Mfm

[Michael813]

Hi,
My gf and I have been talking about inviting a male to massage her and possibly have sex with her. Neither one of us have done this before. We are not in the lifestyle, but the idea of a threesome is very exciting for both of us. I would like to invite a female, but at this point my gf feels comfortable with a male, although she fantasizes about women a lot. I answered an ad in the newspaper for a male (with my gf's blessing) that massages women and couples for a fee. I'm not interested in a male giving me a sensual massage but want to watch my gf. He came over and started to massage her ( she was laying on her stomach with no clothes on). Watching a stranger massage the woman I love while she was lying naked was really exciting. I started masturbating. He started massaging her back and worked his way down to her ass and legs. I could tell my gf was very turned on ( I touched her pussy and it was soaked, plus her clit was very swollen and she has an extremely large clit). He then started massaging her pussy and ass. I made sure I had a better view for this, there was a very large amount of pre-cum from my dick. He then turned her on her back and licked her tits and pussy. While this was happening she sucked my dick. I asked her if she wanted to fuck him, she hesitated, so I said no (I don't think we're ready for that - yet). I then had an orgasm all over her face and she did as well while he massaged her clit. we spoke afterwards, and agreed that the experience was better than expected and wanted to do it again. I would love to watch her fuck a stranger next time, but have to see if it's right. ANy comments would be appreciated. Thank you.

[mopek]

Sounded like fun!

For your first time I think you guys did well. Most of us don't have it that easy for our first times. LOL

You both communicated what you wanted beforehand, then both agreed to do it..... but you weren't sure about penetration...that should have been clear beforehand but at least you picked up on her hesitation and acted on it. Good job!

Next time just be accurate on what boundries you guys are willing to go up to.

mopek

[Brit_Pair]

Yep, we'd echo Mopek's comments. You decided to act on your fantasy, found a way you were both comfortable with to explore it, and (from what you've said) had an extremely arousing and satisfying experience, so well done to you both.

Extra kudos to you for picking up on your girlfriend's hesitancy so promptly and acting appropriately. Just make certain you are sure where both of your boundaries are before your next adventure.

[mopek]

BTW ...

How much did it cost?

Also, I am surprised that your gf decided on someone that is paid rather than placing an ad. You could easily get many replies for your situation. I'm not judging you just curious as to your choice.

mopek

[Roxysbayou]

Wow! What a sensual experience! It sounds like the night went perfect for the two of you. I agree... keep the lines of communication open, take baby steps, do only what you are both comfortable with. Thanks for sharing that great moment with us, I wish you the best in the future.

[Michael813]

Mopek, thanks for your responses. The cost was $100 for about 1 .5 hours. He said he typically doesn't put a time limit on it unless it gets very lengthy. For us, it was over when we climaxed, fortunately it was aound the same time. I was holding back until she was close (can't always do this). One of my concerns was I would climax very early on and sit there until she was finished. I wasn't sure how I would feel about that, since this was our first time. We went this route for a couple of reasons, when we were finished, I wanted to be done. I didn't want to strike up a friendship with the person or have any obligations afterwards. Maybe that will change in the future. Plus we liked the idea of a "semi-professional" massage, it added a lot of foreplay which we both like. If we put an ad in, I'm not sure what the situtation would of been like. My rationale is if we're paying we have more control over the situation. I think the more comfortable we get we'll be willing to try different things. I very much would like to watch my gf with a woman, but I'll wait until she's ready. I don't think we would be interested in pure swapping since I would want to be directly involved and I think she feels the same way.

[OhioCouple]

I'll echo everyone else's sentiments here. You both did a great job as first time swingers. It was erotic for both of you, you followed each other's signals....I can't say enough how I am pleased by your first time experiece.

I am curious though, did you do a lot of research before you took this first step? By that I mean reading boards like this or something. Or did it just come naturally? Either way you are both to be commended.

I have seen quite a few ads in which there are single males that have no desire to have penetrational or oral sex that offer massages. Their fantasies/desires revolve around watching others be stimulated by just his presence.

After this success story....We just may have to check that out!

Lori

[Michael813]

Ohiocouple,
Regarding research, I've been monitoring these boards for some time to help get more information and understand other peoples' experiences, it helped a lot. My gf and I are both divorced and have been together for about a year and a half. We are both very sexual people, in fact I've never met anyone like her. This experience, in our previous relationships would never of happened. My gf and I very comfortable with one another. I was never this comfortable with my ex. With my ex I never thought of experiences like this. My gf and I talked about our fantasies and she told me she always wanted to be with 2 guys only if one was someone she loved. Ever since she mentioned it ( a while ago) I became more and more excited by the prospect. At first I didn't know If I could do it due to jealousy. But it worked out better than both of us expected.

[mopek]

Thanks for answering Michael.

Tell us of the next adventure you guys have

[BradAndJanet]

I'm glad to hear that your first time went well and that you're thinking of continuing. I'd say that you did a lot of things right: discussing what you wanted first, setting limits and staying in control of the situation. I'm also happy to hear that you found the board helpful. Welcome! We hope to hear more from you in the future.

-B

[Buck]

Well, since what happened with you and your girlfriend has been my fantasy with my wife for a long time, maybe there is hope when I thought there is none. She says she wouldn't do a MFM threesome but maybe I could get her a massage for her birthday or something. Who knows? After a massage she might be more open to the suggestion. Thanks for the idea you lucky devil.

[Michael813]

Hi,
Wanted to give you an update. We recently posted an ad in one of the adult websites stating a couple looking for a MFM threesome, and possibly MFF at some point in the future. As you can imagine we received a lot of messages. We sorted through them and found one that really seemed to fit what we were looking for. I told the guy the encounter would last about an hour, no strings attached, no friendship and after we climax he would leave. THis guy was very much into watching and helping people get excited and climax. He came to our house and it went very well. He massaged my gf while she was naked and really got her aroused. He took his underwear off and my gf was stroking my penis with one hand and his with the other. AFter this type of foreplay for a while, my gf got on top of me and we fucked. He put his finger all the way in her ass as my dick was in her pussy. She had an incredible orgasm. I then climaxed, the guy asked if I just came when I told I did , he came all over her ass and back. It was great. My gf and I spoke afterwards and agreed it was very exciting, however, this is not something she wanted to do all the time since it could reduce the excitement level. Is this common, reduce frequency to heighten excitment, any comments?

[mopek]

Hi Michael,
Well you guys are on a roll ! 2 for 2 ! LOL ...

It is good to hear that your experiences are going very well and that you are satisfied by them. It sounds like you have that balance between your own sex lives and adding a little spice.

I can imagine that you received alot of responses to your ad. Tell me, did you meet the guy beforehand or did you just tell him to come over? When he got to your place did you guys just jump right in? Did he just massage her body or did he perform oral and finger her etc... I know my fiance would need alot more time to know him beforehand.

As for frequency, I can imagine that if you gusy did it every week it may become stale but it is different for everyone as there are alot of factors involved. If you guys have sex 3 times/day then a MMF once/week may be fine. LOL .... Just go with how you feel .... You can also fantasize about different scenarios locations etc... instead of an actual encounter to build up the tension and then schedule one when you guys really want it??

mopek

[Michael813]

Mopek,
Thanks for your comments. When he came over we pretty much jumped right in. That's fine with me, but I think my gf's first choice would of been to chat a little bit first. The whole thing is a little awkward at first (common?), so I thought it best to jump right in. Maybe next time we'll try talking first or meeting for a drink. As far as frequency, we have sex almost every day, we might wait a couple of weeks to try again so the anticipation can build up. I told this guy no oral on her, but he used his fingers everywhere.
Regards,

[mopek]

Yeah it is common for it to be awkward but since you want it to be an in-out thing w/o friendship I guess it is the only way. Maybe the next time you can invite the same person and that way you will all be more comfortable.

mopek