, it sounds like ya'll really had a great time and met some terrific people. I can only imagine how nervous one might be attending their first event, but you pulled it off like champs. Next time it will be even more fun, I'm certain, with your new friends.

I know we will all enjoy hearing about your next excursion...and the next...and the next after that. Have fun. - EBF

[Roxysbayou]

Sounds like you had a great time! Thanks for sharing your experience with us, I am sure that it will help many through their first experience as well.

[teknurse]

Being new myself, I'm not familiar w/ a 'Swing Dance'. Is it akin to an 'off premises' club? In other words, do swingers go there to meet other potential playmates afterwards? Don't mind me, I'm the guy that asks the silly embarrassing questions everyone else is thinking, but never gets out when there's a crowd.

Allen & Tami

[sweet_couple21]

Originally posted by teknurse
Being new myself, I'm not familiar w/ a 'Swing Dance'. Is it akin to an 'off premises' club? In other words, do swingers go there to meet other potential playmates afterwards? Don't mind me, I'm the guy that asks the silly embarrassing questions everyone else is thinking, but never gets out when there's a crowd.

Allen & Tami

That's exactly what it is. An off premise club. Designed to meet other couples, make friends and have a good time.

- SweetCouple

[BradAndJanet]

Sounds great, SweetCouple, I'm glad you had such a good time. For the record, was this The Swing Set Club? That's where we're all heading on June 7th and it's good to hear another positive review.

-B

[sweet_couple21]

Originally posted by BradAndJanet
Sounds great, SweetCouple, I'm glad you had such a good time. For the record, was this The Swing Set Club? That's where we're all heading on June 7th and it's good to hear another positive review.

-B

Yup it was The Swing Set. We were surprised that most of the people we met there were actually from MI (including at least one of the owner couples). They said no clubs in MI compare to it

- SweetCouple